Correct. And the Bible already tells us how this happens. But Calvinists simply do not want to believe what the Bible says because they have already been brainwashed into believing something else. So here are the "forces" outside yourself that bring you to saving faith:
1. THE POWER OF THE GOSPEL
Calvinists truly do not believe in the power of the Gospel, because they have been wrongly taught that saving faith is a "gift" from God and reserved only for the elect. But the apostles taught that the Gospel itself -- the Word of God -- is both the power of God unto salvation, and the seed of the New Birth.
So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Rom 10:17)
For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. (Rom 1:16)
Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever. For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass. The grass withereth, and the flower thereof falleth away: But the word of the Lord endureth for ever. And this is the word which by the gospel is preached unto you. (1 Pet 1:23-25).
Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures. (James 1:18)
2. THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT
Nevertheless I tell you the truth; It is expedient for you that I go away: for if I go not away, the Comforter [The Holy Spirit] will not come unto you; but if I depart, I will send him unto you. And when he is come, he will reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment: Of sin, because they believe not on me; Of righteousness, because I go to my Father, and ye see me no more; Of judgment, because the prince of this world is judged. (John 16:7-11)