" For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. " Genesis 2:24 ....that means having sex.
"But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. "
Corinthians 7:9 that means having sex.
No...that doesn't mean sex.
Marriage is primarily for intimacy with another person and for the two to be united in purpose so much so that talking to one is like talking to the other. United you are more than the sum of your parts.
This means sharing EVERYTHING with the other person....goals, dreams, fears, wants, dislikes, loves....everything. Of course you share your body with the other person...with passion and relish.
Quit buying into this worldly message about things being sex driven. It's the tail wagging the dog.
My wife is a different person than I am...there are differences between us but none that matter. She has her strengths and I have mine. But hers are mine and mine are hers. We use them effectively in coordination to absolutely dominate any situation we feel the need to....especially when it comes time for worshipping God in some fashion.