Anger and Forgiveness

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mori

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For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.​

I have a great deal of anger that 364 days per year I'm able to control so that it's not noticeable. Every once in a while, though, the conditions are right and I rage.

I've been asked not to return to a particular restaurant, for instance, after a heated conversation with my bigoted father-in-law. I've asked my brother-in-law never to show his face around my house again, after I caught him going through our pills. Etc., etc.

I don't think I'm wrong in laying down the law. Our new family needs to have clear boundaries - we're not a hotel, pharmacy, or shrink to whom her parents can dump their racial hatred. But after enough of these incidents... I despise these people. If I were drunk and in the same room, I'd probably hurt them.

How do I forgive and let go of the anger? I know that I'm commanded to, but I don't know how. Sometimes, it feels like anger is its own reward.
 
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Muskokaman

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mori said:
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
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I have a great deal of anger that 364 days per year I'm able to control so that it's not noticeable. Every once in a while, though, the conditions are right and I rage.

I've been asked not to return to a particular restaurant, for instance, after a heated conversation with my bigoted father-in-law. I've asked my brother-in-law never to show his face around my house again, after I caught him going through our pills. Etc., etc.

I don't think I'm wrong in laying down the law. Our new family needs to have clear boundaries - we're not a hotel, pharmacy, or shrink to whom her parents can dump their racial hatred. But after enough of these incidents... I despise these people. If I were drunk and in the same room, I'd probably hurt them.

How do I forgive and let go of the anger? I know that I'm commanded to, but I don't know how. Sometimes, it feels like anger is its own reward.
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It's hard I know and the best advice I could give is just keep forgiving them sometimes people are thick and don't learn too well but for your own sake and that of your wife it is better not to let the seeds of dissension grow because you will not be happy with the harvest you reap!
I am all for a man protecting his house and belongings from those who would steal them but if you harbour resentment towards anyone for any length of time it is more destructive to yourself than it is to those whom you were mad with in the first place (you become like them)
We as Christians must forgive again and again because that is what the teachings of Jesus tell us to do!
How many times?............As many as it takes till the people you are disgruntled with get the picture.
It's the old kill em with kindness routine if I may paraphrase.

Selah
 
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Ellen48

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Hi I am Ellen and have just joined the sight. I have a major problem with forgiveness and Anger and it also involves a member of family. However I have not ever said anything because I am wrong no matter what. I just keep it all in hence my Anger now. Does this make me the wrong person or a bad person
 
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AnandaHya

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pray and ask God and listen to what He tells you to do. that is the only answer I know that truly works every time.

Here are the scriptures that come to mind upon reading your words:

Romans 12:19-21

New King James Version (NKJV)

19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,”[a] says the Lord. 20 Therefore



“ If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
If he is thirsty, give him a drink;
For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”[b]


21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

give mercy for God was merciful to YOU when you needed forgiveness. Do you remember the things you did that hurt God? do you remember what GOD has forgiven you of? Can you do less out of love for GOD? not love for your in-laws but for you love of GOD and what HE has done for you. I'll keep you and your new family in my prayers and please be patient it might take a while before you see how your love for them changes their attitude. Don't let them take advantage of you and enable them to be moochers but at the same time find ways to love them and help them help themselves and remind them you are not doing it for their sakes but because of your love for God. Give them more then just material short term things. tell them about Jesus and share a meal. time and love is more valuable then material things.
 
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