I don't believe you'll learn anything if I just directly answer your questions. You'll just keep leading me deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole if I dignify your false doctrine with friendly curiousity. I see you're accustomed to people not answering your questions, no surprise there.
The reason this keeps happening to you is probably because of the reasons I just mentioned above. Stumbling upon the truth by yourself, believing it was your idea, is about the only way I can think of to circumnavigate your pride, because you won't accept the truth when it is presented to you by other people.
Giving you the tools to experience that lightbulb moment of realization of a fundamental truth of God's word is the best gift I can give you.
I find it humorous when you say I will not accept the truth when presented. Well let's see - I and 31% of the Protestant churches.
According to a recent poll of Christian religion, Source -(The Barna Group, November 10, 2010) - Protestant churches fall into two major categories:
31% - Classify themselves as 5 point Grace Churches. (Calvinist). The growth of which has remained flat as compared to 2000.
32% - Classify themselves as Wesleyan/Arminian. Growth of which is down 5% since 2000.
Further research shows - that among Non-Denominational churches, those who consider themselves Reformed or 5 point Grace, are even higher.
So the conclusion is - Protestant Churches who follow Calvin's basic teachings are tied with those who follow after Arminius' teachings. I personally do not consider myself a Calvinist because John Calvin did not originate this Doctrine. It is the Doctrine of Scripture. You might find the following of interest.
Augustine believed “it all depends on God’s sovereign will to choose some and pass over others.”
When we arrive at the great theologian and high-water mark of medieval scholasticism, Thomas Aquinas (1225–1274), we might think we’ve left Augustine’s thought behind. Certainly, Thomas was not as passionate about prioritizing divine grace as Augustine was. That might have been due to his temperament or to the genre in which he wrote. In fact, however, he followed Augustine in the main on predestination. “Predestination,” he said, is an “ordering of some persons towards eternal salvation, existing in the divine mind.” He noted that God, “by predestinating from eternity, so decreed our salvation, that it should be achieved through Jesus Christ. For predestination covers not only that which is to be accomplished in time, but also the mode and order in which it is to be accomplished in time.”
J.B. Mozley is surely correct:
“Between the Augustinian and Thomist doctrine of predestination, and that of Calvin, I can see no substantial difference.”
So why do they call it Calvinism? He did not originate it. What about Martin Luther?