With all due respect, your own psychoanalysis is undoubtedly as faulty as mine is, and I am a counselor/therapist working on his doctorate. I wouldn't dream of making any sweeping statements about how I got to be who I am. Suffice to say, as a Christian also, I am at odds with the APA on the mental health status of homosexuality.
There is no way for anyone to decisively say "I didn't have a choice" when he/she is unable to pick apart, without professional help, the multitude of factors that went into your choosing to adopt this lifestyle. Like many things in life, the behaviors we exhibit are the result not just of genetics -- there is no "pizza gene" for example, nor is there an "abject depression when I think of my mother" gene -- but life experience, parenting, socialization, and personality also provide input into the things we do.
For that matter, everything except breathing, drinking, and eating is a choice -- and even those can be selected against, if one really wants to do so. I wouldn't endorse the consequences, however.[/QUOTE
Exactly, It is a clear fact that in most cases the only actions we perform which are not choices are dreams and bodily functions,however if you are a Tibetan monk even these actions come into question. But I think this guy is speaking of feelings rather than outright homosexuality in which case he needs reprogramming just like a computer which starts by not feeding the tendency.He needs to see all of the positive aspects of heterosexuality along with the spiritual dangers of choosing a homosexual lifestyle.if one thinks homo, straight or anything else for long enough they will become it,but most importantly this guy needs Jesus Christ as his Savior.