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That post at that time was in God's perfect plans too.
Guess who I am? I am the second (but better, IMNSHO lol) wife of a man who could have written that post. Not the exact story but alarmingly and heartbreakingly close.
He was married for over a decade. And, yes, the same reason for the divorce, except the first time she cheated, God didn't release hubby from that marriage. The second time, God did.
So, you're talking to one possible future, kind of. You're talking to the second (and much better... see what I mean by thinking I'm better? Can't really be worse, so my standard was low) wife of a happily married man. We don't know all the whys. It's not really our place to know the whys either. It's 37 years since his divorce and almost 35 years since we've been married, so, obviously God did have more plans. He has more plans for you.
Yes, more shoes dropped. We haven't had the easiest of lives. He broke his back, although not to the level of paralyzing him, but it killed his career choice -- HVAC mechanic. Finances plummeted, dire necessity made us take on the job of group home parent, but quickly found out we couldn't stomach that. (One of those times I mentioned when it became clear quickly that wasn't necessarily a good choice, but without that job we would have had no home, nothing to eat, nor a car, plus it gave him the months needed for his back to heal, so it too was God at work.) Finance troubles caused housing problems. (Had an apartment, but no heat on Christmas week because the landlords were idiots and a cooperation on the other end of the state, who, apparently, had Christmas week off.) When we finally got back on our feet, all those finances problems caused IRS problems, but we contacted them to let them know, not the other way around. Finally got back to middle-class only to have a simple gall bladder problem turn into a life long disability for me, followed closely behind the HVC caused him to become disabled for the rest of his life too. So, really, really, life is what happens to you while you wait for the other shoe to fall.
You're right smack in the middle of the kind of loss that kills people. (Bereavement for the death of family members and divorce are the two leading causes of deep depression, that sometimes causes broken hearts -- literally. Heart attacks.) So, this isn't a flu you're dealing with -- something you'll get over in a few days. It's something you go through trusting God to comfort you. There's a job right there with God. Let him comfort you.
But that doesn't mean sit back and do nothing either. Go about your life trusting God is doing something in you. Trust him back. And in doing so, you do see what he wants. It might be a bad decision. The marriage was one. The first marriage was one for hubby too, BUT because of that two kids came from that marriage, and I grew up to be old enough to meet him (I'm 9 years younger than him. He was 18 the first time he married. Think he'd have waited for me to grow up before marrying? Ew. lol) That I know is all through God. And it's something you have no idea how it relates to your situation until you see God working it out for you too.
You might find some answers to all that some day, but not today. Today God's will is to do what you think he has set for you to do. If that's not it, he'll let you know. And, even in the finding out that's not it, he's still working it out.
If you ever want to see God's work in a stubborn, wrong-headed man, read the book of Jonah. Jonah, for better or worse, was chosen by God and God got Jonah to do what he planned all along, despite Jonah's plans. Cool thing about God. He always gets his way, and one of his ways was that disaster of a marriage that's on it's final legs for you.
Guess who I am? I am the second (but better, IMNSHO lol) wife of a man who could have written that post. Not the exact story but alarmingly and heartbreakingly close.
He was married for over a decade. And, yes, the same reason for the divorce, except the first time she cheated, God didn't release hubby from that marriage. The second time, God did.
So, you're talking to one possible future, kind of. You're talking to the second (and much better... see what I mean by thinking I'm better? Can't really be worse, so my standard was low) wife of a happily married man. We don't know all the whys. It's not really our place to know the whys either. It's 37 years since his divorce and almost 35 years since we've been married, so, obviously God did have more plans. He has more plans for you.
Yes, more shoes dropped. We haven't had the easiest of lives. He broke his back, although not to the level of paralyzing him, but it killed his career choice -- HVAC mechanic. Finances plummeted, dire necessity made us take on the job of group home parent, but quickly found out we couldn't stomach that. (One of those times I mentioned when it became clear quickly that wasn't necessarily a good choice, but without that job we would have had no home, nothing to eat, nor a car, plus it gave him the months needed for his back to heal, so it too was God at work.) Finance troubles caused housing problems. (Had an apartment, but no heat on Christmas week because the landlords were idiots and a cooperation on the other end of the state, who, apparently, had Christmas week off.) When we finally got back on our feet, all those finances problems caused IRS problems, but we contacted them to let them know, not the other way around. Finally got back to middle-class only to have a simple gall bladder problem turn into a life long disability for me, followed closely behind the HVC caused him to become disabled for the rest of his life too. So, really, really, life is what happens to you while you wait for the other shoe to fall.
You're right smack in the middle of the kind of loss that kills people. (Bereavement for the death of family members and divorce are the two leading causes of deep depression, that sometimes causes broken hearts -- literally. Heart attacks.) So, this isn't a flu you're dealing with -- something you'll get over in a few days. It's something you go through trusting God to comfort you. There's a job right there with God. Let him comfort you.
But that doesn't mean sit back and do nothing either. Go about your life trusting God is doing something in you. Trust him back. And in doing so, you do see what he wants. It might be a bad decision. The marriage was one. The first marriage was one for hubby too, BUT because of that two kids came from that marriage, and I grew up to be old enough to meet him (I'm 9 years younger than him. He was 18 the first time he married. Think he'd have waited for me to grow up before marrying? Ew. lol) That I know is all through God. And it's something you have no idea how it relates to your situation until you see God working it out for you too.
You might find some answers to all that some day, but not today. Today God's will is to do what you think he has set for you to do. If that's not it, he'll let you know. And, even in the finding out that's not it, he's still working it out.
If you ever want to see God's work in a stubborn, wrong-headed man, read the book of Jonah. Jonah, for better or worse, was chosen by God and God got Jonah to do what he planned all along, despite Jonah's plans. Cool thing about God. He always gets his way, and one of his ways was that disaster of a marriage that's on it's final legs for you.