I got bucked off a horse really bad....

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Matt37777

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I have this big challenge I'm trying to cope with. It's kinda strange. See I like riding horses. I was really good at it too. I had built up a bit of a reputation for being one of the best local riders. And I did that for a long time. But funny thing is I never fell off all that bad. Not at all. Then I got bucked off, it was totally out of left field. I think the horse got startled by something. And I broke my leg really bad. And I was in sever pain for weeks. It was awful.

So what happened was the leg was to the point where it was almost better. Like I could walk on it again, but just barely. The Dr said that it wouldn't hurt to get back on the saddle, and just have someone walk with me on the horse. Or maybe a very lite trail ride. And I was super excited to do this, I couldn't wait.

The day came I got some friends to help me up on the horse. And this horse was ultra tame, I had nothing to fear at all. But I could only sit on it for a few moments and then I got really scared and I said to my friends "help me down". And they did. I've done this perhaps like 3-5 times now. I get up on the horse, I sit on it, but then I get scared. Like I'm grabbing the raigns really tight. I'm all nervous. I'm worried that at any moment the horse is gonna get spooked and buck me off really bad. And with me leg not 100%, I just am paranoid. It's stupid really, I don't get it.

The funny thing is I think it's a phychological thing. I think I got hurt so bad that my gutt instinct starts telling me "GET OFF THE HORSE!!!!". And I panic. I've never ever had this happen. So I'm trying to read my gutt instinct. And I'm having a lot of trouble, because part of me wonders if it's not my gutt, but maybe God telling me not to ride again. And so it's really really confusing. I don't know if it's just me, and if it's something I need to try and overcome. Or if it's God, trying to tell me, "try something else". Or what is it???

So someone told me it's just a sports phychology thing. You got bucked off, hurt real bad, and now part of you wants to get on again, but then it's like your survival mechanisms kick in and they go crazy and are like "no no what are you doing don't you dare do this!!!"

It's just so annoying. I don't know what to do. I've prayed about it. And I haven't gotten any clear answers. I almost get a sense like the answer is "go ahead ride again, but if you get on you take the risks." I could be wrong, I don't know. I'm more confused than anything.

People keep telling me this is completely normal and you have to just get back on and work your way threw the fear. But it's so tricky. Some people say just find a less risky hobby. But I'm not good at any other thing. I'm really good at this. (or at least I was!). I know I could be good again if I could get over this fear.

I can't believe this has even happened as I don't typically get scared of anything very easy. I think it's just some deep part of my mind or body that gets nervous when I'm on the horse now, because it's scared of the risk of sever pain again.

Like what do I do? take up some boring hobby and leave my passion? Leave what I'm good at? Or try and fight through this fear? It's so annoying and frustrating.

So for now I'll just go look at the horses, watch others ride, and sometimes work with the horses (but I"m on the ground). It's kinda sad. i feel like I"m wasting my time as this has gone on now for like a full year. I'm fine to ride again (as long as I don't get bucked off really bad, but it will always be that way) I just find it hard to get back on.

What do I do????
 
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i hate to be trite, but iirc there's this old saw..

" get back on the horse "

i don't think it has anything to do with ridding yourself completely of fear -- some fear is healthy, it breeds caution - i don't think anyone should drive a car who isn't at least a little terrified, for example.

wrong forum section, btw. i wish you well facing your fear.
 
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The breaking point is when your will to ride outweighs your fear of doing so
 
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You're afraid of getting hurt again. That's normal, and good, to a point, it helps keep you safe, makes you learn. But the catch-22 part is that if you let the fear dominate your ride you're going to get hurt again. Of course, there's always the chance you're going to get hurt in any kind of activity like this. I always got back onto my horses, but I also now have a screwed up foot and a screwed up knee and a screwed up back and a screwed up neck and a screwed up shoulder and a screwed up elbow. I just let go of my last horse, I'm running out of parts to screw up :)

If you're going to go for it you have to go for it. Fear will induce hesitation, hesitation failure, and failure more pain. Not that pain won't come, but would you rather suffer it in battle or in fear?
 
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You're afraid because your leg isn't back to 100% yet, and if you re-break it, it's going to hurt worse and it may never get back to 100%. Do the smart thing. Stay on the ground for six months or however long you think it takes to get your leg completely healed. God put fear into us for our own good. When the time is right, you won't be afraid anymore.
 
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my husband also was riding a horse and it spooked and he fell off and the horse roles on him and crushed his pelvis, He got baCK ON, he says, get over it, pray about overcoming power, Its your life, otherwise fear is your life if you dont, it will mark you for the rest of your life, you ride for the Lord. I have a guitar I wont pick up, Its a fear too, but If I cant play for the Lord, I dont want to play, because the worlds music has no sustainance, I bet when you ride a horse you feel the glory of God in the nature you are in, dont ever lose that, fight through the confusion
 
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Matt37777

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yes all good points...thank you. The situation has two parts. I made my living riding. So to not ride means no income. So that's one problem. And as time passes I'm feeling the squeeze more and more. So there's that. The other thing is overcoming the fear. But I realize that everyday you get up in the morning there's risks to life. I mean you can die in the beechers or die on the field. It doesn't matter. You might as well die on the feild doing what you love right. (or not die ha ha)

so I wrote out a list of pro's and con's. I realize now the pro's far outweight the cons. Plus I factored in I'm gonna be riding a lot different. I'm not gonna take the risks I use to. So any risks should be well mitigated. But again it's hard. I guess that's like the hero in the movie or novel. As the story goes he is forced to try and confront and overcome his fears right ha ha. Ya I guess I'm gonna have to try. I think I can do this. I'm feeling a bit more confident anyway. I don't know, the alternatives are very very bleek! I should be okay. Just got to slowly get back on and take it slow.
 
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I love to long board and snow board... Recently I believe I broke my ankle when I fell on my long board... (I speed board which I can reach speeds up to 50mph) And when I fell it really didn't hurt as bad as I expected... I mean not being able to walk on my foot for quite a while and any time I walk for long periods of time it feels like my bone is bleeding: that in itself hurt really bad...

But I haven't been longboarding as much as I used to because I am afraid it can be worse... I am afraid next time I can get hit by a car or what not... But what is funny is the more you start to do it... The less the fear grabs you... When I go religiously down that hill, and do it nearly every day... The fears seem to be conquered by the mundain-ness that it becomes...

Its like driving a car, the first time you get on a busy freeway with randomly merging traffic you panic your heart out... But the more you drive the more used to it you get... The fear is still there but you get used to it...

I understand my life experience is not as drastic as yours or painful or even in-tuned to my financial status... But I believe the same principal will apply...
 
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Sorry to hear about your injury. I think you have a pretty good idea about what going on inside you. I think not only are you dealing with fear which can absolutely paralyze you but confidence. Make yourself some goals. Take 12 months and break it down month to month.
Jan: Work with horse. Walk them around
Feb: Saddle horse every week and get on
Mar: Saddle horse and get on and stay on for 5 min
April Saddle horse get on, walk to next stall


I mean these are real baby steps and maybe you can go faster as your ready, just some retraining that all.
 
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Matt37777 said:
I have this big challenge I'm trying to cope with. It's kinda strange. See I like riding horses. I was really good at it too. I had built up a bit of a reputation for being one of the best local riders. And I did that for a long time. But funny thing is I never fell off all that bad. Not at all. Then I got bucked off, it was totally out of left field. I think the horse got startled by something. And I broke my leg really bad. And I was in sever pain for weeks. It was awful.

So what happened was the leg was to the point where it was almost better. Like I could walk on it again, but just barely. The Dr said that it wouldn't hurt to get back on the saddle, and just have someone walk with me on the horse. Or maybe a very lite trail ride. And I was super excited to do this, I couldn't wait.

The day came I got some friends to help me up on the horse. And this horse was ultra tame, I had nothing to fear at all. But I could only sit on it for a few moments and then I got really scared and I said to my friends "help me down". And they did. I've done this perhaps like 3-5 times now. I get up on the horse, I sit on it, but then I get scared. Like I'm grabbing the raigns really tight. I'm all nervous. I'm worried that at any moment the horse is gonna get spooked and buck me off really bad. And with me leg not 100%, I just am paranoid. It's stupid really, I don't get it.

The funny thing is I think it's a phychological thing. I think I got hurt so bad that my gutt instinct starts telling me "GET OFF THE HORSE!!!!". And I panic. I've never ever had this happen. So I'm trying to read my gutt instinct. And I'm having a lot of trouble, because part of me wonders if it's not my gutt, but maybe God telling me not to ride again. And so it's really really confusing. I don't know if it's just me, and if it's something I need to try and overcome. Or if it's God, trying to tell me, "try something else". Or what is it???

So someone told me it's just a sports phychology thing. You got bucked off, hurt real bad, and now part of you wants to get on again, but then it's like your survival mechanisms kick in and they go crazy and are like "no no what are you doing don't you dare do this!!!"

It's just so annoying. I don't know what to do. I've prayed about it. And I haven't gotten any clear answers. I almost get a sense like the answer is "go ahead ride again, but if you get on you take the risks." I could be wrong, I don't know. I'm more confused than anything.

People keep telling me this is completely normal and you have to just get back on and work your way threw the fear. But it's so tricky. Some people say just find a less risky hobby. But I'm not good at any other thing. I'm really good at this. (or at least I was!). I know I could be good again if I could get over this fear.

I can't believe this has even happened as I don't typically get scared of anything very easy. I think it's just some deep part of my mind or body that gets nervous when I'm on the horse now, because it's scared of the risk of sever pain again.

Like what do I do? take up some boring hobby and leave my passion? Leave what I'm good at? Or try and fight through this fear? It's so annoying and frustrating.

So for now I'll just go look at the horses, watch others ride, and sometimes work with the horses (but I"m on the ground). It's kinda sad. i feel like I"m wasting my time as this has gone on now for like a full year. I'm fine to ride again (as long as I don't get bucked off really bad, but it will always be that way) I just find it hard to get back on.

What do I do????
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sometimes youve got to pray when you are back on the saddle, not in the rocking chair worrying about it,
 
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