I just don't get what the big deal is here.
I am not sure there is a big deal.
There are some on the "spirit" side who feel "right" living is emphasised too much, because it is there background, and they have rejected it, but they are just hurt individuals who do not know quite what they are rejecting.
The reformed side see the extreme IHop, Bethel groups who seem to never talk about transformation just super spiritual highs, so they want to emphasis boundaries and respect.
If Jesus is not Lord to any of us, He cannot be saviour also, but some dislike the emotional memory it must bring back.
I have read of two people who have testified of their background in very strict churches out of which they came after have a very real experience of the Spirit and how it changed their perspective. I think one big trouble is translating their own failure to understand the meaning of the words they had in their past, to what it means now, does not mean all the people they knew did not know the Lord.
But after seeing how easily people miss-understand or get upset after a few words, I can see how this can progress.
I have been on both sides, and know people in all these different groups, and they can be just as on fire or crazy.
One guy was very spirit led, wanted whole community involvement in his families life and left the church because he did not get enough attention.
Another is brethren, and would not talk about the gifts in this way, but equally is part of the actual brethren movement.
The first guy probably is nuts, while the second is just very conservative. I am sure the Lords grace is enough for both, but you would never get them to agree with each other, so I do not try.