My Christian boyfriend is slowly falling into the world

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Hello! I am 18, from Jamaica but currently in the uk, my boyfriend is almost 17 and is in America, we have been Ldr for almost 2 years, his parents separated a few months ago and there were some ups and downs, he was doing good with the Lord, but he has gotten depressed, and is often in a bad mood, don't want to talk about God or do bible study, his friends are very very bad influence but he is kind of a push over so he doesn't want to move away from them out of fear of them treating him bad, the only time he wants to talk about God is after church when he feels the holy spirit then after a few hours it's gone and he is in a bad tired mood, today I found out one of those friends took him up to the mountain and he is mediating to open his chakura, I am very scared for him I love him and want to marry him one day, but as a man of God he hardly shows him being a man of God. He has a lot of energy for games, and things that doesn't have to do with God but things that have to do with God he is lazy and uninterested, he says it takes too much "spiritual energy " please help me I am very worried.
 
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Hello! I am 18, from Jamaica but currently in the uk, my boyfriend is almost 17 and is in America, we have been Ldr for almost 2 years, his parents separated a few months ago and there were some ups and downs, he was doing good with the Lord, but he has gotten depressed, and is often in a bad mood, don't want to talk about God or do bible study, his friends are very very bad influence but he is kind of a push over so he doesn't want to move away from them out of fear of them treating him bad, the only time he wants to talk about God is after church when he feels the holy spirit then after a few hours it's gone and he is in a bad tired mood, today I found out one of those friends took him up to the mountain and he is mediating to open his chakura, I am very scared for him I love him and want to marry him one day, but as a man of God he hardly shows him being a man of God. He has a lot of energy for games, and things that doesn't have to do with God but things that have to do with God he is lazy and uninterested, he says it takes too much "spiritual energy " please help me I am very worried.
I also want to add that he is a very loving boyfriend, he is great at teaching the bible and when he isn't being in a bad mood and seeking God daily he is a very different person and very passionate, I just wish he was stronger against his flesh on certain things. He takes things to heart and gives up easily anything that is too challenging he gets super stressed and becomes stubborn. I hope he becomes more stronger because I see his potential
 

Nehemiah6

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Hello and Welcome. Kindly ask the moderators to move this to the Family Forum.
 
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Can you give an example?

Also, you mention his bad mood several times. What makes it so bad?
Well he is more easily annoyed, he doesn't want to really do anything he is just more grumpy
 

Subhumanoidal

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I also want to add that he is a very loving boyfriend, he is great at teaching the bible and when he isn't being in a bad mood and seeking God daily he is a very different person and very passionate, I just wish he was stronger against his flesh on certain things. He takes things to heart and gives up easily anything that is too challenging he gets super stressed and becomes stubborn. I hope he becomes more stronger because I see his potential
His home life is falling apart it sounds like. Most of what you're describing has nothing to do with "falling into the world", it has to do with grief and depression. And those are not worldly things. In those areas he needs support and love and encouragement, not to be labeled as going into the world.
I have suffered depression for 30+ years and those moods you describe sound like what I deal with, within myself, daily.
Perhaps show some compassion and understanding to him Now and stop worrying about his future potential.
If you view him through a lease of who he could be one day or who you hope he'll be, then you do not love him. You love the idea of who you think he will one day be. But it's unlikely he'll ever obtain Your goals. Nor should he be expected to.
If he's pushing you away perhaps look at yourself and ask why's he's moving away from you at a crisis, rather then towards you.

A woman talking about a man's "potential" leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Ugh.

In regards to Chakra and such, yes, that is different and an actual valid concern, spiritually speaking. Perhaps work on mending your own relationship first, then you can, from a healthier place, steer him away (or attempt to) from the direction he's heading now spiritually.

But 18-25 people tend to change a lot. And few relationships that start that early last beyond those years. So expect a lot more challenges in the years ahead.
 

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With you being in the UK and him in america there is not much you can do, but pray. (The good news is that prayer is powerful, but God isn't going to force him) and try to talk to him. You may have to post pone the idea of marrying him and possibly prepare yourself to just be his friend. Long distance relationships are hard, and rarely work, adding to this some other tough issues such as age, and the present home situation, you are in a rough spot.
Maybe you can advise him to get Christian grief counseling due to his parents splitting up.
 
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With you being in the UK and him in america there is not much you can do, but pray. (The good news is that prayer is powerful, but God isn't going to force him) and try to talk to him. You may have to post pone the idea of marrying him and possibly prepare yourself to just be his friend. Long distance relationships are hard, and rarely work, adding to this some other tough issues such as age, and the present home situation, you are in a rough spot.
Maybe you can advise him to get Christian grief counseling due to his parents splitting up.
thank you.
 

Runningman

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Hello! I am 18, from Jamaica but currently in the uk, my boyfriend is almost 17 and is in America, we have been Ldr for almost 2 years, his parents separated a few months ago and there were some ups and downs, he was doing good with the Lord, but he has gotten depressed, and is often in a bad mood, don't want to talk about God or do bible study, his friends are very very bad influence but he is kind of a push over so he doesn't want to move away from them out of fear of them treating him bad, the only time he wants to talk about God is after church when he feels the holy spirit then after a few hours it's gone and he is in a bad tired mood, today I found out one of those friends took him up to the mountain and he is mediating to open his chakura, I am very scared for him I love him and want to marry him one day, but as a man of God he hardly shows him being a man of God. He has a lot of energy for games, and things that doesn't have to do with God but things that have to do with God he is lazy and uninterested, he says it takes too much "spiritual energy " please help me I am very worried.
You can try to appeal to his Bible knowledge and his love for God.

Does he believe in the Bible as the sole authority on our spiritual activities? If yes then he either doesn't know chakra opening is not in the Bible or misunderstood some text.

With the Bible, depending on what one is looking for while they read it, it's possible to see whatever one wants to see.

So, without sounding too confrontational, you might be able to get him to realize the right answer by just getting him thinking a little more. Sometimes we see things clearer in time.

Take care.
 
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You can try to appeal to his Bible knowledge and his love for God.

Does he believe in the Bible as the sole authority on our spiritual activities? If yes then he either doesn't know chakra opening is not in the Bible or misunderstood some text.

With the Bible, depending on what one is looking for while they read it, it's possible to see whatever one wants to see.

So, without sounding too confrontational, you might be able to get him to realize the right answer by just getting him thinking a little more. Sometimes we see things clearer in time.

Take care.
Yes he does believe that, sometimes he sometimes struggles with his flesh when it comes to certain things, I showed him what the bible said and we had a conversation on it, things went okay.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Hello! I am 18, from Jamaica but currently in the uk, my boyfriend is almost 17 and is in America, we have been Ldr for almost 2 years, his parents separated a few months ago and there were some ups and downs, he was doing good with the Lord, but he has gotten depressed, and is often in a bad mood, don't want to talk about God or do bible study, his friends are very very bad influence but he is kind of a push over so he doesn't want to move away from them out of fear of them treating him bad, the only time he wants to talk about God is after church when he feels the holy spirit then after a few hours it's gone and he is in a bad tired mood, today I found out one of those friends took him up to the mountain and he is mediating to open his chakura, I am very scared for him I love him and want to marry him one day, but as a man of God he hardly shows him being a man of God. He has a lot of energy for games, and things that doesn't have to do with God but things that have to do with God he is lazy and uninterested, he says it takes too much "spiritual energy " please help me I am very worried.
I agree it sounds like he may be struggling with something at his job, home, etc. Depression can zap energy and speaking from personal experience gaming can be a more productive way out than drugs or alcohol. It can be his way of trying to escape the inner turmoil. In many ways what books or movies do to some people. I say more productive but not healthy if it becomes the crutch causing him to depend on it rather than God. God is everywhere but the game is stationary. So while in different location having to deal with the triggers of depression, he may feel trapped and this mind altering cycle is like your mind on steroids in the thoughts of failure, sadness, grief, etc. This will physically tire you out. And this isn't even hitting on spiritual depression which in my studied opinion what leads to dark depression or even suicide.
 

Ahwatukee

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Hello! I am 18, from Jamaica but currently in the uk, my boyfriend is almost 17 and is in America, we have been Ldr for almost 2 years, his parents separated a few months ago and there were some ups and downs, he was doing good with the Lord, but he has gotten depressed, and is often in a bad mood, don't want to talk about God or do bible study, his friends are very very bad influence but he is kind of a push over so he doesn't want to move away from them out of fear of them treating him bad, the only time he wants to talk about God is after church when he feels the holy spirit then after a few hours it's gone and he is in a bad tired mood, today I found out one of those friends took him up to the mountain and he is mediating to open his chakura, I am very scared for him I love him and want to marry him one day, but as a man of God he hardly shows him being a man of God. He has a lot of energy for games, and things that doesn't have to do with God but things that have to do with God he is lazy and uninterested, he says it takes too much "spiritual energy " please help me I am very worried.
Good day, Puddingdear,

We are on the cusp of the Lord coming to gather His church. And I'm not just saying that, or being hopeful (even though I am) but because of all that is going on in the world. Once that takes place, then everyone who is not gathered will be on the earth and exposed to God's wrath which will come via the seals, trumpets and bowl judgements. Even the technology for the mark of the beast is here and is being used. That alone should raise red flags on how close we are to the Lord's appearing and our being gathered. Sounds like your boyfriend needs to be reminded of what is coming.

I would also bring up something else that involves you as well. If you are just boyfriend and girl friend and not married, but you are being intimate with each other, then you are living a sexually immoral life, which would also keep you from being ready when the Lord comes to gather His church. If that is the case with you and him, then you need to repent of that as well until you commit yourselves in marriage and he needs to turn back to walking in faith. And when when we confess our sins, scripture says that the Lord is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us of all unrighteousness.

Jesus warns us to be watching and ready so that day (the time of God's wrath) does not close on us like a trap:

"Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you suddenly like a trap. For it will come on all those who live on the face of the whole earth. Be always on the watch, and pray that you may be able to escape all that is about to happen, and that you may be able to stand before the Son of Man.”

The 'carousing, drunkenness and the cares of this life' are in reference to going back and living according to the sinful nature. The way of escaping the time of God's wrath, is to be living in faith, watching and ready, so that when He appears you will be changed immortal and glorified and caught up with the rest of the church. But if you are willfully living according to the sinful nature, then that day will close on you like a trap.

I think that your boyfriend needs to hear this. If he can't be convinced by reasoning, then maybe it needs to be done through the fear of God's coming wrath. And the time is getting closer and closer for the Lord's appearing to gather the church. Believe me, you don't want to be on this earth when God begins to pour out His wrath via the seals, trumpets and bowl judgments.