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[MaggieMye]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

 

[eternally-gratefull]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

How can one apologize for something they will not even admit they did, Sounds like they are just mocking..

However, as Christians, we are told to forgive no matter what.. (being a lite into the world)

 

[ember]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

I would wonder what they are apologizing for? not much of an apology, IMO, if they do not own up to what they did

mind you, I've had those phony apologies...turns out they are simply repeat offenders who want you believe they are sorry when really they just want to skim across life without any responsibility

we forgive because God in Christ has forgiven us...does not mean we have to allow the offender to continue in abuse or lying or whatever it was...we are not asked to be dumb and stupid....forgiving someone lets them off your hook and allows you to move on...does not mean that God has forgotten

even more, Jesus tells us to forgive from the heart...that can be a painful process...it means we don't just glibly forgive, but we really forgive and that could cost us...BUT, again, does not mean we have continue to be oppressed by folks who continue in sin against us

my 2 cents

 

[crossnote]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

Who cares, forgive them anyways, or should we judge motives too?

 

[notuptome]

Gender bias comes into this equation. Guys forgive and forget toward other guys much easier than gals forgive and forget towards other gals. Just my experience and you mileage may vary.

How sincere are we toward God when we ask for forgiveness?

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[shineyourlight]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

Did Jesus still forgive my sins on the cross even when I didn't realize I had to feel "sorry" for them? The point is: He still chose to die for my sins and still chose to forgive them but not until I realized I felt bad for hurting Him until I was 17.

You are called to forgive just as He had forgiven you. Regardless if they feel bad for what they've done. Now, forgiveness is tricky and especially in this case because the person doesn't even feel bad. It's a daily surrender, saying, "I forgive so and so. God, help me to forgive them." Choose to walk in the spirit of forgiveness, regardless of the outcome.

 

[Gr8grace]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

Forgiveness is more for us than the other person. True apology or not from the other person doesn't matter.

If we don't forgive we build up resentment, bitterness,hatred and whole slue of other negative mind sets.

In the average offence and the daily life..........live and let live. Hand that persons offence over to the supreme court of heaven, forgive and carry on.

 

[Ugly]

Why they won't say could vary. Perhaps they don't know specifically, but know they wronged you and are still sorry. Or it may be that they just have a hard time apologizing at all. Which doesn't make them bad. I can have a difficult time apologizing sometimes, but not because I don't care but it's just difficult for me.
My point being there are various reasons why a person does what they do. Some things may sound bad initially but don't actually have bad motives.
Maybe that's just how they apologize and it's nothing personal.
The thing to ask yourself is what kind of character does this person normally exhibit? Are they usually a jerk? Or normally a good spirited person? You can use that to determine their true intent. And if you don't know them well enough to be able to answer that then why does it matter at all of they say why?

 

[Utah]

Often times we don't agree with others and feelings get hurt. With that, we can apologize for the hurt feelings but still hold strongly to our differing views.

 

[P1LGR1M]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

One can be apologetic, and sincere about it, that another has been offended, but this doesn't mean that they have to meet the demand of the one offended to recant or repent over what actually offended.

I try not to offend people, but sometimes offense is taken over doctrinal differences. I can be sorry my antagonist is offended, but, I am not going to meet a demand that I feel is in error. In other words, if someone wants me to admit the doctrine is in error, then they are going to have to show how, then, if it is shown to be in error, the apology should be forthcoming. but, if the offense was a genuine address of a legitimate issue, then to expect an apology which also recants what they were offended for is asking too much.

We cannot hold someone else accountable for error if we cannot adequately show they were in error to begin with.


God bless.

 

[oldthennew]

apologizing will keep us humble and help us to remember our motives and how not to
hurt another for the wrong reason or speak out of line or hopefully not to malign any one ever.....
we have to be willing and ready to practice in all of the ways layed out before us, it's how we grow...
we must overcome the old-man' and put his ways to rest....

all apologies are growth boosters in some way.....

 

[crossnote]

If a person offends you and apologizes, but does not admit what they've done, are they really apologizing? If they ask for forgiveness, but will not admit the specific offense, can we even be sure that they really understand what it was that they did?? Are we not to hold them accountable?

I just want to know what the rest of you think.
Thanks,
Maggie

When I first asked the Lord for forgiveness he didn't expect me to enumerate each offense AND I really didn't fully understand the heineousness of my offenses...I'm still learning that one...yet He freely forgave.