There is victory over porn addiction!

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DiverDoug

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The post is wonderful and accurate. It is also what I need to fight my struggle with porn. I used to think people with addictions had to only have the will the stop participating in their addictions until one day I realised I could not stop. The cycle you speak of is right on and I am trapped and struggling to get free. This is a topic hard to talk about with people at church yet is a problem when needing the fellowship with Christians is most important.

I know we have freewill to choose and I have prayed to the LORD that I make the free will decision not to do this and ask He take the urge away from me. He has and can alter the thoughts of men as the Bible has several accounts of this. Alas He hasn't donme this for me. I know my salvation is assured but life on earth is made miserable to be under the power of this addiction. I feel wrapped with un worthiness, weighted with guilt, fearful of His abandonment. The three most scary parts of the Bible to me is "God will not be mocked"; God gave them over to a debased mind; and "those who do not abide in Me is cast out as a branch and is withered". Because I can't beat this I feel He has left me to my debased mind. A few years ago, not long after I became a Christian it seemed God was with me and made me fruitful, restoring and even exalting me above where I was when I ilost everything in a divorce (not due to my addiction). Now,, as pornography has entered my life again, I feel abandoned, lost as to what to do next. Nothing I have done has been succeful, I have lost my job (without unemployment benefits) and see my savings go down to nothing. Am I lost until I get this beat? I have prayed for His help and not seen anything.

Still, your post has been of great help and I thank you.

Doug
 
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machew

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DiverDoug said:
The post is wonderful and accurate. It is also what I need to fight my struggle with porn. I used to think people with addictions had to only have the will the stop participating in their addictions until one day I realised I could not stop. The cycle you speak of is right on and I am trapped and struggling to get free. This is a topic hard to talk about with people at church yet is a problem when needing the fellowship with Christians is most important.

I know we have freewill to choose and I have prayed to the LORD that I make the free will decision not to do this and ask He take the urge away from me. He has and can alter the thoughts of men as the Bible has several accounts of this. Alas He hasn't donme this for me. I know my salvation is assured but life on earth is made miserable to be under the power of this addiction. I feel wrapped with un worthiness, weighted with guilt, fearful of His abandonment. The three most scary parts of the Bible to me is "God will not be mocked"; God gave them over to a debased mind; and "those who do not abide in Me is cast out as a branch and is withered". Because I can't beat this I feel He has left me to my debased mind. A few years ago, not long after I became a Christian it seemed God was with me and made me fruitful, restoring and even exalting me above where I was when I ilost everything in a divorce (not due to my addiction). Now,, as pornography has entered my life again, I feel abandoned, lost as to what to do next. Nothing I have done has been succeful, I have lost my job (without unemployment benefits) and see my savings go down to nothing. Am I lost until I get this beat? I have prayed for His help and not seen anything.

Still, your post has been of great help and I thank you.

Doug
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DiverDoug:

I prayed day and night non-stop for 8 months before I saw anything happen. I was the guy who wouldn't stop knocking on the door. Most nights were not easy for me, and I even had some scream and cussing sessions with God. But I found out later that God actually enjoyed those times the most. I couldn't figure out why until He told me, "Those were the times when you weren't wearing a mask, and you were being the most real and vulnerable with Me. I am not afraid or angry about your feelings, you don't need to hide them. The more real you are with Me, the more it exposes the wounded places in your heart and the easier it is for it to be healed."

I think the key is shifting our paradigms about how God feels about us, even when we are struggling in something like this. If there was one thing that brought the most freedom from this, it was the tangible feeling of God's Love for me. My suggestion is that you keep crying out until you experience it for yourself. You will never be the same! Let this struggle be fuel to add to your hunger for God, He is not disappointed or angry with you, and will use this for His Glory in your life.
 
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machew

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As I thought about the past more, I realized that for me when I felt lonely, it made me more vulnerable to this cycle and it seemed a lot easier to fall into this cycle again. I had to be conscious about where my mind and heart were going when loneliness crept in. The lonely feeling I believe was something that the enemy planted in me, so that he could more easily find an open door into my life. I've found that loneliness is rooted in self-pity. This is why I think it is from the enemy. When I feel lonely now, I immediately turn on worship music to get into the Presence of God and/or open into the Psalms. And if necesary, call a friend I know I can trust to navigate me through what I am feeling. I just thought I would point that out in case someone on here experiences the same thing.
 
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moyo82

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Hello Machew. I can't tell you how much of a blessing this post is to me. I have been falling victim to porn addiction for awhile now and have let the enemy fill me with guilt and hopelessness. But I thank God for Christian brothers like you that aren't ashamed to give your testimony and encourage others. I won't let the devil keep me down. I fall but I get back up everytime and I truly believe that I am on my way to victory and God will truly deliver me from this addiction. Stay tuned, my testimony is coming soon. Much love to you and may God continue to bless you in your walk. See you in the kingdom.
 
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