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Genesis 33:5-11
● Gen 33:5 . . Looking about, he saw the women and the children.
Who, he asked: are these with you? He answered: The children with
whom God has favored your servant.
Because Jacob's response drew Esau's attention to the lads rather than the
women, Jewish folklore proposes that Jacob did that so as to take Esau's
mind off the wives. What an ugly thing to say. It implies that Esau was a
barbaric cave man who stole wives from their husbands; yet there is not one
single incident in the entire Old Testament recording something like that
about him. So that remark is unfounded, and totally uncalled for. It's highly
unlikely that Esau's mind would be off the women anyway while they were
standing right there in front of him; and subsequently introduced one by
one.
● Gen 33:6-7 . .Then the maids, with their children, came forward
and bowed low; next Leah, with her children, came forward and
bowed low; and last, Joseph and Rachel came forward and bowed
low;
The Hebrew word for "bowed low" is from shachah (shaw-khaw') which
means: to depress, i.e. prostrate. At Gen 22:5, and also in many, many
other places in the Old Testament, shachah is translated "worship".
I think the scene went something like this: First Esau asked about the
women and children. Then Jacob, by way of introduction, like a master of
ceremonies on a variety show, moved to the side, raised his arm, gestured
towards his family, and presenting them for Esau's review, proudly
announced; Voila! My offspring, with whom God has favored your servant.
Why not introduce the wives first? Well; in that day, wives, were a dime a3
dozen. But offspring! Oh yes; offspring were to brag about. Men regarded
their offspring as gold and precious stones in value.
"Sons are the provision of the Lord; the fruit of the womb, His reward. Like
arrows in the hand of a warrior are sons born to a man in his youth. Happy
is the man who fills his quiver with them; they shall not be put to shame
when they contend with the enemy in the gate." (Ps 127:3-5)
First up were Bilhah with Dan and Naphtali, then Zilpah with Gad and Asher.
Then came Leah with Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah, Issachar, Zebulun, and
Dinah. Then, last of all, Rachel and Joseph.
Everybody did obeisance to Esau. I tell you the humility of Jacob's family is
astounding. Nobody, not one among them, Jacob included, harbored the
unbearable "chosen-people" mentality that is so prevalent today among
modern Jews.
Esau has been given a very bad rap in Jewish folklore. Yet, not one single
time does the Old Testament portray him as a murderer, a liar, a thief, or an
adulterer. Those allegations have all been smirched upon his reputation by
people with evil minds; prejudiced against him for no good reason at all but
merely because his Jewish detractors can't bear to accept him either as a
brother, nor as an equal. Jacob's progeny has been guilty of all the crimes
and sins of which they accuse Esau, and more too; yet many Jews count
their own people superior to Esau in every way imaginable.
The only reason Jacob's progeny continues to exist is because of the oath
and the promises that God gave their ancestor Abraham. If not for that early
covenant, they would be just as extinct today as the Edomites, and for the
very same reasons.
"Fair Zion is left like a booth in a vineyard, like a hut in a cucumber field,
like a city beleaguered. Had not the Lord of Hosts left us some survivors, we
should be like Sodom-- another Gomorrah." (Isa 1:8-9)
● Gen 33:8 . . And he asked: What do you mean by all this company
which I have met? He answered" To gain my lord's favor. Esau said:
I have enough, my brother; let what you have remain yours.
No doubt uncle Laban would have judged Esau a fool because Rachel's dad,
badly infected with a serious case of unbridled avarice, would have certainly
snapped up Jacob's offer immediately. But Esau's repertoire of vices
apparently didn't include greed. He was actually a very simple kind of guy,
and easy to satisfy.
● Gen 33:10-11 . . But Jacob said: No, I pray you; if you would do me
this favor, accept from me this gift; for to see your face is like seeing
the face of God, and you have received me favorably. Please accept
my present which has been brought to you, for God has favored me
and I have plenty. And when he urged him, he accepted.
In accordance with oriental customs, which have continued to be practiced
for thousands of years, the most certain way for one who desires
reconciliation to be assured of it is to have his proffered gift accepted by the
one whose favor he seeks. In any case, it would be considered a great
personal favor if Esau would accept Jacob's gift, even though Jacob knew
that his brother didn't really need it in any material sense.
Jacob's diplomacy was irresistible. The men used different adverbs to
describe their prosperity. Esau said; "I have enough". Enough is from rab
(rab) which means: abundant (in quantity, size, age, number, rank, quality)
But Jacob said; "I have plenty". Plenty is from kol (kole) and/or kowl (kole)
which means: the whole; hence, all. So Esau, through his own industry, had
garnered for himself all that he would ever need. But Jacob, through the
providence of God, had everything. So I think he was implying that he really
had too much to manage and would consider it a personal favor if Esau
would take some off his hands.
Here in American culture, we typically feel indebted by accepting a gift from
a friend. That mind-set spoils good will, so that a present-- which should
have, in all respects, represented someone's heart felt happy thoughts
towards us --is typically regarded as a trap, and robs an occasion of the
good feelings it was intended to generate.
Fortunately there are numerous occasions when we have implied consent to
lavish gifts upon friends and loved ones without arousing suspicions of evil
intent; e.g. birthdays, anniversaries, Xmas, Easter, promotions, retirements,
graduations; and whatever else we can appropriate to express our affections
for others. I think that too many of us have become Grinches out of fear of
obligation. It just shouldn't be that way.
Esau, realizing the sincerity of Jacob's motives, and also himself desiring
that there be no question he himself also earnestly desired full reconciliation
with his brother, finally agreed to accept Jacob's gifts.
Something is strangely missing from the brothers' reunion. Wouldn't you
think that Jacob would be asking about his mom and dad? Were they still
alive? In good health? Stuff like that. Well; I think Jacob already knew. After
all, he knew exactly where to find Esau.
So Jacob may have stayed current all those twenty years via caravans and
messengers; which in that day were pretty much the equivalent of today's
FedEx and UPS services. Somewhere along the line, Rebecca's personal
nurse Deborah had joined Jacob. So there's a pretty good chance Jacob
already knew all about his mom and dad before returning to Canaan.
However, since Rebecca's personal nurse Deborah had already joined Jacob,
and since there's no record that Jacob ever saw Rebecca alive after leaving
home, his mom may have been deceased at this point.
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