I believe precisely what John3:16-17 say. They do not say what you're saying they say.
I'm sure if you'd want to you could put this together. By reading Genesis1-2, how long was the kosmos in the sense of the inhabited world uninhabited? Reading John1:9-10 it's pretty easy to see how John is speaking mainly of the inhabited kosmos and of its inhabitants. There's no dilemma re: the meaning of kosmos here and it's same meaning in John3:16-17.
Thanks for the link. It confirms what I said re: meanings of kosmos and the necessity of paying attention to context.
Look at all John's uses of kosmos from John1-3. What Jesus was sent for is very clear John1:9-10, John 1:29, John3:16-17.
I don't see a contradiction. And this gets back to what I was saying about our inabilities to grasp - to understand - God's Love and what it means that God is Love. And as I said, we are seeing and living dimly and at our best we are but images of Him and distinct from Him.

There was a teacher I know some on these threads were taught or influenced by, RBThieme. In one of his series on Love he essentially said God does not love us because of who we are, but because of who He is. RBT called this impersonal love as I recall. He taught it in part to impress a mindset upon Christians how we are to function in God's image, with a character matured to better imitate God who is Love. He broke love down into impersonal (where you might categorize beneficent love) and personal (where you might place filial love) categories
It's not out of reason that men can love - be loving - even when hating. What can God, who is Love, do? John3:16 God loved the world in this manner: He gave His Son
Scripturally re: the contradiction you're proposing:
I don't agree with this reasoning. I think it's easy to see even just from the above and from what I've explained from GJohn that God gave His Son so "every man" in/of the kosmos who believes may have eternal life. God's Love is simply infinitely more vast than the simplistic love vs. hate that men have.
As Christians I think we're supposed to begin grasping this just as Paul prayed for (Eph3:14-21; Col3:14; 1John2:5; 1John4:12 1John4:17 1John4:18)
I'm sure if you'd want to you could put this together. By reading Genesis1-2, how long was the kosmos in the sense of the inhabited world uninhabited? Reading John1:9-10 it's pretty easy to see how John is speaking mainly of the inhabited kosmos and of its inhabitants. There's no dilemma re: the meaning of kosmos here and it's same meaning in John3:16-17.
Thanks for the link. It confirms what I said re: meanings of kosmos and the necessity of paying attention to context.
Look at all John's uses of kosmos from John1-3. What Jesus was sent for is very clear John1:9-10, John 1:29, John3:16-17.
I don't see a contradiction. And this gets back to what I was saying about our inabilities to grasp - to understand - God's Love and what it means that God is Love. And as I said, we are seeing and living dimly and at our best we are but images of Him and distinct from Him.
There was a teacher I know some on these threads were taught or influenced by, RBThieme. In one of his series on Love he essentially said God does not love us because of who we are, but because of who He is. RBT called this impersonal love as I recall. He taught it in part to impress a mindset upon Christians how we are to function in God's image, with a character matured to better imitate God who is Love. He broke love down into impersonal (where you might categorize beneficent love) and personal (where you might place filial love) categories
It's not out of reason that men can love - be loving - even when hating. What can God, who is Love, do? John3:16 God loved the world in this manner: He gave His Son
Scripturally re: the contradiction you're proposing:
NKJ Psalm 11:5 The LORD tests the righteous, But the wicked (asebēs) and the one who loves violence His soul hates.
NKJ Romans 4:5 But to him who does not work but believes on Him who justifies the ungodly (asebēs), his faith is accounted for righteousness,
NKJ Romans 5:6 For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly (asebēs).
Apparently, YHWH's soul hates the ungodly (Psalm11:5) Yet God loved the kosmos of ungodly men by giving His only Son (John3:16) who died for ungodly men (Rom5:6) - ungodly men whom God justifies (Rom5:6) - every man in the kosmos who believes for eternal life (John3:16) and is saved (John3:17).
As I said, I don't see a contradiction.
What I think is that we're too quick to see God through human eyes and human experience as humans that are only created in His image but are not Him especially when still living in a fallen creation in psuchikos bodies.
I don't agree with this reasoning. I think it's easy to see even just from the above and from what I've explained from GJohn that God gave His Son so "every man" in/of the kosmos who believes may have eternal life. God's Love is simply infinitely more vast than the simplistic love vs. hate that men have.
As Christians I think we're supposed to begin grasping this just as Paul prayed for (Eph3:14-21; Col3:14; 1John2:5; 1John4:12 1John4:17 1John4:18)
Also, you obviously make no distinction between God's common grace (Mat 5:45) and his benevolent dispostion of heart that moves him to sustain this inhabitated world of saints and sinners alike with temporal blessing and His saving grace which is a particular grace that eternally saves the souls of elect individuals, which is what Jn 3:16 is all about. And as I pointed out in my 11,515 it's very reasonable to infer from all scripture that God sustains this world ultimately for the sake of Christ first and then his elect.
Finally, while I see EVERYTHING coming from and through Christ to me (including God's precious love for me), at the same time I also know that God LOVES me personally because he doesn't see my OLD MAN any longer. He sees Christ in me! He sees Christ's imputed righteousness in me. He sees me as the New Man. In short, if it weren't for my Federal Head, God could never love me with a covenantal love. Scripture is crystal clear on who God loves. There are NUMEROUS qualified "God loves" verses in the bible. And I have yet to come across one that says explicitly that He loves sinners or evildoers or the wicked or fools. He loves those [covenantally] who love him and obey him. And that, sir, is CONDITIONAL love! It's really that simple. Since the Father loved his own Son on the condition of His obedience, then what in the world would ever make you think that he would covenantally love sinners unconditionally? Did God have one set of rules for his Son and another set for his brothers and sisters? Whatever you want to believe about how God deals with his haters/detractors of this world, that's up to you. You want to believe that he loves them just as much and in the same way as his chosen covenant people...be my guest. I, though, will always go with clear, plain, explicit, unambiguous passages on any given topic over passages where one must make an inference from the text about the topic at hand -- most especially when a key term in a passage has many meanings, which is the case with "kosmos". You must read into Jn 3:16 that God loves all men w/o exception. That is the only way you or anyone else can come to that kind of conclusion.
Anyhoo...as the old saying goes: I can explain it to ya, but it's above my pay grade to get you to understand it.