2Samuel 14 The word of God is a mirror

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Sep 14, 2020
1 Joab son of Zeruiah knew that the king’s heart longed for Absalom. 2 So Joab sent someone to Tekoa and had a wise woman brought from there. He said to her, “Pretend you are in mourning. Dress in mourning clothes, and don’t use any cosmetic lotions. Act like a woman who has spent many days grieving for the dead. 3 Then go to the king and speak these words to him.” And Joab put the words in her mouth.

4 When the woman from Tekoa went[a] to the king, she fell with her face to the ground to pay him honor, and she said, “Help me, Your Majesty!”

5 The king asked her, “What is troubling you?”

She said, “I am a widow; my husband is dead. 6 I your servant had two sons. They got into a fight with each other in the field, and no one was there to separate them. One struck the other and killed him. 7 Now the whole clan has risen up against your servant; they say, ‘Hand over the one who struck his brother down, so that we may put him to death for the life of his brother whom he killed; then we will get rid of the heir as well.’ They would put out the only burning coal I have left, leaving my husband neither name nor descendant on the face of the earth.”

8 The king said to the woman, “Go home, and I will issue an order in your behalf.”

9 But the woman from Tekoa said to him, “Let my lord the king pardon me and my family, and let the king and his throne be without guilt.”

10 The king replied, “If anyone says anything to you, bring them to me, and they will not bother you again.”

11 She said, “Then let the king invoke the Lord his God to prevent the avenger of blood from adding to the destruction, so that my son will not be destroyed.”

“As surely as the Lord lives,” he said, “not one hair of your son’s head will fall to the ground.”

12 Then the woman said, “Let your servant speak a word to my lord the king.”

“Speak,” he replied.

13 The woman said, “Why then have you devised a thing like this against the people of God? When the king says this, does he not convict himself, for the king has not brought back his banished son? 14 Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But that is not what God desires; rather, he devises ways so that a banished person does not remain banished from him.

15 “And now I have come to say this to my lord the king because the people have made me afraid. Your servant thought, ‘I will speak to the king; perhaps he will grant his servant’s request. 16 Perhaps the king will agree to deliver his servant from the hand of the man who is trying to cut off both me and my son from God’s inheritance.’

17 “And now your servant says, ‘May the word of my lord the king secure my inheritance, for my lord the king is like an angel of God in discerning good and evil. May the Lord your God be with you.’”

18 Then the king said to the woman, “Don’t keep from me the answer to what I am going to ask you.”

“Let my lord the king speak,” the woman said.

19 The king asked, “Isn’t the hand of Joab with you in all this?”

The woman answered, “As surely as you live, my lord the king, no one can turn to the right or to the left from anything my lord the king says. Yes, it was your servant Joab who instructed me to do this and who put all these words into the mouth of your servant. 20 Your servant Joab did this to change the present situation. My lord has wisdom like that of an angel of God—he knows everything that happens in the land.”

21 The king said to Joab, “Very well, I will do it. Go, bring back the young man Absalom.”

22 Joab fell with his face to the ground to pay him honor, and he blessed the king. Joab said, “Today your servant knows that he has found favor in your eyes, my lord the king, because the king has granted his servant’s request.”

This is another temptation. You don’t want your son to have to go to court for murder, yet at the same time you know he murdered Amnon. True, Amnon raped his sister so we can surely understand and sympathize with his response, and true he waited two years for David to do something about that crime and he did nothing. This is the problem, if you do not deal with sin and trespasses they fester and multiply. If David does nothing about Amnon raping Absalom’s sister but then prosecutes Absalom for murder that is not right. So we see that David is frozen, he can’t do anything. In a situation like that a good sounding story can help you pretend you are doing the right thing. This woman’s story was that the two fought and one died. That is not what happened, Absalom laid a trap and murdered Amnon, which of course was retaliation for Amnon laying a trap and raping Absalom’s sister. This in turn was David reaping what he sowed when he laid a trap and had Uriah killed and stole his wife. “As you have done it will be done to you”. Joab thinks that concocting this whole thing to encourage David that he does not need to carry out righteous judgement will put him back in David’s good graces after he had murdered Abner. The murders keep piling up.

23 Then Joab went to Geshur and brought Absalom back to Jerusalem. 24 But the king said, “He must go to his own house; he must not see my face.” So Absalom went to his own house and did not see the face of the king.

25 In all Israel there was not a man so highly praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the top of his head to the sole of his foot there was no blemish in him. 26 Whenever he cut the hair of his head—he used to cut his hair once a year because it became too heavy for him—he would weigh it, and its weight was two hundred shekels[b] by the royal standard.

27 Three sons and a daughter were born to Absalom. His daughter’s name was Tamar, and she became a beautiful woman.

28 Absalom lived two years in Jerusalem without seeing the king’s face. 29 Then Absalom sent for Joab in order to send him to the king, but Joab refused to come to him. So he sent a second time, but he refused to come. 30 Then he said to his servants, “Look, Joab’s field is next to mine, and he has barley there. Go and set it on fire.” So Absalom’s servants set the field on fire.

31 Then Joab did go to Absalom’s house, and he said to him, “Why have your servants set my field on fire?”

32 Absalom said to Joab, “Look, I sent word to you and said, ‘Come here so I can send you to the king to ask, “Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me if I were still there!”’ Now then, I want to see the king’s face, and if I am guilty of anything, let him put me to death.”

33 So Joab went to the king and told him this. Then the king summoned Absalom, and he came in and bowed down with his face to the ground before the king. And the king kissed Absalom.


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This story is very confusing if we think that the “Holy Bible” presents only accounts of men of faith. James told us that when we read the Bible it is like looking in a mirror and seeing what we look like. No one knows how to deal with sin and transgressions, it is not a skill we are born with. Joab murders Abner, what did they do about it? Amnon rapes Tamar, what did they do? Absalom murders Amnon, did they do anything? King David kills Uriah so that he could steal his wife. Jonadab is advising Amnon in a way that will destroy him in the eyes of David and perhaps he had a hand in advising Absalom as well. Joab is trying to convince David to embrace sin and unrighteousness. Can you see yourself and your life in this picture?

Matthew 5:21 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder,[a] and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister[b][c] will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’[d] is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

This is why murderers have no respect for anyone who judges them. They know that you have thought about doing the very same thing, the only difference between them and you is that they have followed through. The lesson is that if you don’t deal with sin with the blood of Jesus then it will fester, and continue to breed more sin. So then how do we deal with sin? Jesus showed us, you have to go to the cross and pay the price. Suppose David had dealt with Joab when he murdered Abner, he loses his general, and as a result he must lead the army. If he had done that he would not have been in Jerusalem being seduced by Bathsheba. If Joab had been dealt with for murder do you think Jonadab would have the nerve to advise Amnon to rape Tamar? If David had not sinned with Bathsheba would his son have felt free to rape his sister? One sin, leads to another and then another. You need to nip it in the bud, deal severely and thoroughly with sin. The price that needs to be paid is everything that we have. We cannot pay the price so Jesus paid it for us, but in return we are now His. As long as you are in Christ you are safe but the minute you step out of Christ as David did when he sinned with Bathsheba then you will be devoured by the enemy who walks around like a lion. Once we understand that we are sinners saved by grace we then need to forgive others as the Lord has forgiven us. If we don't the root of bitterness will grow in our heart and defile us.