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When I ask people what is true love, they will reply with various kinds of answers. Some people may not believe in it, some people believe but they still have not experienced it. Some has lowered their standard regarding of their love story because the ideal so-called 'true love' is too good to be true. Some wait for the mr/mrs right because they believe that will be the moment they will experience true love. So they hop in one relationship to another to seek the one meant to be for them. I'm not an expert of love. But this writing, I'm going to share my definition of true love.
True love has one source, God. God IS love (1 John 4:8). In Him, we can find what is true love and what is true love in actions. I find it is impossible to try to define true love apart from this truth. God has shown us what love is through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. In Rome 5:8, Paul described it so beautifully: "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." True love sacrifices even to the point of death for someone who may not deserve it. We don't deserve that kind of love from our God, but He gave it to us. He has shown us what it truly means to love someone. Love is giving ... your very own for the sake of your beloved. It's always comes from within and not because of what others have done for you. Otherwise, it will be a business transaction, no longer a 'love'.
Yes, true love nowadays is rare. Maybe because many people refuse to believe on its existence. Even if they do believe, they believe it for the wrong reasons and motive. True love is not when you find the right one for you. It's unrealistic to depend entirely on someone who can make your life happy. If we see it closer, it's a bit of selfish, isn't it? If we strive for this definition of true love, we will always fail. We will end up in jumping from one relationship to another, leaving more scars in our hearts. True love is also not when everything is perfect. No one is perfect. Therefore there will be flaws in your partner, obstacles in your relationships. Parents' approval, emotional baggage, difference in characters, habits, and preferences may be obstacles that you have to face together. True love isn't free from these problems, but it always find a way out and endure the hard seasons of life together. I know it sounds so idealistic. But it really takes two people who are committed to each other through the good and bad to make love lasts. Only a love that has persevered and conquered many obstacles in life can be called true love.
The whole point in loving someone is sacrifice. Will you sacrifice your preference in watching movies that you like and watch his/her preference? Will you sacrifice your time to be with him/her? Will you sacrifice your money to satisfy him/her? Will you sacrifice your ego to apologize to reconcile with him/her? You can see that the standard of true love is so high that we find it is very difficult to achieve the perfect score. Yes, it's difficult. Therefore we really need to connect with the Source of love itself and draw love supply from Him. Only people who has satisfying relationship with God can satisfy his/her partner of life. Only people who feel loved all the time by God can love their partner all the time. If you feel that your relationship with God is not right or you 'feel' distant [I emphasize the word 'feel' because it is always us who feel that God is distant, but actually He is always with us], then it is wiser to build your relationship with God first before you start with someone. How can you do that? Spend time with Him. Pray and spend time to read His words and let it works in your heart. Too many people settle in their relationship with God. They think they have it enough. Keep Him involved in everydays of your life and let Him fill you with His abundant love.
The whole point in loving someone is sacrifice. Will you sacrifice your preference in watching movies that you like and watch his/her preference? Will you sacrifice your time to be with him/her? Will you sacrifice your money to satisfy him/her? Will you sacrifice your ego to apologize to reconcile with him/her? You can see that the standard of true love is so high that we find it is very difficult to achieve the perfect score. Yes, it's difficult. Therefore we really need to connect with the Source of love itself and draw love supply from Him. Only people who has satisfying relationship with God can satisfy his/her partner of life. Only people who feel loved all the time by God can love their partner all the time. If you feel that your relationship with God is not right or you 'feel' distant [I emphasize the word 'feel' because it is always us who feel that God is distant, but actually He is always with us], then it is wiser to build your relationship with God first before you start with someone. How can you do that? Spend time with Him. Pray and spend time to read His words and let it works in your heart. Too many people settle in their relationship with God. They think they have it enough. Keep Him involved in everydays of your life and let Him fill you with His abundant love.
I believe that as a woman, my part is to wait and not to seek. My part is to develop Godly woman qualities that will be a gift to my future partner. My part is to preserve dignity and not tossing my feelings and bodies easily to men who may not committed for long term relationship.There is no space for trial and error for me.
I don't wait idly but productively doing things for His Kingdom. And in spite of many ugly realities around, I preserve my faith that my God, the Source of love, is the best Author of love story. He really writes a beautiful love story for those who give the pen for Him. Surrender your love story in full of faith. Don't expect less because the world around you give you bad examples. Expect more in God. When it comes to your love story, aim high. Get ready to make a lot sacrifices but also get ready to reap the beautiful fruits of it in the end. Choose a partner who has been tested through difficult times. Someone ... who is worthy of you. Someone who fights for you. And wait patiently for God's timing to make His wonderful plans unfold. I can ensure you, it will be worth the wait.
WITH LOVE'
ALEHANDRA CILLA
True love has one source, God. God IS love (1 John 4:8). In Him, we can find what is true love and what is true love in actions. I find it is impossible to try to define true love apart from this truth. God has shown us what love is through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. In Rome 5:8, Paul described it so beautifully: "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." True love sacrifices even to the point of death for someone who may not deserve it. We don't deserve that kind of love from our God, but He gave it to us. He has shown us what it truly means to love someone. Love is giving ... your very own for the sake of your beloved. It's always comes from within and not because of what others have done for you. Otherwise, it will be a business transaction, no longer a 'love'.
Yes, true love nowadays is rare. Maybe because many people refuse to believe on its existence. Even if they do believe, they believe it for the wrong reasons and motive. True love is not when you find the right one for you. It's unrealistic to depend entirely on someone who can make your life happy. If we see it closer, it's a bit of selfish, isn't it? If we strive for this definition of true love, we will always fail. We will end up in jumping from one relationship to another, leaving more scars in our hearts. True love is also not when everything is perfect. No one is perfect. Therefore there will be flaws in your partner, obstacles in your relationships. Parents' approval, emotional baggage, difference in characters, habits, and preferences may be obstacles that you have to face together. True love isn't free from these problems, but it always find a way out and endure the hard seasons of life together. I know it sounds so idealistic. But it really takes two people who are committed to each other through the good and bad to make love lasts. Only a love that has persevered and conquered many obstacles in life can be called true love.
The whole point in loving someone is sacrifice. Will you sacrifice your preference in watching movies that you like and watch his/her preference? Will you sacrifice your time to be with him/her? Will you sacrifice your money to satisfy him/her? Will you sacrifice your ego to apologize to reconcile with him/her? You can see that the standard of true love is so high that we find it is very difficult to achieve the perfect score. Yes, it's difficult. Therefore we really need to connect with the Source of love itself and draw love supply from Him. Only people who has satisfying relationship with God can satisfy his/her partner of life. Only people who feel loved all the time by God can love their partner all the time. If you feel that your relationship with God is not right or you 'feel' distant [I emphasize the word 'feel' because it is always us who feel that God is distant, but actually He is always with us], then it is wiser to build your relationship with God first before you start with someone. How can you do that? Spend time with Him. Pray and spend time to read His words and let it works in your heart. Too many people settle in their relationship with God. They think they have it enough. Keep Him involved in everydays of your life and let Him fill you with His abundant love.
The whole point in loving someone is sacrifice. Will you sacrifice your preference in watching movies that you like and watch his/her preference? Will you sacrifice your time to be with him/her? Will you sacrifice your money to satisfy him/her? Will you sacrifice your ego to apologize to reconcile with him/her? You can see that the standard of true love is so high that we find it is very difficult to achieve the perfect score. Yes, it's difficult. Therefore we really need to connect with the Source of love itself and draw love supply from Him. Only people who has satisfying relationship with God can satisfy his/her partner of life. Only people who feel loved all the time by God can love their partner all the time. If you feel that your relationship with God is not right or you 'feel' distant [I emphasize the word 'feel' because it is always us who feel that God is distant, but actually He is always with us], then it is wiser to build your relationship with God first before you start with someone. How can you do that? Spend time with Him. Pray and spend time to read His words and let it works in your heart. Too many people settle in their relationship with God. They think they have it enough. Keep Him involved in everydays of your life and let Him fill you with His abundant love.
I believe that as a woman, my part is to wait and not to seek. My part is to develop Godly woman qualities that will be a gift to my future partner. My part is to preserve dignity and not tossing my feelings and bodies easily to men who may not committed for long term relationship.There is no space for trial and error for me.
I don't wait idly but productively doing things for His Kingdom. And in spite of many ugly realities around, I preserve my faith that my God, the Source of love, is the best Author of love story. He really writes a beautiful love story for those who give the pen for Him. Surrender your love story in full of faith. Don't expect less because the world around you give you bad examples. Expect more in God. When it comes to your love story, aim high. Get ready to make a lot sacrifices but also get ready to reap the beautiful fruits of it in the end. Choose a partner who has been tested through difficult times. Someone ... who is worthy of you. Someone who fights for you. And wait patiently for God's timing to make His wonderful plans unfold. I can ensure you, it will be worth the wait.
WITH LOVE'
ALEHANDRA CILLA
