Introvert or Extrovert

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Seeking-Christ

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The years were 1999 -2002. My parents and I were helping out a little church. I was in the only adult Sunday School class, they had. I was too old for the youth group but not old enough for the Old people's class. Our Senior Pastor did a controversial move in the Missionary Church. He hired a female Pastor/Preacher to help the Church. She was teaching this class.

In this class we talked a lot about Introverts verses Extroverts, and that was my first exposure to these terms. I think it was in that class that I discovered that I'm what they call an introvert.

Lately I've been listening to Dr. Jordan Peterson, and sometimes He talks about Introverts and Extroverts. Based on his definitions, I'm convinced that I am an Introvert.

The reason why I am writing this blog is because a woman in the Chatroom asked me about this. She said she really shy and she's an introvert. I guess I don't come across as an introvert online, because she seemed to think I was an Extrovert. Probably because I was the one that tried to get a conversation going.

The way I understand it, Introverts like people, they just can't stand to be around a bunch of people all the time. Because when they go to a party, they get tired, and then they need alone time to recover. Where as an Extrovert, goes to a party, and they get energy from being around others. Therefor it takes them a lot longer to get tired, in a social situation. Also Introverts can be alone for longer periods of time. Alone time tends to drive Extroverts nuts.

There are times when I can seem outgoing. That is when I feel that I need to be outgoing. For example, in my life, I get way too much alone time. Nobody ever checks on me. In fact at work, I'm pretty sure I could die, and it wouldn't be until the next morning that someone would discover my body. Which I think is pretty sad. :( And when I think about it, I start feeling depressed, and then I start to wonder if people don't care that I am alive at all.

It is at at those times, that i often try to talk to teacher. But most of the time they too busy for me. It makes me feel even worse when another comes in, and they act all happy to see that other teacher. All of a sudden they aren't so busy anymore. I guess they think that I won't notice this. But I do, and it makes me feel like crap. :sick:
 

Moses_Young

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It is at at those times, that i often try to talk to teacher. But most of the time they too busy for me. It makes me feel even worse when another comes in, and they act all happy to see that other teacher. All of a sudden they aren't so busy anymore. I guess they think that I won't notice this. But I do, and it makes me feel like crap. :sick:
I think it's good that you noticed. Now you should consider why. Some people are never going to be interested in you. You can be a hero, but they won't care, because they won't think your act/s of heroism are important. I wouldn't waste effort on these. Your worldviews are just too different. They may love the covid-vaxx, and you are a super-reporter identifying the corruption that demonstrates the vaxx was premeditated murder which lead to the death of millions. You're in a different world to these people.

Other people, it's about getting to know them. Find out what interests them. Ask about them. People like talking about themselves. But not too much too soon. Not personal stuff or stuff that people might not want you to know. Just a little bit at a time. When people get used to you, they'll start telling you more. But if you're always sad looking, or gloomy, or complaining, or talking about yourself - these things will drive people way.
 

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I am an introvert too. Most people don't care whether we are alive or not but some do care, very much so in fact. Personally, I don't care what most people care about me. My wife and family care and loves me and that is sufficient. No need to become depressed over people that are not even aware of your existence.
 
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I think it's good that you noticed. Now you should consider why. Some people are never going to be interested in you. You can be a hero, but they won't care, because they won't think your act/s of heroism are important. I wouldn't waste effort on these. Your worldviews are just too different. They may love the covid-vaxx, and you are a super-reporter identifying the corruption that demonstrates the vaxx was premeditated murder which lead to the death of millions. You're in a different world to these people.

Other people, it's about getting to know them. Find out what interests them. Ask about them. People like talking about themselves. But not too much too soon. Not personal stuff or stuff that people might not want you to know. Just a little bit at a time. When people get used to you, they'll start telling you more. But if you're always sad looking, or gloomy, or complaining, or talking about yourself - these things will drive people way.
Are you trying to help me or hurt me?
 
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I think it's good that you noticed. Now you should consider why. Some people are never going to be interested in you. You can be a hero, but they won't care, because they won't think your act/s of heroism are important. I wouldn't waste effort on these. Your worldviews are just too different. They may love the covid-vaxx, and you are a super-reporter identifying the corruption that demonstrates the vaxx was premeditated murder which lead to the death of millions. You're in a different world to these people.

Other people, it's about getting to know them. Find out what interests them. Ask about them. People like talking about themselves. But not too much too soon. Not personal stuff or stuff that people might not want you to know. Just a little bit at a time. When people get used to you, they'll start telling you more. But if you're always sad looking, or gloomy, or complaining, or talking about yourself - these things will drive people way.
I read and reread your post more than once, and find it confusing. I got to say it again. Are you trying to help me or hurt me?

I can not remember ever posting anything about the Covid-Vaxx killing people. In fact I got Vaccinated myself! I got it 3 times! Your way off on that one.

In the second paragraph, you seem to be judging me for my blogs. Your not even at work with me. I don't think you know as much about me as you think you do about me.

Considering the way you posted this, I don't want to be your friend.
 
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My take is that he was trying to help you.
I'm not sure, there is somethings about what He posted feels off to me. What is the purpose of the
Covid-Vaxx stuff? And what about the judgment of how I do things at work? He's not there, to see how things really are.
 

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I'm not sure, there is somethings about what He posted feels off to me. What is the purpose of the
Covid-Vaxx stuff? And what about the judgment of how I do things at work? He's not there, to see how things really are.
I don't get the covid reference either, but the bulk of the post seemed like it was meant to be helpful.
 
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I don't get the covid reference either, but the bulk of the post seemed like it was meant to be helpful.
I think I'm going to write a blog about Covid. That way everyone can know what I think about it. LOL
 
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I think that covid is over-rated.
I got the blog written but it's waiting until it's approved. :)

I don't think I've written anything that is controversial. I go into details on why I don't pick sides on it. And I tell a model airplane story.
 

Moses_Young

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Are you trying to help me or hurt me?
I was trying to help you. But I apologise for the offence caused - that wasn't my intent. Probably you are the opposite party in my covid-vaxx example. See how different we are? As you point out, you don't want to be my friend. But it doesn't matter - there are plenty of others who do. The same rule will apply to you. Don't get fixated on getting everyone to love you - it will never happen, so expect it, and don't be disappointed when it does. There will always be at least one who loves each of us, and who gave His only Son for us. The love or friendship of others will never measure up to that. I will try to say no more (if I can help!) because it wasn't my desire to hurt or malign. :)
 

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I'm sorry to see that you've left this site.

I wish you nothing but the best going forward.

You'll be missed.