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Sadly, marriage nowadays have been attacked so bad by the lack of kindness, respect, compliments and other good things. Our hobbies, busyness, jobs, or children may have take over the priority in our lives. Moreover, spouse may has turned to become enemy or strangers. But it does not need to stop there. We can make all of these things change. But there are sacrifices needs to be made which is our ego most importantly.
To do all of these dares, we need a great supplier of Love, which is only God Himself. Reconciliation with God is the key to reconciliation with your spouse. Because it takes God to make us able to love our spouse over and over again although he or she keeps rejecting us. Exactly, it takes God which is reflected in Jesus Chist. There is no fixed formula to fix a broken marriage. But one thing is sure is that unconditional love never fails. It may take a long time to tear down the walls between hurting spouses but if we do not give up and with God, we cannot fail. Trust that with all of your heart. Walking with God is the best medicine compare to any marriage seminars or counseling.
I truly hope to see marriages being healed and built upon the strongest foundation ever, Jesus Christ. God be with you as always
Day 1: Love is Patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
-Ephesians 4:2 [NIV]
Today’s Dare: The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you will regret.
Day 2: Love is Kind
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
-Ephesians 4:32 [NIV]
Today’s Dare: In addition to saying nothing to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Day 3: Love is not Selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor –Romans 12:10
Today’s Dare: Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Day 4: Love is Thoughtful
How precious also are Your thoughts to me ... How vast is the sum of them! If I sould count them, they would outnumber the sand.
-Psalm 139:17-18
Today’s Dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Day 5: Love is not Rude
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him – Proverbs 27:14
Today’s Dare: Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
Day 6: Love is not Irritable
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city –Proverbs 16:32
Today’s Dare: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Day 7: Love believes the Best
Love believes all things, hope all things – 1 Corinthians 13:7
Today’s Dare: For today’s dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one,spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheet in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
Day 8: Love is not Jealous
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire – Song of Solomon 8:6
Today’s Dare: Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Day 9: Love Makes Good Impressions
Greet one another with a kiss of love – 1 Peter 5:14
Today’s Dare: Think of a specific way you’d like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Day 10: Love is Unconditional
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us – Romans 5:8
Today’s Dare: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse –something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your own choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his/her favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Day 11: Love Cherishes
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies
–Ephesians 5:28
Today’s Dare: What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give back a rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.
Day 12: Love Let the Other Win
Do not merely look out for your won personal interests, but also the interests of others –Philippians 2:4
Day 13: Love Fights Fair
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand
–Mark 3:25
Today’s Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs. If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
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BE BLESSING
-CILLA-
