As a Christian, I have experienced more than a polite amount of pressure to attend to my appearance by other other Christians. This always befuddles me. My first reaction is to feel shame and consider that the criticism comes from a caring individual; but it is sadly misplaced. I have struggled through the years when approached by older women in the church who suggest I dress a certain way, applaud me when they think I am looking "nice", and even buy me clothes that they believe will help me achieve a presentation of what they consider appropriate. The pressures people create that I am expected to conform to only increase the burdens I tend to carry naturally. Therefore; although I have attempted to comply in order to appease, I will no longer allow the opinions of others to dictate my self worth (if I can help it).
I am now a 33 year old woman with 5 children; my appearance is not a top priority. I simply do not have the resources or time to indulge in accumulating clothing that will generate a response of approval from society. Furthermore, I have my personal taste and I tend to express myself moderately in the frugal purchases that I am able to make. I don't wear makeup and I never have. For me, putting makeup on is like covering up. I don't care to cover up my features, or try to enhance them. My reason for not wearing makeup is connected to my personal values and philosophies.
Somewhere in the Bible there is a verse that states something (paraphrased), "Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." I was talking to God about the subject of appearance recently and that bit came to mind...even more I am examining the damage that demands for appearance alterations create as i am watching my 12 year-old daughter attempt to experiment in this realm.
I have also heard women talk about how they want to be young forever and incorporate God into their ideas of how they want to be beautiful, whatever that means to them. I myself used to ask God, as a child, why I was overweight and miserable. The truth is, I have concluded, God is not concerned with any of that stuff. If genetics are responsible for what our bodies look like, then how much does it really have to do with His concern?
When we die, we leave our bodies behind to rot. I would prefer to live and let the world think I am ugly, but live with a purpose and with compassion; touching and inspiring people's lives; than waste my time grooming to alter myself in order to be more pleasing to behold to others...or to validate them.
I am now a 33 year old woman with 5 children; my appearance is not a top priority. I simply do not have the resources or time to indulge in accumulating clothing that will generate a response of approval from society. Furthermore, I have my personal taste and I tend to express myself moderately in the frugal purchases that I am able to make. I don't wear makeup and I never have. For me, putting makeup on is like covering up. I don't care to cover up my features, or try to enhance them. My reason for not wearing makeup is connected to my personal values and philosophies.
Somewhere in the Bible there is a verse that states something (paraphrased), "Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." I was talking to God about the subject of appearance recently and that bit came to mind...even more I am examining the damage that demands for appearance alterations create as i am watching my 12 year-old daughter attempt to experiment in this realm.
I have also heard women talk about how they want to be young forever and incorporate God into their ideas of how they want to be beautiful, whatever that means to them. I myself used to ask God, as a child, why I was overweight and miserable. The truth is, I have concluded, God is not concerned with any of that stuff. If genetics are responsible for what our bodies look like, then how much does it really have to do with His concern?
When we die, we leave our bodies behind to rot. I would prefer to live and let the world think I am ugly, but live with a purpose and with compassion; touching and inspiring people's lives; than waste my time grooming to alter myself in order to be more pleasing to behold to others...or to validate them.