Reigning in Parental Involvement in Your Child's Life

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Mammachickadee

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Mammachickadee said:
Myself: "I personally dislike barbershop quartets because the mundane harmony gives me a headache. [My daughter] has the right to decide what kind of music she likes. You can take her to the concert if you want"
My father: "No she doesn't."
Myself: "Oh? Why do you think that is?"
My father: "Because kids are too stupid to think anything for themselves."

This conversation occurred just this last Sunday and was carried out right in front of my very impressionable 3 year old... thus making me confident from that point that my father's long-standing philosophy (that children should be in bondage to their parent's personal opinions about every aspect of life)... even after their children are married adults. How does one not allow a statement like this- one of hurt and offense for any understanding child- to make a parent refrain from letting their children associate with the people that raised him (and who she knows extremely well and often disagrees with)?
My husband and I spend much of my daughter's life estranged, and I and my daughter lived a small portion of the estrangement living with my parents. Continually I have been exposed to my parent's repressive attitude toward me, my parenting, and my right to be the decider in my child's life. Would not the kind thing for the family be to limit the time spend with two very judgmental and spiritually abusive people such as my parents?
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RedTent

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God made you and everyone just right for the life they are to live. No parent, no person, has any right to make judgments about that. If they do, they are over stepping the role God gave them.

We live because of God's creation, and God used the parents to help with that. God says we are to always give them respect for that and listen to them. When they overstep their God given role as parent, we are not to listen to that part, God comes first.

So please stay strong in the Lord. Thank Him for your life and all you are. Give your parents thanks for having you. But teach your daughter to be strong in herself and have faith in how she was created. She knows a lot about that from the day she was born, and there are places in her life you have no right to interfere, it is between her and God as she develops the talents God gives her.

Same with you. You can use the situation you are in for strength in yourself. Allow God to work through you. Don't try to change them, that is God's job. Just change you.
 
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Mammachickadee

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It's not my listening that concerns me as much as my daughter listening when her grandpa says in front of her that kids are too stupid to decide if they like a particular type of music.
 
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