Well if there is only one person out there for someone to marry, then if one person marries the wrong person - doesn't that screw it up for everybody else??? LOL That's what one of my profs at school always says
Not saying you can't keep your eyes out for that one, or that you can't search. I just think the general mentality of people who make a living out of searching for a soulmate is that they feel a need to make things work out how they picture it - and are, in fact, emotionally bound to do so - and generally distrust God to handle things. This can be evident in other parts of their lives as well, but the symptoms are abundantly clear when it comes to the spousal search. I'm just emphasizing that your priority should be a focus on developing a more trusting relationship with God, personally. You can meet someone along that road quite easily, and your motivations will make your realationship a LOT stronger and more Christ centered than if the potential mate is your focus (so you can get to know God together later). What you do in the mean time is between you and God. Just to clarify.