First of all, you are not alone in this. Many a couples have had similar experiences.
A guy who is chasing 'me' time (on a nightly basis) is generally overwhelmed by his circumstances. It could be one thing in his life, or a combination of things. That's okay, just be aware of that.
Everyone has needs and we look to others to meet those needs. When those specific needs are not met, we long for them even more. If a person's primary love language need is 'quality time' and our partner is not spending quality time with us, then we naturally believe that the person no longer loves us, or is falling out of love with us. The longer we go without that need being met, the more we crave it, and the more we look to that as our guide-mark for whether the person loves us or not. However, it's a false reality, as the person may in fact love a lot just not in the way we currently 'need'.
I dare say DaisyLady that perhaps one of your love language needs is 'quality time'. You are looking at the lack of quality time that your husband is spending with you as a reflection of whether or not he still loves you. That's a very natural reaction, and one that we all make.
Every couple I've ever counselled when there are at this stage, they tend to dishonour each other in front of others. This is by far the worst thing that you can do.
Honour your husband - Openly praise him in front of others. Openly praise him in front of your kids. If you are friends on facebook - openly brag about something positive he had done. Honour him by writing out a list of the top 40 reasons you love him and place it on his pillow. Most importantly - never ever ever degrade him in front of anyone else. You degrade a man who is already overwhelmed and looking for escape, you will only make it worse.
Then the challenge is to create an atmosphere where your husband feels comfortable spending time together. Your husband likes playing games, so create your own bedroom game and then invite him to come play a kinky game with you.
If you decide to share with him your feelings about how much time he's spending playing games, pick the right time, place and situation. I dare say, finding unique and fun ways to spend time together, he will come to that realisation on his own.
All of this is just tips, but the biggest tip of all, is to pray pray and pray some more. Praying together as a family/married couple can be powerful.
