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I am newly remarried and have adult children, well they are 21 & 22 and my 22yr old has 3 boys. My new husband has a 13yr old we get every other weekend. I have no problem with the 13yr old, I mean, he is 13 and all that goes along with that, but I have adapted to him and his ways and we get along pretty well. What I need advice about is that my husband thinks that for my children to come over, he has to ok it and it has to be known about in advance, like more than 3 days in advance. And he has stated that my grandchildren can not come for over night visits of more than one night. He thinks that its unusual that my daughter would need to come over more than once a week. I tell him that his son comes for overnight visits every other week and he says its different because he is a 13yr old kid and that it is "court ordered" and I knew about it before we were married. And that is true, I did know, and I honestly have no problem with him coming and staying. I was simply trying to help him to understand how I felt about my children & grandchildren. He knew I had children & grandchildren too, but he says they adults and therefore much different than his 13yr old. We are both Christians and attend church regularly, and he tells me that if I don't approve when people come over with him that I am being a disrespectful wife. But I don't feel I should have to tell my daughter she can't come over - it is my house too, right? I do love my husband and this is the ONLY area we seem to have problems with. We have gone to a christian counselor but only twice and it was months apart. He gave us a book to read "Women Need Love. Men Need Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs, which is where & when my husband started telling me I was being a disrespectful wife. (If anyone else has read this book, please comment what you think about it.) So, now I am trying to figure out how to solve this one, but VERY HUGE problem in my new marriage in a fair christian way. Please any help/advice is very much appreciated.