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Cassie84

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I fell in love with a divorced Christian man. I didn't think much of his situation in the beginning because we started as friends and never thought I would have feelings for him. In fact, I hoped he would get back with his wife. She cheated on him and divorced him around five years ago. She had a bad life after that, although she used to be a Christian. She had two children with two different men. The last boyfriend was a more serious relationship and they were planning to remain together. However, she recently returned to church and stopped living with that man because she realized it was not right since they were not married. They still care for the child together. He even started attending church because of her.

I am torn and don't know what the right thing in this situation would be, having in mind what the Bible teaches about divorce between Christians. I am not in a relationship with this man, although he asked me out. When we had talked before he excluded the possibility of getting back with his ex-wife, I guess he was too hurt. I don't think she even considers that option either. But I don't have peace about this.
 
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Jilly81

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Pray about the situation, of course, but if you don't have peace about it after praying, DON'T DO IT!!!
 
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dmdave17

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Dear Cassie,

Jesus appears to give us an "out" when He condemns divorce when He says, "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." (Matthew 5:31, emphasis added) However, if you are uncomfortable about the situation, I agree with Jilly81. Do not get into anything until you are completely at peace with it.

God be with you in pursuing your decision.
 
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Lucy68

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I admire you hesitancy ...what unselfishness :)

Yes, I can see how hard it is...they may get back together and you wonder if you should stand back and not interfere, even though you have feelings for the man.

'When in doubt, don't' is good advice. Standing back and waiting and continuing with your own life is probably the only thing you can do.

But I guess you're wondering if he asks you out what to do. To protect your own emotions, I would advise not going. You may be hurt later if he leads you on only to eventually end up going back to his ex-wife.
 
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GreenNnice

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Lucy68 said:
I admire you hesitancy ...what unselfishness :)

Yes, I can see how hard it is...they may get back together and you wonder if you should stand back and not interfere, even though you have feelings for the man.

'When in doubt, don't' is good advice. Standing back and waiting and continuing with your own life is probably the only thing you can do.

But I guess you're wondering if he asks you out what to do. To protect your own emotions, I would advise not going. You may be hurt later if he leads you on only to eventually end up going back to his ex-wife.
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Let The Lord, lead, Cass, God's given us Himself, never forget. His Spirit will lead you right, pray, and, step.

In scripture, it says to let your 'no' be no. So, let it be so. Yes, people can change, but are you that right special person is the question and the answer is only going to be known by how your heart is led going forward into this relationship. Being equally yoked can speak of christian and non-christian but also refers to things like relationship dating experience pasts, married before for one but not for other, age too. But The Lord lesds i all these areas, pray and listen to His answers , follow Him, cass :)

Proverbs 3:6 says, In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.
Proverbs 16 says 'A man's heart plans his way but the Lord directs his steps.'
 
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Cassie84

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Thank you.
It's not that I worry that he would choose his ex over me. I just think that if I step in then I would exclude the possibility of them getting back together (which seems very unlikely anyway, but I want my conscience clear.)
 
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