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[DGL]

blessedmommy34 wrote:

"the bible teaches in Corthinans 7 that if we divorce, we are to remain single for the rest of our lives or else we become guilty of adultery. "

I would have to disagree with parts of this statement, I think your taking it out of context.

If the husband or the wife were to commit adultery then that is the only reason for divorce (but does not have to lead to it) and the divorced man or women would be free from the sin of adultery if they were to remarry.


This bit is from Barnes:

They, therefore, whoever they may be, who are divorced for any cause except the single one of adultery, if they marry again, are, according to the Scriptures, living in adultery.


Here are some good links on this topic:

CHRISTIAN DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE - Under what conditions may Christians divorce and remarry?

Is Remarriage OK?

 

[Mcokha]

Grace, every relationship that does not lead to marriage has a level of hurt and unfortunately in your case you have no choice and even if this guy divorced today it will still be inapropriate for you to be with him since there is a chance you, knowingly or unknowingly contributed to the home breaking, it does ont matter whether the wife was nasty or cheated he was somehow convinced there is better out there(you
) so Quit! Stay safe and in the Love of God, my question to you Grace is this, Is God inadequate in supplying you with the right Man? God Bless as you ask yourself this and make a turn toward the Lord!

 

[grace45]

Grace, every relationship that does not lead to marriage has a level of hurt and unfortunately in your case you have no choice and even if this guy divorced today it will still be inapropriate for you to be with him since there is a chance you, knowingly or unknowingly contributed to the home breaking, it does ont matter whether the wife was nasty or cheated he was somehow convinced there is better out there(you
) so Quit! Stay safe and in the Love of God, my question to you Grace is this, Is God inadequate in supplying you with the right Man? God Bless as you ask yourself this and make a turn toward the Lord!

I don't think that I contributed to anything, since he was separated when we became friends, but that is your oppinion and you are entitled to it. Maybe if u had read all of the posts and replies, you would have had more clarity on the subject, as I have moved on. I would like to say that I do see a lot of threads where people are looking for someone or something to blame concerning the failure of a marriage, but no one can make anyone love them, either they do or they don't, and if they don't love you, life goes on. A person can turn flips and walk a tight rope with two monkeys and a goldfish, but it wouldn't change a thing. God can restore marriages but he does not go against another persons free will. God is not a witch doctor or a genie that rides a magic carpet. He give us choices, and the choices we make today determine our future. God does not even make people love and accept him, and he sent his only son to die for us all, if he did make us love him, then there would have been no need for sacrifice. That is what true love is about.. SACRIFICE, an action word. Marriage is sacrifice, and if one person is not willing to love back or give of themselves anymore,, who is to blame? I say that to you, because I will not allow you to hold me accountable for anything God has forgiven me for. Lets see,, Who would do that? Oh yeah, the enemy...

 

[Elisa]

I am exactly in your shoes, the only difference is that the man is divorced. Even though it was his wife who cheated and divorced him, I still feel as you do, as if I'm getting in the middle of something. I believe in marriage very much and in the fact that it is a commitment for life, so somehow I feel they still belong together. I don't know if I'm right or wrong.