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Married 7 years, together on and off for 16 years. 4 kids (2 mine and 2 together). I had female problems that made it impossible to have enjoyable intercourse with my husband after my 3rd c-section over a 7 year period. I always had something wrong with me. I didn't know that I had a 2cm uterine fibroid, adenomyosis, painful bladder syndrome as well as scar tissue mashing around on everything. I would push my hubby away constantly. I would tell him I didn't want to have sex and that sex was aweful and painful, he took it personally and thought it meant that I didnt love him and didnt want him. He felt rejected. Well after all this he finally cheated. 2 girls (1 successful fling with girl A, 2 attempts...1 successful with girl B) This all in a 3 week time frame.
Exactly one year later, I had a partial hysterectomy but almost died from kidney failure. My husband was completely devastated by the thought of losing me. We are so extremely happy now because I am not hurting anymore and my libido has gone through the roof. He said that he has his wife back after all these years. He was so in love with me that he was going to take his affairs to his grave but one look in my eyes, and holding me in his arms, I told him no matter what I would never leave him and wouldn't blame him if he cheated during that time. He confessed and told me everything.
The man that cheated on me and the man that was confessing was two totally different people. I was crying and He was crying and puking everywhere at the simple fact that he hurt me and betrayed me that way. He answered all of my questions with honesty and he let me have whatever feelings I was having that hour! He didnt point the finger and he just was so extremely remorseful. He said that he was suffering before, during, and after and that now that he has told me and I didnt leave him, he will spend the rest of our lives showing me that I am the queen of his world.
Am I stupid to forgive so easily or should I make him know that he didnt get away with anything. In my heart and in my mind, this is one amazing man, he just lost site because of his sexual frustrations. But he also told both girls how much he loved me and that he had no intensions of starting any kind of relationship with them. He said he did it because he lost hope that he and I could ever be intimate again, he wanted his life with me and just thought he could get sex elsewhere but he could barely get and erection. Any ways should I pretend to be angry to prove a point that what he did was wrong.
Exactly one year later, I had a partial hysterectomy but almost died from kidney failure. My husband was completely devastated by the thought of losing me. We are so extremely happy now because I am not hurting anymore and my libido has gone through the roof. He said that he has his wife back after all these years. He was so in love with me that he was going to take his affairs to his grave but one look in my eyes, and holding me in his arms, I told him no matter what I would never leave him and wouldn't blame him if he cheated during that time. He confessed and told me everything.
The man that cheated on me and the man that was confessing was two totally different people. I was crying and He was crying and puking everywhere at the simple fact that he hurt me and betrayed me that way. He answered all of my questions with honesty and he let me have whatever feelings I was having that hour! He didnt point the finger and he just was so extremely remorseful. He said that he was suffering before, during, and after and that now that he has told me and I didnt leave him, he will spend the rest of our lives showing me that I am the queen of his world.
Am I stupid to forgive so easily or should I make him know that he didnt get away with anything. In my heart and in my mind, this is one amazing man, he just lost site because of his sexual frustrations. But he also told both girls how much he loved me and that he had no intensions of starting any kind of relationship with them. He said he did it because he lost hope that he and I could ever be intimate again, he wanted his life with me and just thought he could get sex elsewhere but he could barely get and erection. Any ways should I pretend to be angry to prove a point that what he did was wrong.
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