divorce or reconciliation?

[atwhatcost]

Thank you for your response, even though this post was from 2013, I've posted plenty since then, your comment was appreciated but the fact that you really don't know me, it wasnt well thought out, if you have any questions, I'd rather you ask instead of assuming. For this to be a Christian site, I really didn't see the Christianity in your advice at all. I continued with my marriage because I didn't give up, I very aware that the drama is still going on, but who's to say that I make myself a part of it? Clearly I don't want to be apart of it anymore because I filed for divorce, which back then in 2013 I would have never did. One thing is, you don't know me at all to judge me as a parent, because throughout it all, my kids still had me. I don't talk about my kids because I don't involve them in what's going on between him and I. We've never argued in front of our children, so our children live a kids life. Now of course common sense would tell you that If I am posting on a Christian site, I am looking for Christian advice which I dont feel that you've provided. But thanks anyways.

So all your posts updating the situation where you're the victim handling it so well really wasn't true?

What other advice could you possibly get? You got it all before. You tried counseling for a while, but he didn't want to so you both stopped. You've been told to leave, stay, find a church, find someone you can trust, and hand it to God. Exactly what is left to say, other than you really do like to write like it's an ongoing soap opera. Absolutely nothing changes until you decide to seek God's will and do that.

(I also appreciate that I, along with your family, husband and everyone else in your life aren't Christians simply because we disagree with you. Speaking of well thought out. Has this ever gone past you being the center of it all?)

 

[Naz01]

You know this is exactly where the saying, “The Truth Hurts” comes from.* Humans absolutely HATE to hear about their faults, and we all have them.* Like you, I’ve had people tell me things about myself that they considered a flaw.* If they have it right, it hurts
Posting on this site does not necessarily mean u will get to "HEAR" what u want too, and what u feel u should "HEAR"
Sometimes it takes some harsh words for u to make the right decision.

 

[christianwife87]

So all your posts updating the situation where you're the victim handling it so well really wasn't true?

What other advice could you possibly get? You got it all before. You tried counseling for a while, but he didn't want to so you both stopped. You've been told to leave, stay, find a church, find someone you can trust, and hand it to God. Exactly what is left to say, other than you really do like to write like it's an ongoing soap opera. Absolutely nothing changes until you decide to seek God's will and do that.

(I also appreciate that I, along with your family, husband and everyone else in your life aren't Christians simply because we disagree with you. Speaking of well thought out. Has this ever gone past you being the center of it all?)

Thank you for your response, I don't think you get what I'm saying, you went to a 2013 thread and I'm sure that you've read more than one. But my thing is you assume based off my hardship in my marriage that I am not grown up? I never said that my husband did not want to go to counseling, he went and so did I, but he still did what he wanted to do, so that caused me to lose hope in anyone being able to help. I also pray continuously, so because I stayed in my marriage and continued to pray for restoration. Just because it doesn't make sense to your naked eye, doesn't mean that I'm childish or a victim, I am victorious at whatever I do. I never said you weren't a Christian, because you are whoever you think you are and I don't know you, but I am smart enough to discern when the Holy Spirit is speaking through someone and when some just wants to have something to say. You don't know what God is doing in my marriage or with me as an individual, so for you to say I'm childish because of a real life situation that I happen to be going through, it just sounds like you want to have something to say. If I wanted to be the center of attention I would indulge in the drama that is already knocking at my door.
Do you live a perfect life? I doubt it because no one is perfect, have you ever even been married? I listen to advice when it's according to the word of God. You should reevaluate your approach, because you are not God, and no matter how many people give advice, nobody knows what God is doing in my life but God. This is actually a real life situation, but you call it a soap opera? Lol wow! That's funny because a real Christian would call it a test that's about to turn it into a testimony.

 

[christianwife87]

You know this is exactly where the saying, “The Truth Hurts” comes from.* Humans absolutely HATE to hear about their faults, and we all have them.* Like you, I’ve had people tell me things about myself that they considered a flaw.* If they have it right, it hurts
Posting on this site does not necessarily mean u will get to "HEAR" what u want too, and what u feel u should "HEAR"
Sometimes it takes some harsh words for u to make the right decision.

I disagree, I am not the type to hate the truth. I want to know my faults, but I also know me, and I know what I am, I am not childish I am a very good mother, can I speak for my husband? No. This is very interesting because your saying it's okay to sometime be harsh, but according to the word of God, we are to speak with a soft tone and with love, because harsh words stir up anger. Yes I have flaws, but the flaws that this person is assuming I have are not it. My newest thread was to see if I was wrong about not giving my unborn twins my last name and this person decided to go back a couple years and make a comment that's not even relevant to my 2015 thread, it's also interesting that this person chose not to respond in that actual thread, to me he/she just wants to stir up something.