Experience with restored marriage needed

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kathryc

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Hi. About 6 weeks ago, I found out there was "less than faithfulness" going on. My husband, it turns out, was maintaining a friendship (in secret, lying about where he was going) with a woman that he had been sexual with prior to us meeting. In the interim, I found out that while we were engaged, he was sleeping with her then, too. He has not physically cheated on me since we got married, but did take up that friendship again. He seems to be sorry, and God knows I love him so much, and I really want to work things out, as does he. I am finding, however, that I am seriously doubting whether I have what it takes to "get over it", etc...I mean, I am pretty sure that I would not have married him had I known what was going on while we were in the "almost" married stage. I know God can do amazing things, but at the same time, the hurt is just so overwhelming - and I think it bothers him that I can't just "get over it and move on". He IS going to counseling, and he is "doing all the right things". I just am so filled with doubt and hurt right now, and I would really like to hear from others who have been in a similar situation and have come out on the other side - with a stronger, better marriage. Thanks.
 
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artistic_dreams

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well its obvious he broke ur trust...hes sneaking around behind ur back......you need to take a step back and breath.....pray about it....i dont know if you have a christian sister where u r....but if u do then i suggest you talk to her so that you have someone to lean on.....but talk to your husband....he has to be understanding that this is going to take time on ur end.....if you honestly feel u dont have what it takes to move on and continue w/ur husband then best to end it......but if he cant comprehend that its going to take a long time for you to get over it and move on....then he has a problem...he screwed up not you......do whats right for you and dont let him push you into a decision or a path ur not ready for hon..pray about it...blessings to you......
 
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