Experiencing Physical Loneliness

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FormerPooky

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My wife left me about four weeks ago. Since then, I've been able to busy myself during the morning and day time. But when I'm home alone, I get the most soul shaking, painful case of loneliness. This pain is so intense I would not wish it on anyone. All I do is cry out and ask God to please return my wife to me. I am in a viscious cycle of feeling okay, feeling down, deep mourning, soul shattering crying and the process repeats itself all over again. I will never consider suicide, or do anything myself to hasten my own death, but I find myself asking the Lord to please take me home to be with him. I miss my wife... it is difficult to have someone for 25 years then have to make a severe life change. I am looking for physical Christian companionship in my area but am not finding any. I have God-he will never leave me, but he knows I need my wife back. I am giving up the will to go on.
 
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FormerPooky

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I meant when I am home alone in the evening and night.
 
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FormerPooky

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I fear this pain is permanent.
 
damombomb

damombomb

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Pray the Lord to take this pain off your heart, and to send you good friends.
During my alone times i always used it to get closer to the Lord
Also seemed that is when i was closer
 
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chuinchoy

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Find out where your wife is asked the help of your church pastor or church elders who knows her to indicate to her that you want her back and you promised her that if she comes back you would changed from those habit or whatsoever that make her leaving you. Pray, asking God to open her heart to give you a chance BEFORE the person talk to your wife.
 
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Parker

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I would recommend that no matter what your feelings are, or how intense. To just take the time to remember that what God wants for your life will make you happier than anything else ever could. First you have to draw near to God, and be able to be happy with yourself and your fellowship with him. Seeking happiness outside of that realm will only result in further emotional scarring. I can't imagine what emotions you are having to deal with right now, but you have to give all of your pain and troubles over to Jesus. Whenever you feel that hurt coming on, just run to the Lord and seek refuge in him, he will help you to carry the burden, he will give you the rest that you need to keep moving forward. God is the #1 love in your life, make sure your actions reflect actually being in love with God. When you reach for God, he will reach for you and never let you go, the closer you are to him, the happier you are going to be while you still have time on this Earth. God bless you
 
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Wukong59

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Me and you are in similar situations. My wife & I too separated the beginning of Oct. after 28 yrs of marriage. Like you I'm fine in the day time while I'm at work but in the evenings I get so lonely. Lately I'm filling my time with cleaning things, seeing a movie, playing a video game, taking long slow walks with the dog. It's hard when you have a house full of kids and wife for that long to suddenly be empty. My youngest is a SR in high school and is splitting time between the both of us.

Are you separated too, or, did your wife just leave? I've read today that women initiate divorce 75% of the time. Today I met with my wife as she isn't pursuing another relationship but isn't too interested in moving back anytime soon or researching ways to better the marriage though she will meet with me and listen to things I've found about that. Today she took a lengthy printout of a good article I printed out for her which talks about why marriages fail and how to ways to help restore them.

I'll talk with you if you like as we're in a similar way. You can add me as a contact if you have skype (gizmobyte), leave a brief message about who you are.

May the Lord bring you & I His peace!
Patrick
 
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loveme1

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Of course after all those years you will now feel alone, for before you had your companion during those times.

May you be quick to see that we are never alone my friend, he is always there.

May Yahvah God and Yahshua the Messiah fill your heart with comfort my friend.

If it is Yahvah God's will for you and your wife to be reconciled then it will be so.

Spend time Praying and seeking.
 
happyinhisway

happyinhisway

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the reason your experinsing this lonelyness is because you have lost half of your self. but you already knew that. God said let no man seperate what he has joint. their has to be good christian men to hang around with in your area. No matter what happen between you and your spouse, dont forget that Jesus Loves you, I dont sugguest of finding a woman friend to jhand aroung with because you will develope imotional attachement to her in your situation, and it may be more hurtful than good.
not know what happen in your marriage you might want so seek profecinal councelling.
 
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