Family hurts me the most.

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Meisha022

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Growing up I haven't had the perfect figure and I still don't but I stay confident in my life. There was name calling and bullying. It hurt me emotionally but I pulled through. In the recent years, I have learned not to let what people say get me down so when i would hear it, I could laugh at it and be okay even though I am very insecure. The other day I found out that my brothers talk about my weight with their friends and it felt like a knife went through my throat. I wanted to cry because I was so hurt. I do just about anything for my brothers and for them to do what they did hurt me. I can forgive it but I can't forget it. Today me and my brothers were eating dinner and they commented how they hated that I post on Facebook how I thank God for how he's brought me through my trials. This struck me hard. I have been through so much all my life but they don't see it. I simply blocked the both of them on Facebook and stayed quiet. It seemed as if they aren't happy for what God is doing for me. I am so hurt by all they have caused, I don't plan on doing anything else for them ever. I know it sounds harsh so what should I do? I don't want to cause them any hurt or pain. After all that they have put me through, I still want to see them succeed. Help! please!
 
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mindys

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Hun this is true family hurts u more than strangers but like my grandma use to say shake the dust off your feet and let them go hold your head high and always know god loves you and siblings can be jealious
 
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RedTent

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The person that you are closest to, the one who you visit with the most, is you and I hope also God who is within you. There is absolutely nothing you can do about the life of those around you. But you can do a lot about you. It is God who defines you, not other people. It is God you owe your life to, now your brothers. What they say reflects on the people they are, not on the person you are. So you can stand tall in the Lord. God has a special place, just for you that you are created just right to fill. Don't let others come between you and that place. You have a lot of grooming and training to do to best fulfill that special place, don't let abusers or bullies detract you from your goal.

Here is what God says to do about abusers and those who sin against us:

Mat 18:15 "If your brother sins against you, go and rebuke him in private. If he listens to you, you have won your brother. Mat 18:16 But if he won't listen, take one or two more with you, so that by the testimony of two or three witnesses every fact may be established. Mat 18:17 f he pays no attention to them, tell the church. But if he doesn't pay attention even to the church, let him be like an unbeliever and a tax collector to you.

Everyone comes up against a bully or an abuser sometimes in their life. If you read the story of David, he certainly did. King Saul even planned to kill him, and David spent years handling Saul's abuse. Many of the psalms are written about David putting up with it. You can walk away, just like David did, without letting yourself be mortally wounded.

God can use this to help you prepare a strong spirit within you, let God take you over.

I grew up with people who bullied me, and some still do. Mom was sick until I was five so an Aunt raised me, and Aunt was a hooligan. I must have been quite a character when Mom got me, and Mom surely didn't like what she saw. Mom had me begging for some sort of approval within six months, and that approval didn't come, ever. Aunts who thought they should have had me added their opinion that Aunt ruined me, I was hopelessly unacceptable. A sister came along who always told me that she had never seen anything good in me and will not speak to this day. I managed to be slender, pretty (except for that slumped shoulder poor me look) and educated, it never helped the bullying. I didn't handle it well. My tears would fill buckets. My wonderful husband helped, but I would sneak out in the night to cry. It was pathetic, and so very unnecessary. Don't let yourself fall into that trap.
 
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lcerveny

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My heart feels for you. First, get off Facebook. It really does cause more problems than good. Come to this website if you need the social interaction.
I was the family scape goat. At age 48 I still am. They apparently don't want to talk to me because I have not heard from them in over a year. I am working on my relationship with Jesus and believe the family stuff will work inself out eventually. God is most important!

[h=3]Galatians 2:20[/h]I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

[h=3]Proverbs 16:3[/h]Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.


[h=3]Colossians 3:1-4 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.[/h]Blessings to you my friend:)
 
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letti

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Let,what they say go in one ear and out of the other.For whatever reason they do this as much as it hurts,know this you will be obedient to GOD in staying silent.Pray for them each person alive has faults,Pray GOD will allow them to quit doing this.Also a little tip,People who like to insult you family or other wise often do it more when the get a reaction from doing so.So to ignore the insults may lay them off with it.I tell my children this when they get teased in school.
 
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Lucy68

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First, guys don't understand how sensitive we females are about our weight. I would just put that down to being 'clueless'. They also don't understand how sensitive we are to our spiritual makeup, which when we're young will involve a good bit of emotion. Emotion is NOT bad, but we can't base our faith on emotions.

Siblings often conflict, even ones that have a lot of love for one another. Try to keep on good terms with your family members...even when they hurt you. Family relationships last a lifetime and can be very rewarding.

That doesn't mean you have to be a doormat either. If they keep insulting you, try to limit your time around them. And especially, find Christian friends that share your beliefs!! This will be the source of your MOST rewarding relationships! Seek them out...find a church to attend, participate in group activities. They are out there!

Most importantly, work on a close relationship with Christ. Read and study God's Word thoroughly, pray, and participate in group worship. These will build you up...emotionally, mentally, and spiritually! Listening the worship music also is encouraging.

Praying for you....wisdom and guidance :).
 
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