Fatherless Boys,Is it the Problem?

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Itis the men’s duty to reach out to these boys and be a Godley mentor to thembefore it is too late.
 

stand2

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A "single parent" home is just another PC term that snuck into our way of thinking about, what it actually is. They were always referred to as "broken homes". A term that more closely describes the situation. A broken home infers a personal action. Someone or more accurately, two people have broken something valuable; something they promised they would not break. Only now, in our "modern" world, there is no shame, no accountability, no responsibility and no remorse. Divorce is as common as taking out the trash. We could fix this with one word........GOD. True, Christian families have a far better chance at success, because God is (or should be) the head of the family...........Sadly, we have painted our society into a corner in feeble attempts to whitewash what we all know is a contemptible situation, filled with denial, hypocrisy, and misdirection......And God is far from us. Let each of us pray for our nation to feel the conviction which boldly stares back defiantly, in want of repair.
 

oldethennew

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I was brought up in foster care, fostered by my aunt, there was no male role
model in my life.

I think the absence of a good mother and a good father impacts both on girls and
boys. They get a distorted view of a functional family life. I’ve read as well that children
born into single parent families are less likely to get married or have a balanced view of
love between a man and a woman.

Before my aunt became a Christian she emphasised a lot that men only wanted one thing for
example.

I think as well that families with both parents in place which are disfunctional, abusive,
violent will also cause just as many problems for children. They grow up bitter with violence.

Lets face it, everyone needs Jesus.

I agree that in the future there will be massive problems for children brought up with two
mothers or two fathers who are encouraged to be whatever gender they want. Talk
about an up and coming identity crises or what. I wonder if this particular change in
society signifies the last days and the oncoming rebellion as it spreads.

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a very good Post, Miri...

just trying to wrap one's mind around this is like watching a horror movie being lived
out right in front of our eyes, well, for those whose eyes are open to the reality of
and the consequences of denying our Saviour's Ways and going rogue...

PRO. 6:16-19.
These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:

A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

1JOHN 4:17.
Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in The Day of Judgment:
because as He is, so are we in this world.

ROMANS 12:2.
And be not conformed to this world: but be you transformed by the renewing of your mind,
that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, Will of God.
 

kaylagrl

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Thanks for sharing your testimonies,it certainly is encouraging to hear. My own father was raised in a fatherless home and had stepfathers that hated him. In his late teens someone invited him to church and he was saved. He married my mother when he was 19 and she's a very strong Christian.I believe she has been the glue that held the marriage together and helped him stay in church. His past has caused many issues in his life,insecurity being one. He constantly threatened to leave when we were growing up as children and that gave us insecurity. I don't think we yet understand how much broken homes affect children and on into adulthood.
 

Nehemiah6

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Itis the men’s duty to reach out to these boys and be a Godley mentor to them before it is too late.
Agreed, provided men are allowed to be men, and women understand that there is a difference between men and women.

After Western countries abandoned the Bible and Christianity and swallowed the lies of socialism and liberalism (including theological liberalism), there was a radical change in how men viewed themselves and women viewed men. Men were shamed to be men, while women started wearing the pants literally and figuratively. And the courts began to favor women over men when it came to custody issues.

The primary issue of course is spiritual, and at the very least Christian men and women should understand their God-given roles in the home and in the church. Unfortunately, "Evangelical Feminism" began to corrupt the churches, women began to DEMAND being accepted as pastors, teachers, or clergy, the men folded instead of standing firm on the Word of God, and now we have "gender-neutral" "Bibles" being promoted and used among the liberal churches, and Christians standing by and allowing the rot to proceed.

So under the circumstances, we should not be surprised when the fathers and husbands are missing from the homes, and the women can barely cope because it was never their business to wear the pants. On top of that there is a huge push to promote transgenderism now, and add further to moral and spiritual confusion and rot. Then we have the "gay" rights people clamoring for same -sex marriage, and the courts and politicians folding and encouraging this perversion.
 

Waggles

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This is why we are truly in the very last days before
it all goes bang.
Look at Paul's warnings to Timothy about perilous times a coming
and that men shall be lovers of pleasures more than being lovers
of God.
The wrath and judgment of God hangs over the world like the
sword of Damocles.

Homosexual "marriage" may well be the straw that breaks
the camel's back.
 

OneFaith

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I always wanted a dad (and a mom). No child should be without loving parents. Try to fill the void with church members and TV. I grew up watching the Cosby show and Growing Pains, and at least having a good parent influence made a difference in my life.
 

LittleMermaid

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I would have liked to have my dad around more. :( When my friends got roses on Valentine's Day from their dads...that stung bad.

My brother has taken it harder. He greatly dislikes both of our parents. Not good all around. People really need to think about who they have children with and if they really are going to stay together forever.

I'm gonna read the article and when I'm done...I might come back and add. But yeah...it sucks being raised by a single parent. My mom was never home because she was always working. So my brother and I were with grandma a lot. Grandma prefers boys...it was not fun. She would say I had sh%t for a brain. And till this day she caters to my brother.

A little part of me hates my dad. I know it's wrong but I can't help it. He is 11 years older than mom. He took advantage of a 21 year old girl, had two kids with her, and left.
 
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TrevorAR

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Yes fatherless is a major problem, and also sin and the devil are a major problem. Combine both and you have unruly, rebellious children who can grow up to be very bad societal problems.
 

Alertandawake

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The problem when it comes to children having no dads, is two fold, and the following two points I will make both contribute to the issue.

1. These so called sperm clinics where men donate their sperm,
2. Single mothers by choice, denying their child the right to a father/Lesbian couples wanting children.

Just to be clear, in no way am I attacking mothers who are widows. They wanted their child to have a father, but events happened where the child lost his/her dad. This happens.

At one point I thought the main problem of children without dads is because it was mainly the fault of women who just wanted to be single mothers, but over time I came to realize it is also the fault of these men who donate their sperm to these clinics. They contributed to this as well.

Another problem for example, is when a man donates his sperm to a lesbian couple in order for them to have children. Being in this political correctness type society, the donor man thinks he is doing a good thing. Sorry, but in this case, the man did not do a good thing, because the child has been denied a father.

What is more messed up is when you hear stories of mothers that have multiple children with multiple dads, with all the dads still alive for that matter.
 
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Yes. It is a problem. Families need to learn how to manage when there is no father in the home.
 

SelMar87

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I'm reading a book right now which I do recommend if you have sons (they also have one for girls). It's called Bringing Up Boys and it is written by Dr. James Dobson. Sadly, a two parent home is becoming the minority now, and many issues are rooted to the fact that there is no father in the home. My husband is from a single mother home, and went through very tough times until he found men in Christ who led and guided him down the right way.
 

oldethennew

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I would have liked to have my dad around more. :( When my friends got roses on Valentine's Day from their dads...that stung bad.

My brother has taken it harder. He greatly dislikes both of our parents. Not good all around. People really need to think about who they have children with and if they really are going to stay together forever.

I'm gonna read the article and when I'm done...I might come back and add. But yeah...it sucks being raised by a single parent. My mom was never home because she was always working. So my brother and I were with grandma a lot. Grandma prefers boys...it was not fun. She would say I had sh%t for a brain. And till this day she caters to my brother.

A little part of me hates my dad. I know it's wrong but I can't help it. He is 11 years older than mom. He took advantage of a 21 year old girl, had two kids with her, and left.
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LittleMermaid,

I could tell you stories about my childhood that 'Stephen King and Ann Rice' couldn't even come up with -
and I have been lovingly led to heal and forgive,,.

Un-forgiveness is in reality, torturing 'yourself', while they go about living their daily lives with the
switch turned-off,,.

Put on Jesus' Christ's mantle and forgive and be free from the bondage of this evil world,...
if you Love Him, He will make it possible, for this is an Holy 'PROMISE' directly from Him in scripture,,.
 

Deade

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My father died 6 months before I was born (see story in testimonies forum: Coming to Jesus). My mother had been through so much trauma, she never bonded with me. So LittleMermaid, I know what it is like to get kicked aside and ignored. My mother babied my older brother and that kept him from being independent.

I was very independent, and looked outside my dysfunctional family for my role models. I think that is what caused me to look for Jesus at 12 years of age. God wasn't ready to call me then. I believe that I looked: is why God called me later. I feel everything, in my life, has been to prepare me for service to our Lord.

 

MarcR

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I know that what I am about to suggest is difficult but certainly NOT IMPOSSIBLE.

If Christian men would come alongside single mothers in the community and offer assistance such as inviting them on family outings and offering to help with discipline issues it might solve some of the problems. To avoid temptations it might be a good idea to involve our wives.
 

Miri

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My father died 6 months before I was born (see story in testimonies forum: Coming to Jesus). My mother had been through so much trauma, she never bonded with me. So LittleMermaid, I know what it is like to get kicked aside and ignored. My mother babied my older brother and that kept him from being independent.

I was very independent, and looked outside my dysfunctional family for my role models. I think that is what caused me to look for Jesus at 12 years of age. God wasn't ready to call me then. I believe that I looked: is why God called me later. I feel everything, in my life, has been to prepare me for service to our Lord.

He takes care of the widows and orphans.
 

Miri

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I know that what I am about to suggest is difficult but certainly NOT IMPOSSIBLE.

If Christian men would come alongside single mothers in the community and offer assistance such as inviting them on family outings and offering to help with discipline issues it might solve some of the problems. To avoid temptations it might be a good idea to involve our wives.

It sounds a wonderful idea, infortunately I doubt it will happen.
As a single woman (with no children) its difficult enough to mix with
married couples as it is. Add children into the mix and I image it would
be near impossible.

Other the years I’ve managed to remain good proper friends with just
two married couples! It gets harder as well as you get older. I’ve had
middle aged wives tell me I look too young and too attractive to mix
with them. It’s not my fault if I only look 30. Lol I trust me, its just
a pity they don’t trust their husbands!

Unfortunately many Christians even born again ones, have this I’m all right
jack and the only thing that matters is my own little world”.


Maybe another way forward is to have more male Sunday school teachers and
yourh workers. But there again many men think it’s women’s work.
 
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