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Lilhope

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Isaria says he doesn't sound so bad??? Making racial comments about Black ppl isn't so bad?
 
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Ladykool

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My love, first pray for him. That's your only strength. Then lovingly entice him into doing what you want him to do. i know what I'm saying because I just got divorced and I wouldn't want that happeining to you. You're still very new in the institution. May God help you
 
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Quickfire

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Inthevalley said:
How do I respond to a self-centered know it all? We recently married an the new has worn off! I love my husband,we are Christians, but he has a mountain of excuses,for procrastination, and if Im sick he wont go to church. Im starting to question whether he's really saved or just playing the part. He's always refering to black people as nigers,"which sends me oved the top". When asked to outreach or fast he says no. He only outreaches when the church does. He doesnt read the bible at all, an only prays for 2 to 5 min a day. He blows up at the drop of a hat. I love this man,but I dont know what to do. On the other hand, he's a wonderful cook,an pleases me romantically. What should I do?
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find a physical sport you can both play and are both good at it works wonders.
try getting in touch with each others emotions.
try something like lieing next to each other sideways and doing stretching arobocis he may find it silly at first but when you can both do things togeather that embaresses the other person then you can start to get in touch with your emotions to.
you should as a female should also try a sport that is more of a mans thing like self defense of some sort marcial arts or boxing even sumo wrestling you dont have to hit each other but more of a case of studying each other and building each others confidence up.
me and wife do arobics a few times a week it works wonders for are playful sides and deeper understanding of our emotions and feelings for each other we also do shading boxing to with gloves and hand pads no hitting in the face etc.
so finds thing that embaresess each other him and work on them and have a laugh with them.
it really does work.
 
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Quickfire

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i dont know weather you got the message there or not, "but what i was trying to say was people blowing there top in a relationship is sign of lack of understanding of your inner emmotions and when you do things togeather that embarress the other then you can start to talk about these things when the other person is in a redfaced embaressed happy state so the plan is to get the other person in that state where they will listen to what it is thats bothering you.
if your both doing a contact sport of one of many of the many arts boxing etc the guys protectives instincts take over where he can see your fears and when you spot that look in his eye you can talk to him.
 
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kessy001

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I think your husband is a christian. The issue i see here is that he is not as spiritual as you are, or as much as you want him to be. Women who are more spiritual than their man,in a bid get them to improve/grow spiritually, we get frustrated and judgmental when we don't see the change we expect. This is because we are trying to help the holy spirit do His job!

I will advice that you pray for him, encourage n appreciate every effort he makes, keep praying and most importantly be very patient,ask God for grace to be patient with your husband.
Focus on the family have great resources, you can check out their website.

It is well with your home. Shalom!
 
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GraceRevelation

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I sense your frustration and I know I'd feel the same way. You love him..that's a great start. He says he's a Christian, so I'm assuming he has the fundamental beliefs that Christians have which is also great. Pray for him, also set a good example don't allow him to influence you but influence him. Sounds to me like his eyes are off Jesus and he's living more worldly right now, that's something that can happen to the best of us. Don't worry about it, just give the situation to God he will handle it.
 
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