Heartbroken by wife of 17years

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WC72

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Hi. I'm new to christian chat but I am really needing friends and encouragement. After 17+ years my marriage is over. In Jan I found out my wife had been cheating on me. I tried to work things out but she wasn't willing so she forced me to move out. She is now in another relationship with yet another man who she says she loves. I am the father of a teen boy who lives with me and has become very angry and bitter. I live in California and have no family here other than my wife's parents and her extended family. My job requires that I work a split shift so there is no time for me to make friends.I was faithful to my wife and loved her with all of my heart. I worked hard and sacrificed for my family and now I am lonely, depressed and heart broken. I work around 46 hours a week and taking care of my son and all the day to day chores I am at a breaking point. I do attend church on Sunday mornings but I am new to the church and have very low esteem right now so it's hard to socialize. I feel all a lone and betrayed. I'm hoping to connect with friends who will pray for and with me, give me sound advise and maybe chat with others with similar experiences.
 
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Bryancampbell

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Prayers and blessings brother, remember we walk by faith not by sight, what seems like trouble might be what will strengthen you in the Lord if you persevere through it by trusting in Him alone. May the Lord richly bless you in His will! :)
 
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tommysgirl

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I will an did pray for u....so sad...so broken...GOD is the GOD of the broken he fixes...he will mold you shape you in the fire you will come out shining as gold.cry out to GOD....he hears an responds in ways that are not ours...you will see pray give thanks repent read...be still...fellowship with him....hes waiting watching wanting amen...he is faithful...everything
 
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Lucy68

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I'm so sorry you're going through this!! The feeling of rejection is extremely painful...especially after working and providing for your family. You're right to feel hurt and betrayed. This is where you really have to take your hurt to Christ. Only He can mend a broken heart, and mend it correctly.

Try not to listen to Satan who will tell you that there must be something wrong with YOU, since your wife divorced you. That just isn't true...when a spouse chooses to leave a covenant relationship, it is THAT person who is in the wrong. She has chosen to throw away a very precious gift...something that she's invested in for 17 years. She'll never get that back, no matter how hard she tries. You may not see it now, but, truly, she is the one who has lost the most. She just doesn't know it yet. We can't control other people, we can only control ourselves and how we react to things...like hurt.

I really recommend attending church on a regular basis. Some churches (esp. big ones) have support groups for divorced people. This is an area that needs a lot of the Savior's healing. The marriage relationship is probably the most significant relationship we can ever enter into, and when it goes wrong, it needs a lot of love and understanding for healing... especially when you are one betrayed.

Watch out for resentment and bitterness. This is a very natural human response to hurt but it can be deadly in prohibiting the Spirit from working inside us. Again, a Christian support group can help you work through this. As you process the pain, your self-esteem will come back. Don't give up! Your Heavenly Father WILL get you through this, and your son, if you take it ALL to Him.

Praying for you brother.....that you feel the love of Christ today and every day, that the Spirit will lead you into healing and that you can share this with your son. May Christ bless you and keep you :).
 
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savedandhopeful

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Praying for you and your son.
 
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reject-tech

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You can find peace if you believe that God will use their wrongdoings as a witness against them, now, or later, to fix them for a new earth.
And give you greater things than other people have taken, because you were steadfast in faith and compassion.

Psalm 86
 
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WC72

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Thanks Lucy68 and to the other Bros. and Sis. for your support and prayers. It's touching that so many care. God is good and he is faithful. I know he is God on the mountain and God in all my valleys. This week my employer arranged my schedule that will allow me to be home in the evenings with my son and also allows me to attend night services at my church. This is such a blessing to me. Thanks again for all of your prayers.
 
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savedandhopeful

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That is good, so glad you can be with your son and I believe that going to church and surrounding yourself with church family will be such a blessing.
 
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