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Hi there! I am new to this chat site. I am 30 years old and have been married to my husband for a little more than 4 years. I feel like we've been great friends (we grew up together) but ever since we've been married he has failed to hold down a steady job. And the jobs he does get are so obscure. I divided our bills up (me still paying more b/c I have had a steady well paying job for the past 7 years) and he was to pay our mortgage payment....he failed to pay our mortgage, thus our home is in foreclosure.
I found an apartment for myself and my 2 daughters (from a previous marriage) to move into. So since January, my husband and I have been sepearted. At first, he was very torn up, emotional, frantic about losing me. Now, he says he loves me and wants us to work things out BUT he has moved in with a friend. And now, he spends every waking minute with that friend. I'm the one living alone, feeling sad and lonely and it hurts even more to know he is always with a friend having a good time. He never has to go to bed in an empty house, wake up to an empty house...he doesn't have to have those hard moments like I do. And he spends every minute w/ the friend. Even when I invite my husband to have dinner...he will tell me no so he can hang out w/ his friend.
Our deal was that we would give our marriage 90 days....well the 90 days came and went. He still doesn't have a job, I am definitely not his #1 priority and I feel the more time goes by the more detached he is from ME and the more attached he is to living w/ his friend and having "guy time" all the time. I'm so torn. He does spend time w/ me and claims to love me and want things to work out....but I think he loves being w/ his friend and not having any responsibility.
I found an apartment for myself and my 2 daughters (from a previous marriage) to move into. So since January, my husband and I have been sepearted. At first, he was very torn up, emotional, frantic about losing me. Now, he says he loves me and wants us to work things out BUT he has moved in with a friend. And now, he spends every waking minute with that friend. I'm the one living alone, feeling sad and lonely and it hurts even more to know he is always with a friend having a good time. He never has to go to bed in an empty house, wake up to an empty house...he doesn't have to have those hard moments like I do. And he spends every minute w/ the friend. Even when I invite my husband to have dinner...he will tell me no so he can hang out w/ his friend.
Our deal was that we would give our marriage 90 days....well the 90 days came and went. He still doesn't have a job, I am definitely not his #1 priority and I feel the more time goes by the more detached he is from ME and the more attached he is to living w/ his friend and having "guy time" all the time. I'm so torn. He does spend time w/ me and claims to love me and want things to work out....but I think he loves being w/ his friend and not having any responsibility.