How did you deal with rejection?

[Violet24]

I had some experiences in my life where the feeling of rejection was very real to me, which somehow became integrated into my world view of how I lived life. Well long story short, I have learned & still learning who I am in Christ, and once we are able to see ourselves the way Jesus does, with Love & acceptance, unique & fearfully & wonderfully made, that makes every negative feeling of rejection loose its grip. Bottom line...Knowing we are Fearfully & Wonderfully made

 

[Chuckt]

I was speaking in the context of romantic interpersonal relationships. Rejection from acquaintances is one thing - take me or leave me. Rejection from a potential romantic interest was something else entirely. I gave up trying to chat up women who were trying to catch my eye. It's worked so well that most women in my small town of 2000 people think I am as gay as a picnic basket.

Can you walk down the street and match any two people to get married? No. The odds of getting married are worse than getting struck by lightning for a number of reasons. I'll give you an example. Write down ten things you are. On the page, use ten lines and write, "I am" and complete the sentence. Then on another page, write "He/She is" and complete the sentence.

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Well, if you examine the two lists, few if any of the things on the list would match. We're expecting opposites to come together but yet they attract and then people have problems.

I had women tell me I was unworthy so I started making things and I created my own happiness. We shouldn't be dependent on another person to tell us our worth. When I look back at the people who rejected me and look, what I see is that they were horrible people who did very little for God and I'm better off without them.

If you want to get married, I suggest you find someone who loves Jesus more than you do.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I eat rejection for breakfast.

Rejection is my friend. Its my cue not to waste precious time and energy on someone not into me. It saves your time and leads you one step closer to finding true love.

 

[blueorchidjd]

Before I read any posts I will say what I have felt in terms of rejection as of late and the largest thing I have realized about rejection is that there is no other way around rejection other than to be who we are and to the fullest extent.
People aren't going to understand it
You may be labeled a Pagan
Your family may think you have issues
But you have God, first of all: He has a special calling on your life and that's the key there is no other way and we must not step out of the boundaries he has set before us in this life after he has revealed that to us.
I have found rejection to not hurt as much as it used to, it used to really take over me...but I have found that now I find it just a little bit irritable...and when it gets in the way of my goals I am beginning to realize that I must make solutions instead of avoiding the...other pathways I would rather go. This life used to be so pleasantly easy and I used to think it was the most difficult thing in the world. Now I look back on what I know and the knowledge I have now is something that I am happy with accepting, and I wouldn't go back to easier times where I actually had fake friends (that knew nothing of my inward being) and to be their little puppet.
Anyway.
Rejection from family is something that was always there, I feel like I had a hologram family so I can't really give advice other than what is sound biblically. It's kind of a blessing when you experience rejection from your family because that helps rip the band-aid off quicker when it comes to approaching situations you experience in your life....You then go to God directly. I feel that if I actually had a family that cared about me I wouldn't be going to God first.

Some thoughts.
Moral of the story, rejection is bearable when you fill God in the hole that exists after the rejection leaves you wounded.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Underneath the fear of rejection is pride and ego.

 

[Dan58]

Rejection isn't a problem, but when others walk a wide path around you, that kind of avoidance makes me wonder if I was too pushy or if I came-off as being too self-righteous or overzealous. Sometimes Christians can be a bit overbearing, and no one likes an arrogant know-it-all. It can be unpleasant for others to be around a domineering believer, so its wise to back-off and remember to interact with others, rather than overwhelming them with a one dimensional persona. You can stand for something without ramming it down someones throat, sometimes its best to just pleasantly agree to disagree in order to maintain a friendly atmosphere.

 

[Lost_sheep]

Can you walk down the street and match any two people to get married? No. The odds of getting married are worse than getting struck by lightning for a number of reasons. I'll give you an example. Write down ten things you are. On the page, use ten lines and write, "I am" and complete the sentence. Then on another page, write "He/She is" and complete the sentence.

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Well, if you examine the two lists, few if any of the things on the list would match. We're expecting opposites to come together but yet they attract and then people have problems.

I had women tell me I was unworthy so I started making things and I created my own happiness. We shouldn't be dependent on another person to tell us our worth. When I look back at the people who rejected me and look, what I see is that they were horrible people who did very little for God and I'm better off without them.

If you want to get married, I suggest you find someone who loves Jesus more than you do.

Been married twice. No thanks. Never again. I'm celibate and quite content. I just so happen to be a pretty good looking guy and the ladies try to catch my eye. I don't care to ever even go out to dinner with a woman. They are nothing more than people of the opposite gender.

 

[NewWine]

I eat rejection for breakfast.

Rejection is my friend. Its my cue not to waste precious time and energy on someone not into me. It saves your time and leads you one step closer to finding true love.

It took me a while to learn that, but I so agree!

 

[NewWine]

Underneath the fear of rejection is pride and ego.

Oh My Goodness!!! I didn't think anyone else, besides me, thought this way!! Yay I think I just met my new bestie lol

 

[20]

I just couldn't care about that.Usually, I'll give to the Lord opportunity to resolve this problem for me.It keep my emotions safe and make me wise on this way.

 

[LiJo]

Rejection is God's protection.....sure it hurts but after a day of self pity I usually get back on the bike and start pedaling.

 

[Jak795]

Hello,
If anyone is willing, I would like to know how you personally dealt with rejection from friends, family, anyone etc? In order to respect people's privacy, you don't have to give details. Just want to know how you dealt with and allowed God to heal those areas? Any advice is appreciated....

It's a hard pain to recover from, that's for sure. It took me a while to move on from losing ties with a close friend. I tried to take my mind off it with distractions. Stuff that always put me in a better mood, so I didn't think about it so much. It wasn't really avoidance but rather breathing room to get it together. Sometimes I just go off on my own to reflect to on it. Vent whatever emotions I had and talk to God about it.

What ultimately got me through it was the Lord. Through him, were never alone and his plans for us will still go on.

Another thing that helps. Don't blame yourself for it or the person in question. Some relationships just weren't meant to work. Save your circle for those that really matter like your family and focus on what you still have and not what you don't have.
Always avoid walking away with a grudge too if possible. That's only going to make it feel worse.

 

[GodisGlorious]

I have been musing on how rejection is so common. And thinking about how in this world acceptance can be so transient, conditional. Maybe the blessing in rejection is that it leads us to seek acceptance and can lead us to the One who can provide that true acceptance that doesnt fail. I know that when I press into him and rely on, depend on him for that acceptance, the rejection that can come from others matters less because the need is met in him.

 

[Habit]

Hey. Its a difficult thing to deal with. When it happened to me I had myself a good cry and then afterwards i told myself, out loud, that I will never cry over it ever again. I then started to focus on other things and as time went by I got over it. I focused on building a relationship with God and my life is so much better. I see things happening for me. Sometimes God will remove a person from your life because He knows where He is taking you and you don't need the baggage.

 

[blue_ladybug]

ROFL at "gay as a picnic basket".