How do I accept him??

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kricky517

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My mother was trying to set me up with this guy a while back. However, I am really looking for a Christian man who holds the same values as I do. And this guy did not seem to fit. So then my mom broke it off with her husband. Now my step dad was not a nice man. He mentally abused me and was always negative. However, she was able to leave him because she decided she wanted the man she was trying to set me up with. Just a side note, he is a lot older than me and just a little younger than my mom. But anyway, the whole situation is just so awkward. She tried to get me to go out with him first, so being around him is just weird.
My mother cannot be alone. She has never been single for long. She jumps from one horrible relationship to the next. This man is very socially awkward and truth be told gives me the creeps. There is just something about him.
I just don't know how I can get over this. I pray for her all the time that she will see that what she really needs is to spend time with God and get to know herself. That is what I am doing. I am focusing on my daughter and on God. Finding out that I need God to choose if, who, and when I will marry.
Have no idea how to just accept the man.
 
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Ugly

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Wow. That is incredibly awkward. I can't even imagine. I actually don't even have any suggestions. Which is pretty bad for a know it all haha. Well, i'm sure someone else will come along more useful. But it's good you are not following in her footsteps and are learning from her mistakes. I hope you can find some peace and answers for all of this.
 
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Yuanyuan

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Hi sister, i would pray for you. Sorry to know about what you are walking through. Hugs
 
Huckleberry

Huckleberry

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This is just one man's opinion, but I think maybe it would be wise
for you to move far away from your mother. As in across the country.
 
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Snowflake85

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Well, my best friend did that to me. She knew I had feelings for a guy and she went behind my back to date him. Now they are married and our relationship if that is what you call it is in turmoil. God is a God of restoration and love. Restoration is making things better than before even if it means you won't have a relationship with your mom. You will be okay. I know it is hard right now and to be honest you need to acknowledge they have a relationship but it doesn't mean you have to accept it. With everything my 'friend' did to me I now think of it more as a blessing. Because if he is that type of guy it is better that I didn't end up with him and he is my friends problem not mine. Now I am happily married with a couple kids and enjoying the people God put into my life. The same thing can happen to you just allow God to do it and not to dwell on the things of this world. Continue your education and focus on God and your future and move on. I will be praying for you. Good Luck.
 
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sensible

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hi, Im sorry to hear this my dear , keep praying , God knows when to change situations, trust in Him , ur Mother heart will change, try to explain her and discuss more with her, that u aren't ready and u don't want that boy , Don't worry abt ur futur , God will take control over that , he knows when to send the right one to u , continu pray , keep courage because ur situation will soon change :) take care
 
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Ariel82

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now that is kind of distracting..............


truthfully I would be kind of feeling like he was creepy too because the fact he was willing to take you on a date kind of implies something, doesn't it?

My suggestion is to treat him as someone your mom cares about and try not to let him get too close or give hugs or kisses as greetings. I would avoid being alone with him if you can help it. You don't have to like him, just treat him with respect and tolerate him as long as he makes your mom happy.

You can just pray and love your mom as best as possible. be the type of woman you want your daughter to emulate. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

God bless and keep you.
 
santuzza

santuzza

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You're 34 years old -- some separation from your mom would not be the worse thing. I would simply put distance between yourselves -- you don't need that drama in your life.

Focus on your relationship with Christ -- go to church, stay on the straight and narrow, read your Bible, pray everyday, drive slow and drink milk. Associate with fellow Believers. Get into healthy, supportive and encouraging relationships (both male and female). Love God and follow Him.
 
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savedandIknowit

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this man by the sounds of your mothers relationship history might be another blow in, all I can suggest is talk to him,get things straight, tell him how awkward you are feeling, take every man that comes into your mothers life as opportunities to give them the gospel,but also as a caution of protection, never let your daughter stay at your mothers place when she has new men with her, you just dont know,
 
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