Many spank with a wrong motive and out of anger, rather than in a
calm knowledgable way.
I was never spanked as a child, the only time was when I was
about 7 or 8. I was playing a school recorder and my much older brother
who is 11 years older, was playing something else. I was just a child put he
apparently didn’t appreciate my music as he took the recorder off me and
carried on with what he was doing.
Mum was out of thd house at the time.
I was mad that he had spoilt my enjoyment but was carrying on with his own
music. So I remember shouting at him as it was so unjust and I grabbed the recorder
back then ran.
He chased me and put me other her knee giving me a spank/slap on the behind.
I was a tough little thing and refused to cry so he did it again maybe on the third
time I think I started crying. So then he let me go. It was supppse to teach me a
lesson. But what lesson exactly. That grown ups can do what they want and get
their own way, but children can’t.
I would not speak to him for weeks but remember feeling shocked and upset
at the injustice.
So if you are going to spank you had better make sure you do it for the right
reasons and that the punishment fits the crime. Rather than out of frustration
or anger.
I’m sure as adults there are many times we have acted badly, how would we
feel if the punishment was for another adult to whack you.
In adult to adult its called assault, adult to child is called acceptable.
As I say I can understand a quick light tap on a young child who does not
know certain dangers. But once they do get to an age of understanding then
talk to them, ground them, remove privileges etc. Children respond to love just
like adults do. Problems happen when things, stuff, replaces love and children
end up being spoilt. Or where love is none existent.
Also can i just raise another question, what about mentally disabled or autistic,
children. Or even dyslexic kids who get easily frustrated. Should they be
spanked for having less self control and less capacity to understand than others,
Wouldn’t that be cruelty.
Just to end on a high note, at church we have a massive children’s work.
On Saturday we have nearly 400 children who come to kids club, mostly from
non Christian families. On Sundays we have just as many in Sunday school.
Some have special needs for various reasons. Others have adhd or are very
naughty at home. For the special needs kids they have one to one attention.
But for the ADHD kids and the naughty ones, they always behave themselves!
The parents are often gob smacked as they can barely get them to sit still, let
alone do anything with them at home. Yet the church atmosphere, the fun, the
games thd stories, they love them and they behave impeccably. 🙂 Jesus makes the
difference.
I went on children’s camps for several years too. On most camps we had one or two
kids who were naughty. At the start of the week they were out of control. But gradually
as they relaxed and had fun, they chilled out and realised they did not have to be
naughty to get our attention and have fun. They always went home different kids.
Some came from awful backgrounds, they were stressed, anxious etc. But they
flourished under a Godly loving fun week. It’s just a pity we had to send them
home back to their old lives, although we did try to make sure they had
contact with their local churches.
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