How to Handle Poor Relationship with Difficult Parents

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serpentdove

serpentdove

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oopsies said:
…Here I am, taking advice from other threads and not letting my parents walk all over me by setting boundaries…
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Psychobabble. Mt 13:57
oopsies said:
… [A]nd asking for help on how to do that practically and being told that is hateful and dishonourable. Why is it hatred?
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You have a biblical worldview. They do not. You have fruits of righteousness. They have fruits of wickedness because they’re reprobates. Eccl 10:2, Jn 10:10
oopsies said:
… just don't want to be around?
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Depart from evil and do good (Ps 37:27).
oopsies said:
As an example unrelated to my situation, if you know someone who's a gossip, has hurt you in the past, but you've forgiven, would you still practically hangout with them even if they haven't changed?
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The bible says if he repents, forgive him (Lk 17:3).
oopsies said:
…ecause you don't like them and don't want to be around them, that's hatred, bitterness, and resentment?
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Mk 6:11
oopsies said:
[Others say] … I'm in denial about not hating them and that I'm not honouring them.
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Hate evil, love good (Am 5:15).
 
serpentdove

serpentdove

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mcubed said:
I am the bastard child of both of my parents.
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"There are no illegitimate children--just illegitimate parents." ~ Adrian Rogers

mcubed said:
...One day, many years ago, I tried to sit down with her and tell her my grievances, in hopes she would change. She looked me in the eye and said, “I have not like you since you were about 4 years old” and I do favor your sister over you but my mom favored my brothers over me so suck it up. That is the way life goes there is just children you do not want. I was going to abort you but your father would not let me and abortions were not legal yet.”
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Your mother thought about murdering you?
2 Ti 3:3 KJV, Ro 1:31 KJV


mcubed said:
...I pay for my father’s and step mothers
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Your dad didn't bother to marry your mother and then kicked her to the curb for another woman? Ex 20:14
 
Marymoobulldoze

Marymoobulldoze

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Forgive me if I'm out of place, but I hear alot of hurt and anger coming from you. You know, I was in your shoes,until a couple of weeks ago. For years, me and my adopted family, I was disowned. Due to a divorce I had. But we changed. And even though i didn't get the apologies that I wanted, especially for the abuse and never letting me see my grandma again when I was 11. I always longed for there love. I'd even have night terrors of me running away, and being caught and trapped in my room. But I still loved them. And over years of time, instead of looking at them ,in my selfish point of view,they need to apologise, I had a change of heart and said, I want then as my family, so I will apologise. Yes I was a difficult kid too. And now ,10 years later,we are walking forward. BUT, I know there can be those types of people that aren't followers of Christ and live in there sinful nature. And for that, pray for them, and mourn for them. There miserable inside. Keep sharing the truth. Be like Christ. Hope this helps hun.
 
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Thehappymom

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oopsies said:
Hello, once again, I come to you folks for heartfelt and biblical advice.

I have a poor relationship with my parents and I need to fly home to perform an obligatory annual visit. I really don't want to. In fact, the closer to the week I need to fly back, the more stressed out I am. It's been a year since I moved to the other side of the country and barely talked to them. I couldn't cut off ties (I would've liked to) but I know it isn't biblical to do so. How should I handle the visit?

(I'm not sure what kind of background info you might need and I'd be happy to answer whatever questions that could help frame the situation. It would be especially great if I could hear from parents who have older children and who may have made parenting mistakes in the past - I guess a perspective from the other side.)
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ephesians 6:2
 
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