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Men are unique beings. They carry a LOT of burden, whether warranted or not. Many men feel their job and being able to support their family (or families as the case seems to be) is their "face" (as in "saving face"). I wonder though, when your husband is secure in normal life, is he this demanding, distrustful, childish and selfish (I don't need an answer, but you do)?
If not then tread lightly and let him process all these changes.
If he is normally so childish, then yes I think you're being manipulated and have been manipulated since (before) you were married.
I don't know your husband or the full story to know what to advise you other than to offer prayer. And to recommend you and your husband pray together over this situation. Regardless if he will pray with you or not, pray over your husband for security, peace, clarification and guidance for you both.
Peace!!
If not then tread lightly and let him process all these changes.
If he is normally so childish, then yes I think you're being manipulated and have been manipulated since (before) you were married.
I don't know your husband or the full story to know what to advise you other than to offer prayer. And to recommend you and your husband pray together over this situation. Regardless if he will pray with you or not, pray over your husband for security, peace, clarification and guidance for you both.
Peace!!
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Has he threatened me? Yes, he has threatened to leave me -- divorce me --- "ruin me" among family and friends...all said in the heat of the moment. He has never threatened to hurt me physically. But, his constant monitoring me and my phone and computer is difficult to take in.
Bottom line, it seems through all of our fights (almost everyday) that he is mostly angry with me because I don't "seem happy". He says I don't fawn over him and stroke his back like I used to all the time I was with him. I don't grab his butt "like you used to all the time". He says I don't seem happy or like I want him physically (even though we have sex almost daily now). He says I'm not "tender" and I don't seem "grateful" for the life he's given me.
The truth is I used to be very enamored with him and I probably did do too much PDA but it is hard to smile or be grabbing someone's butt when you are constantly being asked "who are you talking (texting) to" "what was that email" "why do you need to talk to your boss...he's an asshole." He literally says that he doesn't think I need to bow down and kiss my boss's ass because he thinks he is a moron...and I don't need to worry about pleasing them. (says the guy who is getting let go!)
So that's what I hear as the main problem here...I am not fully handing over every dollar I make without asking questions and trusting him...and trying to jump him twice a day. That's the theme here. If I smiled and laughed at him more ...despite all of his monitoring and begged him to come into work meetings with me...and tried to have sex in different places of the house ...daily....then everything would be just fine in HIS book.
Bottom line, it seems through all of our fights (almost everyday) that he is mostly angry with me because I don't "seem happy". He says I don't fawn over him and stroke his back like I used to all the time I was with him. I don't grab his butt "like you used to all the time". He says I don't seem happy or like I want him physically (even though we have sex almost daily now). He says I'm not "tender" and I don't seem "grateful" for the life he's given me.
The truth is I used to be very enamored with him and I probably did do too much PDA but it is hard to smile or be grabbing someone's butt when you are constantly being asked "who are you talking (texting) to" "what was that email" "why do you need to talk to your boss...he's an asshole." He literally says that he doesn't think I need to bow down and kiss my boss's ass because he thinks he is a moron...and I don't need to worry about pleasing them. (says the guy who is getting let go!)
So that's what I hear as the main problem here...I am not fully handing over every dollar I make without asking questions and trusting him...and trying to jump him twice a day. That's the theme here. If I smiled and laughed at him more ...despite all of his monitoring and begged him to come into work meetings with me...and tried to have sex in different places of the house ...daily....then everything would be just fine in HIS book.
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If she makes six figures and it's only 3/4 of what he makes....that tells me he earns WELL over 150k per year.....when a supporting parent makes that much per year, then no, $2200 per month is not out of the realm. The courts rule based on the parent's, who is not living in the house, ability to pay and nothing else. Expecting her to pay it all on her income, without alleviating the burden on her by going back to court for a reduction until he's stable again.....is what is outrageous in my opinion.....
however opinions are like heinies...everyone has one......
Peace!!
however opinions are like heinies...everyone has one......
Peace!!