I Feel Like God Doesn't Care About My Family

[PinkDiamond]

I'm not defending anyone's advice or posts, but I do agree with the point that was made by some about perspective. Perspective is everything when we are depressed and at our wits end. If we never focus on the misery and suffering of others, we'll always have this erroneous belief that we are experiencing a uniquely tragic or horrible life. Something as simple as turning the tv on and watching 5 mins of world news can be life changing. Just listen to all the accounts of murder, rape, terrorist acts, plane crashes etc. The world is full of suffering. I think one of the best ways to help someone is to offer them a proper perspective. Most depressed people spend their time comparing themselves to others that are better off or more successful. It's not harsh or unloving to nicely suggest to a person that they consider the stories and plight of others who are less fortunate. It's a healthy mental balance.

 

[Angela53510]

I wonder what the OP hoped to accomplish with her post? Did she want everyone to stand around saying, "Poor you!"

Or maybe she really did want suggestions on how to improve her walk with God, although she forgot to mention it!

Like others, I read a post with a terrible sense of entitlement, a lot of jealousy and some bitterness.

I agree the OP has fled the scene of the crime! But for anyone else reading this with the same kind of "problems," here is some advice.

First, read your Bible and pray every day! Don't tell me it's hard to find time with children, as I had 4, and worked part time and then full time as a teacher. I worked so we could make ends meet, even though my husband had a good job. I graduated in the Great Recession in the early 1980's when there were no jobs. My children were preschoolers and I was glad to stay home with hem, although how we made ends meet is beyond me.

When the children grew up and moved out, we finally had done extra money. And just to encourage you, despite living in poverty for at least 20 years, suddenly the house was paid for, as well as our cars, etc. So do not despair, things can improve enormously in the future although it is tough now.

My final suggestion is to be grateful. Thank God every day for what you do have. And thank him you are all healthy. I am totally disabled, but each day I think God for his love, and mercy and grace. And that he chose me to be his child.

The good news is that God loves you! But he is not a sugar daddy in the sky! Get to know God, and it will change everything!

 

[presidente]

If I were living rent-free in a church parsonage, not working there, just to scrape by, I sure would want to get into some better financial situation soon to get out of the church parsonage. Sure, they have a place to stay and they should be thankful, but it does make sense for them to find some business or gainful employment that is enough to pay their own rent.

 

[MessageOfTheCross]

By grace through faith in Christ and His Finished Work at Calvary Cross do we receive all the promises and benefits of God that are always yes and amen (so let it be). Ask the Lord to help you today and every day to live by Faith in Him and His Finished Work.

Speak these words of faith in the name of Jesus:

I have the keys of the kingdom, and whatever I bind on Earth is bound in heaven, and whatever I loose on Earth is loosed in heaven (Matt. 16:19)

I bind the principalities, powers, rulers of the darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places (Eph. 6:12).

I Bind and rebuke any demon that would try to block my way in the name of Jesus (Matt.8:28).

I Bind and cast out every thief that would try to steal my finances in the name of Jesus (John 10:10).

Lord, lift up a standard against any flood the enemy would try to bring into my life (Isa. 59:19).

Deliver me from my strong enemy, from them that are too strong for me (Psalm 18:17)

I Bind and cast out any spirit that would try to tear apart my life in any manner in the name of Jesus (Mark 9:20).

I Bind and cast out all demons of fear and timidity in the name of Jesus (2 Tim. 1:7).

I Bind Satan, the deceiver from releasing any deception into my life (Rev.12:9).

I Command all evil spirits leave my life as I hear and speak the Word (Matt.8:16).

I loose myself from every bond of Satan in the name of Jesus (Luke 13:16).

I bind and rebuke all hindering spirits of Satan in the name of Jesus (1 Thess. 2:18).

I rebuke and cast out any spirit that would attempt to oppress me in the name of Jesus.

I bind and cast out all spirits all spirits of depression, despondency, despair, discouragement, and hopelessness in the name of Jesus.

I bind and cast out all spirits of insecurity and inferiority in the name of Jesus.

I renounce all pride that would open the door for destruction (Prov. 16:18)

I loose my finances from every spirit of poverty, debt, and lack.

I speak to every mountain in my life and command it to be removed and cast into the sea (Mark 11:23).

Let every evil mountain hear the voice of the Lord and be removed (Mic. 6:2).

I speak to every financial mountain to be removed from my life in the name of Jesus.

I speak to every mountain of debt to be removed and cast into the sea.

Lord, let me receive extraordinary favor the rest of my life.

 

[Geline]

I and my boyfriend had a misunderstanding. This past few days I felt like there was wrong but I asking for more text to him and suddenly we argue and he black me for in his messanger I was so shock and I decided to black him and deactivate my facebook.. We never talk now and I felt all the things was my fault..

 

[Geline]

I just ask for prayer and advice guys.. I decided to end up because we were long distance relationship and he isn't christian I know he loved me and I love him but for now it is so complicated to us to be together with no assurance..

 

[smilesick]

God loves everyone without partiality.

 

[RickyZ]

True. And what really throws people off from that is they don't understand that God is not in charge here.

(Boy that ought to open up a can of dissent )

 

[workinprogress]

What you describe doesn't mean God doesn't care about you. God already proved he cares about you by sending His Son to DIE in your place.

Now regarding your job search, can you tell me how many applications do you fill out a week? Just being out of work for awhile makes the employers say "next" and that's not Gods fault. For example getting any job you can get your hands on - then climbing the ladder - employers are more likely to hire if you have a current job vs unemployed or several years.

 

[88]

Not to judge--but can I ask if you give God tithes----I also had similar problems and started tithing and giving offerings and it turned around...

 

[Silverwings]

[video]https://gotquestions.org/Bible-contentment.html[/video]

The Bible says that Godliness with Contentment is Great Gain. That is a huge statement in and of itself. We go thru different seasons in our lives. Mountains and valleys, and the valleys are where we learn the ways of God. He knows how many hairs are on our head and when a sparrow falls, maybe it is time to quit asking God for anything and just meditate on all the good things you can think of that are within your lives. Praise your way to victory. Look on Facebook for the page, Gospel for Asia, and order their free book called No Longer a Slumdog, by K.P. Yohannon. When you see how those in India live, gratitude will well up within your heart, your cares will drift away, and praise will enter. We in the West are so blessed, we are actually spoiled rotten to be truthful, we have so much and so many have so little. It truly is heartbreaking. we are gloriously rich beyond compare, to people in third world countries, who barely exist on such meager rations. We feed our hogs better than whole nations of people have. Africa is another nation who is overflowing with orphans, left to fend for themselves, because of war, famine, and aids.

 

[Silverwings]

True. And what really throws people off from that is they don't understand that God is not in charge here.

(Boy that ought to open up a can of dissent )

God is always in charge, it is just that He is the boss, and we are His children. He knows the end from the beginning, and knows just how long we can stay in the fire. He is the Master Potter, we are the clay. He is molding us into His image, little by little, precept upon precept, line upon line. We can kick against the pricks, but our toes may get bruised.

 

[TheLastKnight]

God gave you a place to live RENT FREE, you earn enough money to pay the Bills, and your educated GOD is Good and hes taking care of you. I pray that you do have a BREAKDOWN KAYLEIGH. Have a breakdown and give it to GOD, let him take care of you and don't worry about it. Humble yourself to him, he is just and he cares for you and your family. If God provides for the birds of the air, how much more does he care for YOU? Rejoice. These trials are building strength right now. I Love you and your family Kayleigh and God does also.

 

[popeye]

God cares, but He see's the bigger spiritual picture, and your concerns are not always His. Jesus prayed, "Give us this day, our daily bread", perhaps that's enough? If you've got your health, food, and shelter, everything else in life is frosting on the cake.

My fondest memories of my parents were not the good times, but what I admire most is how they persevered in hard times. Times when my Dad was gone doing what he had to do to support us is something that gave me the strength to plunge ahead when times were tough for myself.

Paul said; "When I am weak, then am I strong". Tough times bring us to God, people tend to ignore Him when everything is going great. You seem to be looking at people who got good jobs and have more than you, so your discouraged. Try looking at those who have less and you might feel lucky. Your situation isn't uncommon, many don't have a house or their idea job. Keep your chin up and keep plunging ahead.

Very nice post.
I would say the same about the difficult times actually being the best times. The struggle makes memories,but beyond that,how do we know his power and mighty hand without battles and struggles.

 

[Dan58]

Very nice post.
I would say the same about the difficult times actually being the best times. The struggle makes memories,but beyond that,how do we know his power and mighty hand without battles and struggles.

And how does He know our faithfulness without battles and struggles? All the prophets and apostles suffered, Christians weren't promised a rose garden free of obstacles... I reckon that comes later

 

[John_agape]

WOW just read this thread and all there encouragement is amazing!

(for those who lack understanding that's sarcasm)

you all need to learn to read you bibles more, especially on love. i doesn't matter if she is having a hard time, and yours is worse, or she is a little better off. right now she is a sister in need and if you are soo much worse off yet dealing with it sooo much better, why don't you post what God has done for you helping you carry on, the word of scripture you stand on! instead you belittle her... SMH just a bunch of babes in Christ!

I was feeling depressed reading the compassionless replies. I (yes I have used "I" twice, no four times so far) Then I came to your post and I could not have put it better.

 

[John_agape]

Kayleigh don't take the harsh negative posts to heart. Your life is tough at the moment. Writing "I" while pleading to God for help is normal, and there are examples of this in Scripture. This should not be criticized when a person is truly and legitimately feeling down.

I am having a tough time at the moment. That is why I can empathize with you in your situation.

I have had 3 breakdowns in the last 30 years. The last one, eight years ago, was the worst. I have still not recovered from that one yet, and may never unless the Lord heals me miraculously.

I use a few ways of reminding me that God is ultimately in control. One is a tapestry. This life is like the back side of the tapestry, with all the knots and confusion of colors. When we are with our Lord in heaven, and we see the finished tapestry, we will understand why things happened in our lives the way they did. After all the purpose with our life is to be close to God and develop our relationship.

Another way I think to help myself when it feels darkest, is to think about different realities. Your sister-in-law is a physical/materialistic person in a physical body living in a material world. We are spiritual people temporarily living in a physical body while we pilgrim through this material world.

Think about Jesus. Look to Him for your strength. Yes I know it is difficult. But keeping your faith in difficulty is when it is really proved. It is easy to have faith when everything is going well. David knew he was to be king, yet for a long time this seemed impossible. In the Psalms we can read how he pleaded with God. I some Psalms David is honest about an initial doubt, but then turns this into a deeper faith and trust in God.

Let your difficulties be an inspiration to stay in God's Word and not look at this world. There was a time when I struggled with the Bible. I read and read, but nothing made sense to me in my state at that time. I then read "Pilgrims Progress" and that helped me get focus back again.

You and your family are in my prayers

 

[wwjd_kilden]

OP you still here?
I don't remember if I've replied somewhere in here.

I have a few questions:

- How long have you been unemployed
- How many jobs have you applied to?
- Do you apply to ALL jobs you CAN do, or only jobs you WANT TO do?

I ask because recently on the news here people have been complaining they can't get a job, saying they've been unemployed for a whole year, that that they have applied to so many jobs , "like about thirty!" (which is like one every twelve days....) and I am sitting here thinking "Well, for half a year I have applied for jobs every day and still not gotten anything so I don't really feel sorry for you".

What I am really trying to say is - I understand your frustration, I really really do! ... but just in case you are one of those who hope for something to just magically show up you need to now that the employers are the ones with the power and you need to work, yes WORK every day to get work! and somehow (if you find out how let me know!) you have to impress them enough to pick YOU over the ... 10? .... 50? .... 100? .... more? people who applied for the same job, perhaps many of them with a resume just as good as your own!

 

[kaylagrl]

Thank you to whoever gave me the rep comment,I appreciate it!