I am in a place in my life where I need to make decisions and fast. I am in the foster care system and a foster mom came into my life and we kind of hit a rough patch and separated. Now she wants back in my life and I think with God we can make things work... especially since back then I was not with God and now I am. I just need some serious guidance. God bless you and I pray someone can help me with some encouraging words on how to move on from the past and into a bright future that includes God.
I need some spiritual guidance from a pastor or someone very close to God.
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Well, I've been in a homeless shelter and have had my winter hat stolen. I also wanted to be there so I could get away from who I was living with... Too noisy. I say I had my hat stolen because... Well, when you live with people, stuff like that happens. And it's like wow, I go from too noisy to stolen from... And really all the other stuff. There's just so many ways and times people wrong each other. I mean, if you lived alone, no body would be able to talk to you badly unless you left home or something or have some type of voice blaring off of a television. I've heard before you, as a Christian, should really live alone if you're not living with another Christian, unless it's maybe your spouse or something.
I was in the foster care system too honestly they did a horrible job finding kids decent foster parents at least in the one I was in. I cannot say for sure if you should or not because I don't know all the details but if you feel that God can use you to help your relationship with her I think it's possible it could be God edging you to do it and use you. But at the same I don't want to assume anything and send you into a path that will not be for your good. I think if you seek God and look in your heart you will know the answer he has this way of letting us know when we go to quite place and delve into that intimacy with him.
Apparently, that rough patch was not a deal breaker for your foster mom. The question is; Can you forgive, repair, and reverse whatever friction the previous rough patch caused you? A previous rough patch does not eliminate a smooth future, sometimes a better relationship just necessitates an attitude adjustment. Approach her with some spiritual maturity, have a conversation and attempt to mend some fences. Trying to see things from the other person's perspective usually helps us relate to each other.
Whatever happen in your past remember according to Matthew 18:21-22 "Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not just seven times, but seventy-seven times!
Mark 11:26 ""But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions."
You have to Exodus 20:12 "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."
Mark 11:26 ""But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions."
You have to Exodus 20:12 "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."
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Is your foster mother also a believer? That would make all the difference. As a new, young believer, the best case scenario is that you have an older more mature Christian to guide you and look out for you. You and your foster mom should probably both sit down with the pastor and talk this out. I am praying for you right now.
Having children from foster care and orphanages I can say for certain that almost all anger is rooted in pain and fear. Every single time my kids tell me they are angry I can help them trace their big feelings to something rooted in fear. Without knowing all the details (and don't feel you need to share those details) I can safely ask you what you were afraid of....intimacy? One big fear my kiddos have is getting close or even being happy. When things go well for them they often sabotage things for themselves. Success is scary, failure is scary. Intimacy and closeness are scary.
I don't presume to know you I say this from raising 4 kiddos from very difficult places. Get yourself to a great therapist to start working with you through this. Also, congrats on opening your sweet heart to working through these tough things! <3 Bless you!
I don't presume to know you I say this from raising 4 kiddos from very difficult places. Get yourself to a great therapist to start working with you through this. Also, congrats on opening your sweet heart to working through these tough things! <3 Bless you!
You want and need a mother figure or a mother... Mothers act a certain way towards their sons and daughters... Or they actually can be bad mothers, yet they are still mothers, no? If not, there is no such thing as a bad mother and mothers really do act in a different way towards their children than all other people. A lot of people keep in contact with the women that gave birth to them, calling them mom. And a lot of people face the deaths of the women that gave birth to them, who called them sons and daughters and kept in touch with them. What do those people do besides grieve? Maybe get mother figures to enjoy until they die also? So, yeah. This woman is either a mother figure or a mother to you... And whether she was a bad mom or mom figure or a good one, she is still your mom or mom figure, right?
I mean... You want to do the right thing. You need and want to talk to somebody. You need and want to hear somebody. But not just one man or woman... But many men and women. Now, what will you say to people? What will they tell you? What have you heard? What have you said? Remember what you are dealing with. Saved men and women and lost men and women. All men and women have done wrong. Wrongs have been forgiven. And no one will love you as good as God. No one will have your back like Him. And you are to do His will, no? Love people, woman, and be loved. Maybe you'll be a mother or mother figure one day. If not, just be a daughter of God at least. If you're some woman's daughter or something like it, just do well at it.
The point is your motive. You want to have a pure heart with every thing. It's like you can only give and take so much. Right? Can't do it all, right? So... If people are expecting too much or too little from you... That's their problem,
and you need to let them know they want too much or too little from you, perhaps. Perhaps, if she's one who will actually accept you, more than anyone else, and you will accept her, well... Give to her and take from her. Maybe there is only a certain amount of friends and family you personally can handle anyway, just like everyone. I mean why start a relationship you can't finish so to speak? And you need balance perhaps. You want to treat all people well. But also your self. So, when you talk to people, it should be fine to ask them for things every once in awhile and to do favors for them, if there is anything else to a relationship.
and you need to let them know they want too much or too little from you, perhaps. Perhaps, if she's one who will actually accept you, more than anyone else, and you will accept her, well... Give to her and take from her. Maybe there is only a certain amount of friends and family you personally can handle anyway, just like everyone. I mean why start a relationship you can't finish so to speak? And you need balance perhaps. You want to treat all people well. But also your self. So, when you talk to people, it should be fine to ask them for things every once in awhile and to do favors for them, if there is anything else to a relationship.