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Livingforchrist

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Haha, since it's my moms house maybe we should go. My mom just wanted all of us together, but it seems like it won't work out anymore, even if we try.
 
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I had trouble reading the wall of text too, but I skimmed. Basically, it sounds like you forgot your role in all this. You are your daughter's Mom. So, if you don't want your daughter watching kissing, your niece can't watch it or can watch it with her private TV as long as your daughter isn't with her (of course, if niece doesn't have private TV, oh well, guess she can't watch it under your roof.)

Babysitter assumes you have the say-so to merit out discipline. If you're not given that responsibility you're no babysitter. Your her maid while her mom is gone. So, talk to sister to make sure that's understood, then... take back your house.

Remember when you were growing up that annoying rule, "You will do as I say as long as you're living under my roof?" Guess whose roof it is now! You are officially given license to use that one for niece and sister. If sister doesn't like it... well, we all know that rule was, in part, to get kids out on their own, so maybe it's time for her to get out on her own, IF she can't stand the rule.

Stand up. Your the Mom. It's on you now. And, yes, to an extent, you are your sister's Mom to until she gets her own place.

There's a reason there is a saying about two women under one roof. Each woman feels it is her domain. Well, it's your domain, so take it back. If sister doesn't like it... well it is much easier to get along with family when we don't live together. lol
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She and her sister live in their moms house.
 
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Livingforchrist said:
Haha, since it's my moms house maybe we should go. My mom just wanted all of us together, but it seems like it won't work out anymore, even if we try.
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there's a biblical foundation for family. I completely understand why your mom would want to try this...in a perfect world, as moms we want all our children to just all get along and love each other. But um......we don't live in a perfect world. I'll ask....your niece saved?? just sounds like your niece is jealous of your daughter. Sorry but that's just families.
 
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Yes exactly! Well I don't know she's only 7 and doesn't talk much about God, I'm guessing she isn't saved yet. Maybe that's true, but I wish that, that wasn't the case because we always take her out with us anywhere we go and buy my daughter and my niece things equally. Ever since she's been here we have been spending money on her as if she were one of our own.
 
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Livingforchrist said:
Yes exactly! Well I don't know she's only 7 and doesn't talk much about God, I'm guessing she isn't saved yet. Maybe that's true, but I wish that, that wasn't the case because we always take her out with us anywhere we go and buy my daughter and my niece things equally. Ever since she's been here we have been spending money on her as if she were one of our own.
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Stop spoiling her even more than she already is.. When she grows up she's gonna realize that NOBODY is gonna spoil her and she has to pay her own way through life.. Your sister needs a serious wake up call as to how her baby REALLY behaves when she's not around.. :/
 
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Livingforchrist said:
Yes exactly! Well I don't know she's only 7 and doesn't talk much about God, I'm guessing she isn't saved yet. Maybe that's true, but I wish that, that wasn't the case because we always take her out with us anywhere we go and buy my daughter and my niece things equally. Ever since she's been here we have been spending money on her as if she were one of our own.
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Do you think buying het stuff will make her greatful?? Nope
It will make it worse
 
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I know what you mean, it's just when we got out we feel bad about leaving her out. Yesterday my mother (her grandmother) was telling her how the tv shows she watches are not for kids, but for teens and she got so angry.

She made her hand into a fist and pretended to punch my mom in the chest, and she told my mom "I'm going to hit you like this, but harder."

I didn't say anything to her, but I messaged my sister who was at work to tell her what happened and I received a message saying "thanks for the information."

She was clearly mad, I said I wasn't trying to be mean or make her angry I just thought she should know.

When she came home from work she didn't say anything to my niece but some time later when they were alone, she told my niece "I should've sent you with your dad and grandma for your vacation, so you wouldn't have to be here, I can still send you if you want."

Basically I tell my sister what happened and she still thinks it's somehow our fault, therefore I came to a conclusion. That It won't matter what I say to my sister, she will never listen and turn the tables on us.
 
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Livingforchrist said:
I know what you mean, it's just when we got out we feel bad about leaving her out. Yesterday my mother (her grandmother) was telling her how the tv shows she watches are not for kids, but for teens and she got so angry.

She made her hand into a fist and pretended to punch my mom in the chest, and she told my mom "I'm going to hit you like this, but harder."

I didn't say anything to her, but I messaged my sister who was at work to tell her what happened and I received a message saying "thanks for the information."

She was clearly mad, I said I wasn't trying to be mean or make her angry I just thought she should know.

When she came home from work she didn't say anything to my niece but some time later when they were alone, she told my niece "I should've sent you with your dad and grandma for your vacation, so you wouldn't have to be here, I can still send you if you want."

Basically I tell my sister what happened and she still thinks it's somehow our fault, therefore I came to a conclusion. That It won't matter what I say to my sister, she will never listen and turn the tables on us.
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Your sister is an ostrich with her head in the sand.. Clearly all of you under one roof is a bad idea. Mention to your sister that it's a good idea to send the kid to her dad, although that won't solve the problem.. Either you or your sister needs to pack up and move out or it aint gonna get better..
 
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Livingforchrist said:
I know what you mean, it's just when we got out we feel bad about leaving her out. Yesterday my mother (her grandmother) was telling her how the tv shows she watches are not for kids, but for teens and she got so angry.

She made her hand into a fist and pretended to punch my mom in the chest, and she told my mom "I'm going to hit you like this, but harder."

I didn't say anything to her, but I messaged my sister who was at work to tell her what happened and I received a message saying "thanks for the information."

She was clearly mad, I said I wasn't trying to be mean or make her angry I just thought she should know.

When she came home from work she didn't say anything to my niece but some time later when they were alone, she told my niece "I should've sent you with your dad and grandma for your vacation, so you wouldn't have to be here, I can still send you if you want."

Basically I tell my sister what happened and she still thinks it's somehow our fault, therefore I came to a conclusion. That It won't matter what I say to my sister, she will never listen and turn the tables on us.
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Youre right..and looks like your sister has free babysitting, with little responsiblity
 
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Livingforchrist

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Yea, I just hope she sees the truth sooner than later. I really do mean well for my niece and want her to be an honest and sweet girl, specially as she gets older.

School will begin soon and she wont go anywhere without my sister, maybe next vacation, she will visit her dad.

I have been wanting to get a little place with just my family, but I feel sorry for my mom. Leaving her with the entire responsibility of taking care of my sisters kids.
 
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Livingforchrist

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Maybe someday she will see the truth, hope it's sooner than later.
 
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And so goes this real-life soap opera, in which this forum cannot do anything about..but it is entertainment..sadly. Sounds like your personal issues with sister, mom and niece will always remain as long as YOU remain under the same roof. Solution? Draw closer to CHRIST and let HIS Holy spirit be your guide and not an internet chatroom forum.
 
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