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Wizardgerm

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Hi, I am new to CC.com. I am a wife and have 3 kids. My family and I moved last year to be closer to MY parents since my husbands family that we grew a church in another state with, moved to Guatemala to be missionaries :) we love where we live but it is super expensive and my parents are ALL drama, All the time! They have always guilted us on how family is important and how we need to live close to one another. But honestly I just feel that I do for them over and over, even if it means taking from my family. On top of that, I haven't found a church that fits with my family, my boss at work is the BIGGEST bully I have ever had, I have been looking for a second job due to finances, And I have no friends to talk to or seek some godly support in. I am trying to solve these issues with getting in the word, finding a better job(s), filtering my parents drama, finding friends...but I feel like I am fighting a war i am losing, all by myself. My husband tries to help but he works sooo much that I don't always want to unload on him. I am most happy when I can be the hands and feet of Christ, but I find that difficult with a job, 3 kids and not having a church home : ( I just need some advise... Maybe a friend. I even feel like I am failing at being a good mother and wife lately. Sorry, I am just in a dark spot and in need of a lil light. Usually I am very optimistic and happy even in the worst of situations, but not lately. Lord, please open a door for me....
 
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savedandhopeful

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Hello..welcome to CC..its sounds like you have a lot on your plate...you have done a good thing by coming here to find encouragement. I will be praying for you, feel free to pm me if you need a friend ..I am a good listener.
God Bless
 
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reject-tech

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Well Jesus was betrayed and denied by friends, so maybe you're doing something right!
I also am very alone, I try to fill that by being in a constant state of prayer.
Prayed that God will send you someone to be your in-person friend!
 
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hope2love

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i posted the exact same topic as you..i know how you more than you know..im not gonna tell you anything that you havent already heard such as im sorry etc..though i am..i believe we all need someone to talk to and have someone to give us feedback other than yea..you're gonna be ok etc.bc i myself was so tired of hearing tha same things from different ppl.we have lost our voice.our creavtive ways of expression from our hearts.im a friend to anyone who needs one..you are one that i heard loud and clearly..message me anytime..we could even text only if you're comfortable..im fine either way..
 
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Lucy68

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You've come to the right place for friends! Welcome to CC.

We all go through valleys so you're not alone! Family relationships can be rewarding but they can also be very challenging. I've noticed that some parents who want their children 'close by' sometimes mainly want them close so they can run their lives for them. That may not be your case...but it's just plain stressful. My parents are challenging to be around...so I limit our time with them and still try to honor and love them. I think it's possible to love someone but not like them very much (?).

After my parents retired they gradually forgot how stressful it is to work and raise a family. They became easily offended if their kids and grandkids didn't come see them often. Kids have a lot of activities on the weekend plus school and work during the week. It's just plain hard. "Drama" is especially hard to deal with....it's like they're resorting to childish tactics to get their way.

The best place to get rejuvenated for the battles of life and challenging relationships is in God's Word. And listening to sermons and bible lessons at church can be the BIGGEST lift you'll get all week. Don't neglect this very important area of living an abundant life :).

Praying for you...that the Spirit will lead you to find a church you love, plus new friends, plus a good job (or a new heart in your current boss ;)) and that your parents will calm down :).

Finding a church to attend may be very helpful. Getting to know people in a new area just takes time!
 
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Share55

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Wizardgerm said:
Hi, I am new to CC.com. I am a wife and have 3 kids. My family and I moved last year to be closer to MY parents since my husbands family that we grew a church in another state with, moved to Guatemala to be missionaries :) we love where we live but it is super expensive and my parents are ALL drama, All the time! They have always guilted us on how family is important and how we need to live close to one another. But honestly I just feel that I do for them over and over, even if it means taking from my family. On top of that, I haven't found a church that fits with my family, my boss at work is the BIGGEST bully I have ever had, I have been looking for a second job due to finances, And I have no friends to talk to or seek some godly support in. I am trying to solve these issues with getting in the word, finding a better job(s), filtering my parents drama, finding friends...but I feel like I am fighting a war i am losing, all by myself. My husband tries to help but he works sooo much that I don't always want to unload on him. I am most happy when I can be the hands and feet of Christ, but I find that difficult with a job, 3 kids and not having a church home : ( I just need some advise... Maybe a friend. I even feel like I am failing at being a good mother and wife lately. Sorry, I am just in a dark spot and in need of a lil light. Usually I am very optimistic and happy even in the worst of situations, but not lately. Lord, please open a door for me....
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Hi Wizardgerm:
Moving from loving arms of one family to the otherside on top of moving can be quite stressful and maybe you need time to readjust.
Have you tried making a list of what needs to be done, making priorities and get the priorities dealt with as you can. I find the best way to de-stress is to get a hold on what is causing the worst stress of which I can handle, pray God handles what I don't know how to and leave it with His most capable hands and deal with the others. If it takes time from the rest of your list it'll just have to wait.
God tells us to take care of our home first (our family) which is where so many fail because they spread themselves so thin they are actually denying those closest to them. Your parents are adults and God says that when married the husband and wife leave their parents and cleave unto each other (for a very good reason). Get your home life running smoothly first and pray for God's guidance for your spiritual needs. don't stress what you cannot do as God is more than well able and willing to supply our every need.

Hugs & prayers <3 I know you can do it. some times we just need to put it out there and it all falls into place. While we talk God is also listening. ;)
 
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