I think this is a good question. Why ? Because I have been
on both sides of the fence. I have a mate of 49 years. Soon
will celebrate 50 married years. Has it been easy where friendship
are concerned? No. I love my husband, but I have had to be
obedient to him from day one. He has been jealous type, and
I say, it is his protecting me. But is it ? Some say controlling.
Was it easy to have to ask permission to go to Bible study at
Church at night time ? In the beginning, no. It takes time to build
trust in a relationship. I am an extroverted person. I have no
problem talking to male or females. I often talk in waiting rooms
of Dr. office, or hospital, any place one has to sit and wait. I
have gotten myself in more trouble for talking to a man with my
husband sitting there, than not. I often forget. I know you are
probably laughing your head off about now, here is this old lady
telling you she has a jealous husband.....Well, it is what it is....
Now, back to the topic. I know it is easy to be attracted to the
opposite sex even on Christian sites. I have seen it and know
the people were married to someone else. I know at one point
I was attracted to someone, and I could feel it and knew this is
not right. So I had to just not make comments.
I had to give up friends when I was first married. I had to do it
for my husband. I was not Christian. But, even after I became a
Christian, I had to watch my actions around male brothers in Christ.
If I paid a compliment, my husband would say....that person did
not know you were doing it out of kindness. They may have another
thought in their mind. I suppose he was right. So the answer seems
to be it is up to each individual isn't it ? Thanks for letting me share.
