Living with wicked wife

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.

EarnestQ

Senior Member
Apr 28, 2016
2,588
310
83
#21
If this is recent behavior and not the way she used to be there may be something wrong in her brain, like a tumor or a mini stroke that damaged part of her brain. If she has always been this way, there could still be some kind of brain damage, or it may be she has unresolved issues she needs to deal with.

You might also read about borderline personality disorder and see how well she matches those symptoms. If she does, don't tell her you think she has BPD. But, start reading up on it. Start with "Stop walking on eggshells."
 
D

Depleted

Guest
#22
If this is recent behavior and not the way she used to be there may be something wrong in her brain, like a tumor or a mini stroke that damaged part of her brain. If she has always been this way, there could still be some kind of brain damage, or it may be she has unresolved issues she needs to deal with.

You might also read about borderline personality disorder and see how well she matches those symptoms. If she does, don't tell her you think she has BPD. But, start reading up on it. Start with "Stop walking on eggshells."
OP simply posted and left.
 
Mar 2, 2016
8,896
113
0
#23
Unprocessed pain leads to anger anxiety and depression.
 
S

sojames

Guest
#24
was she like that when u marry her,if not its somethimg you did
 
Aug 16, 2016
2,184
62
0
#25
I'm curious as to if you two have had a discussion about her behavior & the seriousness it is in the eyes of God. Sometimes people need to be called out on bad habits for them to reevaluate themselves & realise they need to change
 

Sirk

Banned
Mar 2, 2016
8,896
113
0
#26
What are her complaints? Are they about you? About the kids? Are her other relationships broken too? Does she gossip? Has there been any traumatic events recently? Is she rewriting your history together into a negative narrative.... Are you? Do you have "hobbies" that leave her feeling rejected? What makes her feel loved or unloved? What makes you feel loved or unloved? I have a jillion more questions but you get the idea.
 

presidente

Senior Member
May 29, 2013
9,164
1,794
113
#27
I find it odd for a man to describe his wife as evil. Maybe he has lost respect for her. But if someone were married to an evil wife, might he not get frustrated and come out and say that. I'm not saying she is, but I could understand it.

To Kevinbrown,

I don't agree with those who say to leave your wife. You pray for advice. Do you pray consistently for her? My wife has gone through some phases where she has been negative and was hard to get along with. Sometimes she'd get like this during PMS or pregnancy. During one pregnancy, she would argue with me all the time. She's go around hurt. One time we had a conversation, and I said something just so neutral. It wasn't even negative. But she started crying.

Part of it was pregnancy hormones, but part of it was her attitude toward me. That night, when she got upset over basically nothing, she disappeared. She had gone to a friends house, who told her to call me, an older woman from church who was empathetic and was the type to be encouraging. So I told her if she wanted to talk with her friend and pray and come back n the morning, that was okay. She would come back before the kids went to school.

Then I prayed. I prayed a long list of things that were bothering me about my wife, things we hadn't been able to talk about without her getting upset. She goes to this church program a few days later which is supposed to help believers overcome issues in their lives. Then she asks me to sit on the couch next to her. I thought she was going to want to argue again, but she seemed so pleasant toward me. So I sat down, and she told me I was a good husband, to start off with, the opposite of what I'd been getting from her.

Then she told me how the Lord had told her all these things about herself, and walked me through my prayer list, basically. I had maybe 7 or so things I'd prayed for. She addressed five of them. If I prayed a paragraph, she had two pages worth of insights on each topic I'd prayed. She talked about the Lord speaking to her about the other two things I asked the Lord to speak to her about within a few weeks after that.

My wife repented. For a while after that, she'd be standing around the house crying. I asked her why. She'd tell me about some harsh thing she said to me. Our marriage was a lot better. I couldn't talk my wife into seeing certain things she needed to change. But I could pray for her and the Lord did the work. There is a place for correcting one another. I am not saying you shouldn't do that. If you can't, God can still break in and help.

Anyway, pray for your wife and love your wife. Be patient with her.

Is you wife just angry at you or everyone?