Marriage problem

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blue_ladybug

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My question would be, HOW does she know that other guys turn her on sexually? Sounds like she's doing a little experimenting.. No offense, but just because she "popped out 3 kids" doesn't mean she's a good wife..
 

Lightskin

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#42
I have an open door policy. You threaten me with affairs or leaving I’ll open the door for you to permanently leave and you’ll have no say so otherwise.

In the meantime, hit the gym and increase your testosterone levels. You never know...
 
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#43
This is reason why God only wants sex and intemensy in marriage. When it's not it gives a false feeling so when you do get married you expect what doesn't happen more so if you watch porn. I've been married 7 years and it was good at first then babies came and after that sex was the last thing she wanted. Didnt care about it but after a few years now its improved. There has to be a way for you two. Listen to what she tells you. Doing housework can turn some women on. They like it when guys hold babies. Maybe theres a touch she likes on certain parts of body. Go off that stuff. Keep praying. Theres more to marriage than that
 
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7seasrekeyed

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#44
This is reason why God only wants sex and intemensy in marriage. When it's not it gives a false feeling so when you do get married you expect what doesn't happen more so if you watch porn. I've been married 7 years and it was good at first then babies came and after that sex was the last thing she wanted. Didnt care about it but after a few years now its improved. There has to be a way for you two. Listen to what she tells you. Doing housework can turn some women on. They like it when guys hold babies. Maybe theres a touch she likes on certain parts of body. Go off that stuff. Keep praying. Theres more to marriage than that

yeah

I really do wish there was a men's forum :cautious:

read the thread

those people are way past housework

get your advice out of Harper's circa 1884?
 
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Locoponydirtman

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#45
This is reason why God only wants sex and intemensy in marriage. When it's not it gives a false feeling so when you do get married you expect what doesn't happen more so if you watch porn. I've been married 7 years and it was good at first then babies came and after that sex was the last thing she wanted. Didnt care about it but after a few years now its improved. There has to be a way for you two. Listen to what she tells you. Doing housework can turn some women on. They like it when guys hold babies. Maybe theres a touch she likes on certain parts of body. Go off that stuff. Keep praying. Theres more to marriage than that
I get the feeling this guy does a lot of dishes, and cooking, and floor mopping, and baby holding.
Women are complicated, yeah they like it when Grizzly Adams holds a baby or helps with the dishes, it shows a tender side of a strong man. Both sides are necessary, and in it's proper context. While this won't hurt they are way past it, and need professional help, preferably someone who has never heard of "promise keepers".
 
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kaylagrl

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#46
I get the feeling this guy does a lot of dishes, and cooking, and floor mopping, and baby holding.
Women are complicated, yeah they like it when Grizzly Adams holds a baby or helps with the dishes, it shows a tender side of a strong man. Both sides are necessary, and in it's proper context. While this won't hurt they are way past it, and need professional help, preferably someone who has never heard of "promise keepers".

Promise keepers are bad?!
 

blue_ladybug

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#48
Alot of the time, promises get broken.. that's why people shouldn't make promises..
 
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7seasrekeyed

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#49
Alot of the time, promises get broken.. that's why people shouldn't make promises..

you know...I don't use the word promise for just that reason

growing up I had too many promises broken

I decided I would just say 'I'll try'...do my best in fact'

vows for marriage though are different

it is supposed to be a covenant
 
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#50
I've done all of it some more than others and what my work life is like. I'm just saying things. Time changes everything changes.