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he cheated me
It was a day like any other day...My father had searched a guy for me...i was not happy with his description..i mean his brought up was from a village ...The village didnt matter much..But it was the prejudice i had for the people of that village in the sense that people there get very angry for trivial things..talk loudly on phone and i have seen many wife beaters around there...also people there wear too much gold which i detested...I told my mom plainly that whoever is the guy iam going to reject him because i detest the place he comes from....I was not even ready to see his face..
But then my aunt with whom i was very close convinced me that see it is the guy who told that he will come to see you so u must not refuse to see him..But i retorted that see if i refuse him he will feel bad and if he refuses me i will feel bad..But somehow they convinced me to see him...I wore my chudidhar and didnt dress very well because i wanted him to dislike me..Also my dad and uncle convinced me that the guy looks very honest..He openly told that this is how is economic situation is and that his father drinks..I was bit afraid when i heard about the drinking part but my dad said that just because the father drinks doesnt mean the guy also drinks...Also since he had seen the sufferings his mom had undergone because of his father he would never drink and hence would not hurt his wife....With all this they convinced me and i was taken to the altar for sacrifice..
My first big mistake:
I sat before him for hardly 5 minutes..I could feel his eyes moving over me but i kept saring at his feet and took occassional glances at me...Then he smiled..It was then i made i mistake..i fell for his womanising smile and told my dad i liked him...but my dad had told him that he will tell my answer tomorrow..I prayed to God that hope he likes me and hope i had dressed better..Next day i heard from my aunt that he likes me very much ...
On the second day before the altar his parents came and they too approved of me..Then he and I talked alone for almost 10 minutes…He trapped me with his talks..He had told that he will look after me when iam in his hometown and all…He plays cricket and so on…In between these days i was flying very high..building castles on thin ice that he was the one for me and that we will be the best couple on earth and have unconditional love for each other...accept him with his faults and so on…Love is bind….veyryyy true
My second big mistake:
Then he asked my dad my number through his uncle telling that he needed it so that we could discuss about the home he was looking for us to live…..My dad gave him my number..He talked with much respect …I was very impressed and not for a second doubted his words…Like he would look for a home near my office and he would be ready to travel..and that he will eat anything that I cook and even he will help me for cooking..also he will make my trip to his hometown very enjoyable and so on..so many lies..i cant keep count of….previously I never used my mobile for and it used to be switched off mostly..neither did I know to sms fastly….Now I changed ….Even my mom used to joke that see how she has changed..
All this non stop talking and messaging became a part of my love blinded life..i concentrated less on my work..less on my family…less on my friends..he became everything to me..when he messaged me less I felt sad..when he called me I felt excited..i was a total fool while he played with my emotions…
The revealing day:
Then the day came when both our families met and we exchanged our bibles.The talk all went fine until one of his relatives started asking my dad that what were they giving me for dowry..i got bit tensed knowing how sensitive the issue was but that guy playfully suggested what about the car keys uncle…Then my dad got angry and blasted him that is this the way u ask for things and so on..his face became downcast and they lest the place soon…Meanwhile I was heartbroken ..On one side was my parents feeling and on another side was his hurt feelings..I called him so many times that day..But he never picked up the call..i messaged him quoting bible verses that everything was going to be okay but the response was still negative…I had almost lost hope that this marriage will happen..Then on the next day my mom called him but he took the phone and said he had headache and immediately cut the phone..the same thing had happened to me the same day…My mom cried and told me she felt she had been slapped by him..i really felt very bad ….But my dad hadn’t cooled..i was angry with him and dint talk with him for almost one week..then the next day my dad called his relative and told him sorry…his relative was also okay with that but he had put a word that all these things will be cared for after marriage…I was shocked on hearing that and cried within my heart….I was being mean to my parents for him….when I think about that now I feel like slapping myself now..
I called him too the previous day…he dint take ..when I begged him he took and from his voice I could find out he was angry…I thought he would reassure me with words that I mattered for him more than the car..and he was hurt by only by the words…But nooooo….he was sort of negative and said that everything lies in ur fathers hands…..i was brokennnnnn……
But once my dad had asked his relative sorry he started messaging again and all…It was then I started being afraid of him….I came face to face with the reality that he had no respect for elders at all…I started doubting my future with him..But all these things I kept within me and dint tell anyone much..
He started messaging less..calling me less…when I ask him he would say his friends said before marriage one shouldn’t call or message that much…I thought to myself …blast his friends…he can be easily led astray by his friends..the questions within me increased….late once when I called him he used to say he is tooooo busy….i used to compare his behaviour with my friend’s would be and all…Even in his busy scheduled he found time for her….But for me I needed to call him often and then only he would speak….That too the 1 hour got reduced to 2 minutes…The talk was all a matter of fact and less in affection…I hated all that and cried to God..I even prayed for him and his family everyday….He looked for a house near his office and told me I shouldn’t advice him much and that he would sleep when he came to home as he would be very tired which was very much in contrast with what he told me before…Even when we go to his native he told he would go out and I will be in home…I used to think whatever he said was in contrast with what he used to tell me before…….liarrrrrr
The painful day..
3 days before maybe marriage:
We both met in church for counseling..He came a bit late as he had come from Chennai that day only…I thought he was tired…He showed no interest in talking with me..Even in the classes he kept on yawning and scratching himself..the way a guy would behave with someone to turn them off…Even in the breaks he took no step in talking with me and was sort of sleeping..i felt bad seeing all this..i tried conversing with him but he answered a matter of fact way..Even he was very eager to leave the church…I felt bad but I thought okay mayb he his tired..Also I dint talk much when I sat between him and my dad since he there was tension between them already….
2 days before:
Morning I sent sms: good morning…no reply..thought he must be busy…
After I get message from him…I feel very excited and open the sms….its reads as:
“Don’t expect too much from me when u come here ma because I think u have too much expectations from me”
I felt the earth under me slip away….But I reassured myself that maybe he was referring to the economic situation in his home…I tried calling him,,but he dint pick up…
Then I messaged him:
“All that I expect from u is true love and I have seen it already in your eyes”
I get the most hurtful reply with the most hurting words…..
“What u see in my eyes is not true love..thats only for the sake of outside people”…I cried within me…nonone had hurt me so much in my life..but still I called him and he attended the third call only….i asked him what he meant by expectations…he said the like when I come there with expectations and don’t find much I shouldn’t feel bad …so only….he tried cutting down the conversation but I tried extending it so that he will feel it normal…..
A day before the maybe marriage..
Morning 7:30..
My relatives have arrived from to my place..i pray to God…Take my mobile..see his message:
“I don’t like this marriage”
Next one
“convey it to your father”
I got shaken completely and dint know what to do..i called him..he dint pick up…
Next sms
“couldn’t pick up the call”
I messaged
“please give me one more chance”
He ordered
“no convey it first to your father”
I told my sister and cried..told my mom and dad…..mom cried…..
Then dad got really angry…all my relatives and dad tried calling him but that indecent ..disrespectful..insensitive fellow wouldn’t pickup the call…..
After almost 2 hours I got sms..
“I couldn’t forget what your father said: money minded people”
I GOT TERRIBLY ANGRY WITH THAT CHEAT..and switched off my mobile….
My dad told…even if they say yes for marriage I would definitely say no..I cant give my gal into the hands of a unreliable guy……..
After two hours the cheat called again and told my dad he got hurt and blah blah…..that they were ready for marriage and so on…but my dad said no…a guy who hurts her so much before marriage cant be relied upon at all…..
Then my dad cried..my mom told they had never seen him cry…..i felt so sorry for my dad…for completely believing this womanizer……But my dad told..thank god it happened before marriage…..else ur life would have been a nightmare..a living hell ….
Many people from my village came to console me…I felt as if I was dead..i cried to God and asked him…Lord why did this happen to me….y me lord ….y me…I was true to him but he was after my money…..he only wanted the car…..love was nothing before money for him……I hate him so much now……he was money minded ……..
Now I recently went to church ….The pastor told that God had saved me from a great danger..And that I will be blessed in future..The lord would bless me with a real affectionate husband…..
Moral:
Never believe guys..if they say I love u …..most importantly…
“Never compromise” ……..
Respect your parents and choose a guy who knows to respect your parents..and who is sensitive to your feelings and doesn’t say words like divorce even for a joke…
All that I pray to God is may the guy who cheated me have loads of riches or cars in his life…but let him never find real love…...let a gal also cheat him and may he suffer the same way I did…
all i pray to God is that lord give me a strong heart...and the wisdom to differentiate between right and wrong..iam unable to forgive him....Give me the heart to forgive him....Let God deal with him as it is in bible...revenge is mine....Also help me to give ears to your will..And i pray for a life partner who has a good heart really...and let me never fall for anyones smile or physical looks....most importantly lies!!!!....
sometimes i think..i saw him for the first time though i was really against it because i dint want to hurt him by saying no....but at last that heartless creature just played with all my dreams..my emotions..my parents emotion...my relatives emotions and hurt me like i could have never imagined...i regret the days i spent sleepless nights praying that he would reach his home everyday safely and nothing should hurt him because a similar incident(sort of heart attack) had happened to my friends relative before marriage....but when i think about that gals situation i feel iam in better condition that her because life long she will miss him since he was really good...but this heartless is not worth crying over....
It was a day like any other day...My father had searched a guy for me...i was not happy with his description..i mean his brought up was from a village ...The village didnt matter much..But it was the prejudice i had for the people of that village in the sense that people there get very angry for trivial things..talk loudly on phone and i have seen many wife beaters around there...also people there wear too much gold which i detested...I told my mom plainly that whoever is the guy iam going to reject him because i detest the place he comes from....I was not even ready to see his face..
But then my aunt with whom i was very close convinced me that see it is the guy who told that he will come to see you so u must not refuse to see him..But i retorted that see if i refuse him he will feel bad and if he refuses me i will feel bad..But somehow they convinced me to see him...I wore my chudidhar and didnt dress very well because i wanted him to dislike me..Also my dad and uncle convinced me that the guy looks very honest..He openly told that this is how is economic situation is and that his father drinks..I was bit afraid when i heard about the drinking part but my dad said that just because the father drinks doesnt mean the guy also drinks...Also since he had seen the sufferings his mom had undergone because of his father he would never drink and hence would not hurt his wife....With all this they convinced me and i was taken to the altar for sacrifice..
My first big mistake:
I sat before him for hardly 5 minutes..I could feel his eyes moving over me but i kept saring at his feet and took occassional glances at me...Then he smiled..It was then i made i mistake..i fell for his womanising smile and told my dad i liked him...but my dad had told him that he will tell my answer tomorrow..I prayed to God that hope he likes me and hope i had dressed better..Next day i heard from my aunt that he likes me very much ...
On the second day before the altar his parents came and they too approved of me..Then he and I talked alone for almost 10 minutes…He trapped me with his talks..He had told that he will look after me when iam in his hometown and all…He plays cricket and so on…In between these days i was flying very high..building castles on thin ice that he was the one for me and that we will be the best couple on earth and have unconditional love for each other...accept him with his faults and so on…Love is bind….veyryyy true
My second big mistake:
Then he asked my dad my number through his uncle telling that he needed it so that we could discuss about the home he was looking for us to live…..My dad gave him my number..He talked with much respect …I was very impressed and not for a second doubted his words…Like he would look for a home near my office and he would be ready to travel..and that he will eat anything that I cook and even he will help me for cooking..also he will make my trip to his hometown very enjoyable and so on..so many lies..i cant keep count of….previously I never used my mobile for and it used to be switched off mostly..neither did I know to sms fastly….Now I changed ….Even my mom used to joke that see how she has changed..
All this non stop talking and messaging became a part of my love blinded life..i concentrated less on my work..less on my family…less on my friends..he became everything to me..when he messaged me less I felt sad..when he called me I felt excited..i was a total fool while he played with my emotions…
The revealing day:
Then the day came when both our families met and we exchanged our bibles.The talk all went fine until one of his relatives started asking my dad that what were they giving me for dowry..i got bit tensed knowing how sensitive the issue was but that guy playfully suggested what about the car keys uncle…Then my dad got angry and blasted him that is this the way u ask for things and so on..his face became downcast and they lest the place soon…Meanwhile I was heartbroken ..On one side was my parents feeling and on another side was his hurt feelings..I called him so many times that day..But he never picked up the call..i messaged him quoting bible verses that everything was going to be okay but the response was still negative…I had almost lost hope that this marriage will happen..Then on the next day my mom called him but he took the phone and said he had headache and immediately cut the phone..the same thing had happened to me the same day…My mom cried and told me she felt she had been slapped by him..i really felt very bad ….But my dad hadn’t cooled..i was angry with him and dint talk with him for almost one week..then the next day my dad called his relative and told him sorry…his relative was also okay with that but he had put a word that all these things will be cared for after marriage…I was shocked on hearing that and cried within my heart….I was being mean to my parents for him….when I think about that now I feel like slapping myself now..
I called him too the previous day…he dint take ..when I begged him he took and from his voice I could find out he was angry…I thought he would reassure me with words that I mattered for him more than the car..and he was hurt by only by the words…But nooooo….he was sort of negative and said that everything lies in ur fathers hands…..i was brokennnnnn……
But once my dad had asked his relative sorry he started messaging again and all…It was then I started being afraid of him….I came face to face with the reality that he had no respect for elders at all…I started doubting my future with him..But all these things I kept within me and dint tell anyone much..
He started messaging less..calling me less…when I ask him he would say his friends said before marriage one shouldn’t call or message that much…I thought to myself …blast his friends…he can be easily led astray by his friends..the questions within me increased….late once when I called him he used to say he is tooooo busy….i used to compare his behaviour with my friend’s would be and all…Even in his busy scheduled he found time for her….But for me I needed to call him often and then only he would speak….That too the 1 hour got reduced to 2 minutes…The talk was all a matter of fact and less in affection…I hated all that and cried to God..I even prayed for him and his family everyday….He looked for a house near his office and told me I shouldn’t advice him much and that he would sleep when he came to home as he would be very tired which was very much in contrast with what he told me before…Even when we go to his native he told he would go out and I will be in home…I used to think whatever he said was in contrast with what he used to tell me before…….liarrrrrr
The painful day..
3 days before maybe marriage:
We both met in church for counseling..He came a bit late as he had come from Chennai that day only…I thought he was tired…He showed no interest in talking with me..Even in the classes he kept on yawning and scratching himself..the way a guy would behave with someone to turn them off…Even in the breaks he took no step in talking with me and was sort of sleeping..i felt bad seeing all this..i tried conversing with him but he answered a matter of fact way..Even he was very eager to leave the church…I felt bad but I thought okay mayb he his tired..Also I dint talk much when I sat between him and my dad since he there was tension between them already….
2 days before:
Morning I sent sms: good morning…no reply..thought he must be busy…
After I get message from him…I feel very excited and open the sms….its reads as:
“Don’t expect too much from me when u come here ma because I think u have too much expectations from me”
I felt the earth under me slip away….But I reassured myself that maybe he was referring to the economic situation in his home…I tried calling him,,but he dint pick up…
Then I messaged him:
“All that I expect from u is true love and I have seen it already in your eyes”
I get the most hurtful reply with the most hurting words…..
“What u see in my eyes is not true love..thats only for the sake of outside people”…I cried within me…nonone had hurt me so much in my life..but still I called him and he attended the third call only….i asked him what he meant by expectations…he said the like when I come there with expectations and don’t find much I shouldn’t feel bad …so only….he tried cutting down the conversation but I tried extending it so that he will feel it normal…..
A day before the maybe marriage..
Morning 7:30..
My relatives have arrived from to my place..i pray to God…Take my mobile..see his message:
“I don’t like this marriage”
Next one
“convey it to your father”
I got shaken completely and dint know what to do..i called him..he dint pick up…
Next sms
“couldn’t pick up the call”
I messaged
“please give me one more chance”
He ordered
“no convey it first to your father”
I told my sister and cried..told my mom and dad…..mom cried…..
Then dad got really angry…all my relatives and dad tried calling him but that indecent ..disrespectful..insensitive fellow wouldn’t pickup the call…..
After almost 2 hours I got sms..
“I couldn’t forget what your father said: money minded people”
I GOT TERRIBLY ANGRY WITH THAT CHEAT..and switched off my mobile….
My dad told…even if they say yes for marriage I would definitely say no..I cant give my gal into the hands of a unreliable guy……..
After two hours the cheat called again and told my dad he got hurt and blah blah…..that they were ready for marriage and so on…but my dad said no…a guy who hurts her so much before marriage cant be relied upon at all…..
Then my dad cried..my mom told they had never seen him cry…..i felt so sorry for my dad…for completely believing this womanizer……But my dad told..thank god it happened before marriage…..else ur life would have been a nightmare..a living hell ….
Many people from my village came to console me…I felt as if I was dead..i cried to God and asked him…Lord why did this happen to me….y me lord ….y me…I was true to him but he was after my money…..he only wanted the car…..love was nothing before money for him……I hate him so much now……he was money minded ……..
Now I recently went to church ….The pastor told that God had saved me from a great danger..And that I will be blessed in future..The lord would bless me with a real affectionate husband…..
Moral:
Never believe guys..if they say I love u …..most importantly…
“Never compromise” ……..
Respect your parents and choose a guy who knows to respect your parents..and who is sensitive to your feelings and doesn’t say words like divorce even for a joke…
All that I pray to God is may the guy who cheated me have loads of riches or cars in his life…but let him never find real love…...let a gal also cheat him and may he suffer the same way I did…
all i pray to God is that lord give me a strong heart...and the wisdom to differentiate between right and wrong..iam unable to forgive him....Give me the heart to forgive him....Let God deal with him as it is in bible...revenge is mine....Also help me to give ears to your will..And i pray for a life partner who has a good heart really...and let me never fall for anyones smile or physical looks....most importantly lies!!!!....
sometimes i think..i saw him for the first time though i was really against it because i dint want to hurt him by saying no....but at last that heartless creature just played with all my dreams..my emotions..my parents emotion...my relatives emotions and hurt me like i could have never imagined...i regret the days i spent sleepless nights praying that he would reach his home everyday safely and nothing should hurt him because a similar incident(sort of heart attack) had happened to my friends relative before marriage....but when i think about that gals situation i feel iam in better condition that her because life long she will miss him since he was really good...but this heartless is not worth crying over....