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My husband decided to file for a divorce. He has a lawyer, he's moved out and I had to get a lawyer too in order to protect myself. He is in the Army and has served me before he will deploy in a few months. I do not want to lose him. I have begged, cried, and I have changed a lot of my ways. I know that I was selfish some times and I was focused on Grad school. But, I am done with school and I want to support him. I want to be here for him for when he deploys. I want my marriage to work. Every day it hurts that he is gone. He has come by the house to check up on me from time to time. We have had some great conversations, have been intimate, and have even spent time at the movies. We have gotten along better than ever before. He knows that I have radically changed in order to be a more supportive wife. In the past he didn't think I could handle the Army life and I couldn't. But, since I have been more involved volunteering and have done a 360 change. Not that I am an awful person, but I know that I didn't submit to him the way that I should have and our arguments were often times out of control. Even though everything has changed- we communicate more, we are intimate, we don't argue...He still has not changed hims mind and still wants the divorce!
I want him home, but his father has paid for the entire divorce and is giving him bad advise. His father doesn't like me and has encouraged my husband to go through with the divorce. My husband sees divorce so often in the military, I fear that he thinks it is normal. We don't have any kids either and I have wanted some so bad. We were supposed to start trying before this happened. I do not know what to do. I have contested the divorce and have not signed the papers. But it is a "no fault" divorce so I think it may go through regardless of what I do. I was told that it is hard to fight a "no fault" divorce in court. No matter how far along we are with lawyers and what not, I want him home and I want to save my marriage. I am living near him only because I want to save my marriage and I do not want to leave or move to another city to start all over again. He is currently living somewhere in town and will not even disclose where he is living. All of this has been so difficult, his heart is hardened and he is very logical. He is the type that is too logical for God. But, I still have prayed every second of the day for restoration and for God to protect my husband from the enemy and the negative influences around him that keep encouraging him to divorce me. I pray to Father God to help my husband to see me as a changed person and see me through God's eyes. I pray for trust to be restored in my marriage. There was no infidelity. There was just arguments over our career paths and a lot of stress from his job. So, I feel our marriage is worth saving and divorce is not the answer.
I know that the Lord gives us free will, so my husband is able to harden his heart and divorce me. He has that right. But, God has raised the dead and made the blind see. I can only pray that our Heavenly Father can resurrect my marriage from the dead and bring my husband back home to me.
In Jesus Name,
Amen-
S. Lee
Anyone that prays for me I thank you in advance. I could use prayer warriors out there. Please pray for us.
I want him home, but his father has paid for the entire divorce and is giving him bad advise. His father doesn't like me and has encouraged my husband to go through with the divorce. My husband sees divorce so often in the military, I fear that he thinks it is normal. We don't have any kids either and I have wanted some so bad. We were supposed to start trying before this happened. I do not know what to do. I have contested the divorce and have not signed the papers. But it is a "no fault" divorce so I think it may go through regardless of what I do. I was told that it is hard to fight a "no fault" divorce in court. No matter how far along we are with lawyers and what not, I want him home and I want to save my marriage. I am living near him only because I want to save my marriage and I do not want to leave or move to another city to start all over again. He is currently living somewhere in town and will not even disclose where he is living. All of this has been so difficult, his heart is hardened and he is very logical. He is the type that is too logical for God. But, I still have prayed every second of the day for restoration and for God to protect my husband from the enemy and the negative influences around him that keep encouraging him to divorce me. I pray to Father God to help my husband to see me as a changed person and see me through God's eyes. I pray for trust to be restored in my marriage. There was no infidelity. There was just arguments over our career paths and a lot of stress from his job. So, I feel our marriage is worth saving and divorce is not the answer.
I know that the Lord gives us free will, so my husband is able to harden his heart and divorce me. He has that right. But, God has raised the dead and made the blind see. I can only pray that our Heavenly Father can resurrect my marriage from the dead and bring my husband back home to me.
In Jesus Name,
Amen-
S. Lee
Anyone that prays for me I thank you in advance. I could use prayer warriors out there. Please pray for us.