Hy god bless you all. My name is David and Im from switzerland, and 17 years old.I had strong classic christian parents. We had a great connection together. In my country is that classic. But I have a question to all parents here. In my family we have rules. Ive these rules get broken they punished me. Its not often but if I make a big mistake, then I get a spanking by my mother.Last day I come home 5hours to late... My dad and my mom where more than angry. My dad say the bible and good say that we have to prevent the rules we make. But i was so stressed out, I say to him idiot. I was a hig mistake and I pray for sorry. Normaly I dont say things like that. My mom took me over her knees and spank me bare. But I am 17? My question tot the parents is, was that right? What would you do with your kids in this kind of situation? Hope for a good answer.
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David,
1.) You know the rules and you know the consequences of them. I would be mortified if I were 17 and had my parents spank me like a 2 year old!!
2.)You know its wrong to disrespect your parents. Calling your dad an idiot--very bad idea on your part. I think your mother was correct in punishing you, BUT she should have grounded you instead of spanking you. You're a young man now. Thats a little too old to make a child drop his pants for all to see.
3.) You need to apologize to your parents. You know you did wrong and you need to own up to that. If you dont wanna get spanked, dont intentionally break the rules!! I'm sorry but you essentially brought this upon yourself. You have 2 options here. You can either move out, or tell your parents your too old for a spanking, and ask to be grounded instead. You do the crime, you do the time.
1.) You know the rules and you know the consequences of them. I would be mortified if I were 17 and had my parents spank me like a 2 year old!!
2.)You know its wrong to disrespect your parents. Calling your dad an idiot--very bad idea on your part. I think your mother was correct in punishing you, BUT she should have grounded you instead of spanking you. You're a young man now. Thats a little too old to make a child drop his pants for all to see.
3.) You need to apologize to your parents. You know you did wrong and you need to own up to that. If you dont wanna get spanked, dont intentionally break the rules!! I'm sorry but you essentially brought this upon yourself. You have 2 options here. You can either move out, or tell your parents your too old for a spanking, and ask to be grounded instead.
You do the crime, you do the time. 
How you decide to react to this is very important. You can feel absolutely wronged and decide to rebel against all your parents gave you of love and care---you could make that choice. It would lead to a lot of heart aches and taking wrong roads ahead.
You can decide that this is their way of showing you a deep love and care for you, and you will handle it in a adult way even if you were treated as a child. An adult would reason with them and not lose his cool, like you did when you called your Dad an idiot. An adult would say he is sorry for that.
You are a very lucky kid. Lots of parents now just don't care what their kids do, there is no guidance. I can remember being in trouble and needed help desperately one night when I was a teen, I'd of given anything for parents to care.
It is really hard for a parent at your age. After you have been a parent to a child to go to being a parent of an adult is quite a learning step to take. One of my kids sat me down and made me decide how I was going to handle it, but she started training me early. She announced in seventh grade that she was a democrat. I asked her why, and she said it was because I was a republican and she had to work through being a democrat until she knew she was deciding for herself and not just following me.
You and your parents have long learning steps to take as you become completely adult and your relationship becomes more of a friend to friend relationship, with special respect for them and they with special love for you. Talking with love involved helps, but "idiot" kind of talk is when you go back to being a child.
You can decide that this is their way of showing you a deep love and care for you, and you will handle it in a adult way even if you were treated as a child. An adult would reason with them and not lose his cool, like you did when you called your Dad an idiot. An adult would say he is sorry for that.
You are a very lucky kid. Lots of parents now just don't care what their kids do, there is no guidance. I can remember being in trouble and needed help desperately one night when I was a teen, I'd of given anything for parents to care.
It is really hard for a parent at your age. After you have been a parent to a child to go to being a parent of an adult is quite a learning step to take. One of my kids sat me down and made me decide how I was going to handle it, but she started training me early. She announced in seventh grade that she was a democrat. I asked her why, and she said it was because I was a republican and she had to work through being a democrat until she knew she was deciding for herself and not just following me.
You and your parents have long learning steps to take as you become completely adult and your relationship becomes more of a friend to friend relationship, with special respect for them and they with special love for you. Talking with love involved helps, but "idiot" kind of talk is when you go back to being a child.
Spanking is definitely off limits for 17 year olds. Your parents are very, very OLD school.
But discipline and accepting consequences for your behaviour are still the best way to raise children that are emotionally healthy and happy and follow God.
So you broke the rules, you live in their house, you eat their food. So WHY turn up 5 hours late? There is time and enough to do that when you are not living with them.
Unless you can leave, or demonstrate this was actual abuse, then I think you need to listen to your parents. I would advise you not to break the rules. I don't know the law in Switzerland, but unless you have bruises or injuries, you are going to have difficulty proving abuse.
Praying that you can find a compromise in a difficult situation. And I am sorry you have to deal with this situation. Just put your nose to the grindstone, finish school or training and then move out. Even if that is against the rules they have set up for themselves - the traditions that have nothing to do with the Bible.
But discipline and accepting consequences for your behaviour are still the best way to raise children that are emotionally healthy and happy and follow God.
So you broke the rules, you live in their house, you eat their food. So WHY turn up 5 hours late? There is time and enough to do that when you are not living with them.
Unless you can leave, or demonstrate this was actual abuse, then I think you need to listen to your parents. I would advise you not to break the rules. I don't know the law in Switzerland, but unless you have bruises or injuries, you are going to have difficulty proving abuse.
Praying that you can find a compromise in a difficult situation. And I am sorry you have to deal with this situation. Just put your nose to the grindstone, finish school or training and then move out. Even if that is against the rules they have set up for themselves - the traditions that have nothing to do with the Bible.
Hi David, I just now came across your post...
hehe, if I in your age would say to my parents something like that, my mom would probably definitely grab the iron and push it over my mouth (she threatened me with this many times, I had hard time to learn not to sass, but rather wisely and calmly argue … as a child)
I was beaten as child and pretty much as teenager too. Mostly by my mom. By dad not, I was always his precious little girl… but actually I think I was once or twice beat by my dad too and it was crucial, if my mom wouldn’t ask him to stop, I don’t know what would be happened to me… I was too stubborn to ask for forgiveness ..
Anyway.. I have wonderful parents. Are family is really tight they love me, and I love them. Every caning and every spank which I’ve got I deserved. I proudly own it, hehe… maybe except when my mom spank because I tried to stop her from caning my sister (being younger, my sister was my big idol and model, and I couldn’t stay if something bad happened to her, so I always cried in front of closed door, while she was beaten, hehe) or in car when we travel and on the back we squab with my sister, my mom used to just randomly reaching out back with her hand, and whom she grabbed first – got hit (usually me, because I used to sit behind her … lol
Oh, happy times…
oh and our parents never beat us for something we admitted and repented in prayer.. it was safe time.. so if we manage to hide our sins until our evening praying, we were safe, hehe
If your parents loves you, everything is ok … be glad that you have family .. be blessed
hehe, if I in your age would say to my parents something like that, my mom would probably definitely grab the iron and push it over my mouth (she threatened me with this many times, I had hard time to learn not to sass, but rather wisely and calmly argue … as a child)
I was beaten as child and pretty much as teenager too. Mostly by my mom. By dad not, I was always his precious little girl… but actually I think I was once or twice beat by my dad too and it was crucial, if my mom wouldn’t ask him to stop, I don’t know what would be happened to me… I was too stubborn to ask for forgiveness ..
Anyway.. I have wonderful parents. Are family is really tight they love me, and I love them. Every caning and every spank which I’ve got I deserved. I proudly own it, hehe… maybe except when my mom spank because I tried to stop her from caning my sister (being younger, my sister was my big idol and model, and I couldn’t stay if something bad happened to her, so I always cried in front of closed door, while she was beaten, hehe) or in car when we travel and on the back we squab with my sister, my mom used to just randomly reaching out back with her hand, and whom she grabbed first – got hit (usually me, because I used to sit behind her … lol
Oh, happy times…
oh and our parents never beat us for something we admitted and repented in prayer.. it was safe time.. so if we manage to hide our sins until our evening praying, we were safe, hehe
If your parents loves you, everything is ok … be glad that you have family .. be blessed
Hello David...sometimes when our children get older and we feel we lost all influence on them... we as parents panic..and to tell the truth we wing it..now there is also the fear that something terrible has happened to you..im sure your parents love you or they wouldnt have reacted so intensely ..i do agree that to a young man that was humiliating and I dont think necessary...with my children I never felt the need for corporal punishment..oh yeah they had punishment ..but never physical...now they are respectful and kind God fearing women....ask God in your prayers to give you the words and speak to them like a man..they will respect you for it.....stay with GOD HE LOVES YOU TO...PEACE
Ps. And get in on time.... you know...lol
Ps. And get in on time.... you know...lol