Need advice badly.

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Waukeganman1234

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Thank you all for the great advice and info. going to leave it in god's hands and pray and stay optimistic.
 
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AbwHJA

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The bible says not to give the devil a foot hold. The bible also says woman are the weaker vessel. I believe most strong marriages of spiritually strong husbands. I was going to bible study, reading the bible day and night, going to very church service I could. But I was still proud not to see and obey Gods Word that men are the head of the woman. I look back now and realize some
how my husband was actually more spiritually strong against a lot more temptations and bad ways of thinking than I was. I share this because I didn't start changing till he started praying for me. And since he was praying for me he was humbling himself before God and changing than I began to change. I don't think his prayers were hindered anymore.


7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
 
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persontalkto

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Bring her the flowers and dance with her, if you are not good, offer to practice
 
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adamrobertk

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Hello fella. My marriage of 5 years ended last year and the divorce is due to be finalised over the next few weeks. I've looked back on a lot of the mistakes and things that caused our marriage to fail. This may not be ideal for your situation but I'll share some of the reasons why i believe our marriage failed.
When we got married i dedicated myself to my wife and we realised our friendship group dwindled. Early years this was no issues. However this really became an issue after 3-4 years. We had no couples we could socialise with and actually enjoy time with. We both also had no us time. Time with the guys would have allowed me to blow off a bit of steam and have fun. By spending all of our time with each other it became easier to get into a rut. We did the same activities each day and there was no variance. Also whenever we needed to blow off steam, it was to each other rather which led to more arguments. Also i think there is something special about spending time with other couples which we never did.
Our other issue was routine. Routine became a killer for us. After a while the days, weeks became routine. We did the same stuff every day and week. There was no invention. No spark on either side to change things up. We became complacent. I remember about 2 months before it ended we went for a walk. Something completely different would you believe. We went for a walk to a store to get the stuff to make a Sunday lunch and ended up taking a detour through some country side. We had so much fun it really briefly brought us closer together. But that was once in 6 months. When we first got married, at least once a month. Going for walks, trying new recipes in the kitchen and cooking together, cycling together, hell she even came to soccer games with me early on.
Marriage is a difficult thing. At times it can be all about what you are doing for each other and not what you are doing together which to be honest drove a wedge between us. We began to resent each other because i was doing all this stuff for her she was giving nothing back or she was doing all this stuff for me but not doing it with me.
 
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