Need prayers for my marriage!!

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PlowWoman

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Jeve DO NOT GIVE UP. You keep on moving forward being the husband and father God directs you to be in the Bible. I know I need to get the verses for you and I will but having just seen this I wanted you to know it is never too late. You hold true to God and treat your wife with kindness. I would recommend doing your best not to argue with her. Do not be fake but do your best to make home a pleasant place, a haven, as it should be for all members of a family.

Satan is attacking your marriage full force but God is greater than Satan and He can overcome even the bleakest moments in our lives. For the time being I give this [HUG] to YOUR WIFE first then for her to pass it on to you.
 
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Jeve515

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Thank you so much it really means alot knowing u and everyone else is hoping and prayingfor me and my family... and I try not to argue... other then sSunday I haven't argued or raised my voice in 3 weeks... I know the enemy is trying his best cuz like I said when I feel great and my faith feels like it's growing the next day for some reason she's so angry... her best friend and the guy she's talking to introduced my wife to this guy... and they all hang out all the time... her best friend pumps them up so much and she tells her how she's so happy for her and says I think he's the right one for u.. they always talk so I know that doesn't help also... but I will continue to stay strong.. I will try my hardest not to let the enemy get to me
 
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brokenclay

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Gospel Hymns For Daily Strength
God has given you His promise
That He hears and answers prayer.
He will heed your supplication
If you cast on Him your care.

He will not withhold one blessing,
He will give you what is best.
God will answer by His Spirit,
Every one who makes request.

He can hear the great petition,
And the smallest, over there.
Unto God pray without ceasing,
He will answer every prayer.

Take to God your plans and failures,
Any time and anywhere.
No one ever goes unanswered,
For He answers every prayer.
 
TheAristocat

TheAristocat

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Jeve, I feel for you. I think this is why the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The relationship just doesn't fit. People aren't on the same page.

I think if she owes herself anything for putting up with you during your cold spell toward her she's definitely not going to owe herself anything after this. She will be paid in full. So don't expect God to shower her with blessings. And if she had not started talking to another guy you may have went off with another girl and treated her like she's treating you now. This whole situation is unnecessarily messed up, because it's all ruled by emotion and no one cares what God thinks. And I wouldn't expect a relationship to survive a storm unless it has the Rock as its foundation. That doesn't appear to be the case here. So I'm sorry for you and for your past choices and for her current choices. But I don't see a happy ending here. And it would be an honest miracle for God to intervene and save this marriage.

I think you need to see where your focus is - whether on your feelings for her or your love for God. And I think your actions should be based on your love for God. Do your best to obey him. If your marriage fails it was because of past mistakes, and that is not God's fault. He already told us what to do but you didn't do it. But you can do it from now on and he can take your grief and loneliness and transform it and fill it with purpose. So trust in him no matter what comes and do his will.
 
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Jeve515

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Aristocat I get what your saying... but I will still keep praying and having faith... right now things don't look good at all... but I know God is watching and working on us as we speak... today I don't know why but I feel good... nothing has changed between. Me and her and I'm still thinking of it but for some reason I don't feel so down and beat... we're a family and I will not let the enemy take that from me
 
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BeanieD

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! Corinthians 7:15 [SUP]15 [/SUP]But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
Don't fight her, and if she really wants out, ask her to file for the divorce, not you. Above all, Keep praying

God bless
 
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Jeve515

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Beanie I don't what it is its like I just really can't believe it's done.. I refuse to just stop trying.. I haven't spoken to her about us in a few days now I just try to talk to her as a friend... and I keep praying and I keep reading... As more time is going by her feelings are growing stronger for him I just feel like it's really done but I know that God CAN change her heart
 
TheAristocat

TheAristocat

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Jeve515 said:
Beanie I don't what it is its like I just really can't believe it's done.. I refuse to just stop trying.. I haven't spoken to her about us in a few days now I just try to talk to her as a friend... and I keep praying and I keep reading... As more time is going by her feelings are growing stronger for him I just feel like it's really done but I know that God CAN change her heart
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I hope he does step in and she turns to Christ and turns to you, forgives you and you forgive her and all is well for your family. That would be great. I'd pray for that. :)
 
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Jeve515

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Thanks alot! IV been reading this book called How God can restore your marriage... it doesn't only talk about restoring the marriage but it also talks about how to change as a better person... I feel like I am changing but I know I still have a long way to go... and I do think that she doesn't know what she's doing even tho she says she's well aware of what it is that she's doing... but he showing her the attention that I should of been showing her and he has money and a really nice car... I don't blame her for feeling the way she is cuz I did fail as a husband... she doesn't know what scripture says so I don't blame her... I do keep praying for her and I also pray for him as well
 
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brokenclay

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@TheAristocat. The last paragraph you wrote is better than any sermon or marrital advice I've heard. If those were my words I would copy and that on every post on here about this very problem. Sad to say though these hurting Christians are going through denial. They want to weary God instead of letting him heal them. Don't lose those words. Frame them for use on this site. Amen to you.
 
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